Losing my best friend...after we kissed?

[NikosamA98]

Ok, soooo I did something really, really stupid like 6 months ago. First of all, I'm gay, but at that time I still wanted to give it a try with a girl. The thing is that I had been talking and visiting my girl friend a lot (she was my best girl friend then) and I suddenly got a big crush over her; I liked her before though, but this time the crush was for real. However, and that's something I discovered later, I crushed over her personality more than over her looks, because I didn't really want to touch her boobs or anything because I simply don't get turn on by girls. But the thing is that I had that crush and I told her that I liked her and that I had never kissed a girl before (that's true, and that's the most sexual thing I've ever done with a girl) and I asked if we could kiss, and we kissed. But then she said that she was sorry, that she didn't like me and that she felt bad for doing that, and I said that it was ok. I actually thought it was ok but then I felt really bad and angry and...well...we basically stopped talking and its been like 6 months since that happened and I can't stop thinking about it because she is awesome and I love talking to her, but I fucked up and now this happened. What can I do? How do I get to talk to her again? :what:

[lemondrop]

Hmmm.. Say smth like: hi,i'm really sorry what happened and i'm wondering if you can forgive me.. Smth like this,say her that you just wanted to have a gf bcuz u wasn't sure about your sexuality and etc. Well this is what i would say

[NikosamA98]

Hmmm.. Say smth like: hi,i'm really sorry what happened and i'm wondering if you can forgive me.. Smth like this,say her that you just wanted to have a gf bcuz u wasn't sure about your sexuality and etc. Well this is what i would say

Noo, I mean, it's not like I have to beg for forgiveness. I don't think the kissing part is bad per se, and I don't even think she is angry, so asking for forgiveness would be kinda...dramatic I guess? I just want to go back to normal, like, just say "Hey, wassup? :P" but I can't just go like that when we haven't talked to each other since last year D:

Idk what to do, I don't even know if I should bring the subject of the kissing at all...maybe I should visit her and that would be it? :confused:

[lemondrop]

Noo, I mean, it's not like I have to beg for forgiveness. I don't think the kissing part is bad per se, and I don't even think she is angry, so asking for forgiveness would be kinda...dramatic I guess? I just want to go back to normal, like, just say "Hey, wassup? :P" but I can't just go like that when we haven't talked to each other since last year D:

Idk what to do, I don't even know if I should bring the subject of the kissing at all...maybe I should visit her and that would be it? :confused:

yea visit her YOLO ^.^

[ClaraWho]

Why did her feeling nothing for you back make you upset and angry, particularly, how did those emotions manifest themselves into actions?

~ Clara

[Microcosm]

NikosamA98,

So, the friendship has kind of hit a slump? In that case, you're going to have to gradually build it back up until both you and her feel more comfortable about talking about the kiss. Start with casual bullshit conversations or something. Then, ask her about more important things happening in her life. Just sort of let things roll like that and then start occasionally talking about bits and pieces of your and her past together, things you two did and stuff, just general memories, not the kiss yet of course. By doing this, she might just bring up the kiss, and, if she doesn't, that's okay; because by the time you reach that point in the process, you're already mostly comfortable friends again. It will probably take about 3 weeks to a month to get to a comfortable level if you're talking to her every other day.

Hope I helped you. Best of luck!

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