Am I too crazy or what ?

[orangeyes]

Hey guys, I've been trying to date guys from dating apps for the past 8 months and I had no luck so far. Most of the guys I was talking to, ended up by saying "I don't know if I want a serious relationship right now." "I'm not really into long distance relationships." But like, what were they doing on DATING apps? Some of my friends told me that I might get attached too quickly, and yeah I am. So I tried to get less attached and be more neutral with the people I try to date. But again, still no luck so far. They basically ignore me, take years to answer, ask for nudes... Why? Why are they like that? Like he was showing interest earlier but then he stops. :what: I'm trying to show interest and be nice, but all I get is ignorance from them. Maybe they start ignoring me because they are not interested in me anymore? I feel ready for a relationship and I feel like all my efforts are for nothing. :(

So what do you guys think? Am I crazy or it is just them being jerks?

[Cadanance00]

Try not to make it look like if they meet you you're going to pressure them for a serious relationship right away. Make it like meet, get to know you, and maybe, just maybe things might work out.

[Hudor]

Cadanance001 is right.
Also don't get disheartened. You're not crazy. 99% guys you'll find on dating apps are looking for fun be it casual hookups or just plain wanking. Don't get overly attached to anyone and don't waste time talking to someone if several sexual overtones start popping up. They're probably just looking for nudes and won't reply once they're done jerking.
Dating apps give quite disappointing results imo but you probably just gotta keep on the lookout for guys who seem interesting and serious and probably things will work out with someone.

I would suggest you rather to try and get to know guys near you and find out gay guys near your place and try to avoid dating apps as such.

[lemondrop]

ppl on dating apps are usually looking not for a long rship,but just for sex that's all they care about -quick hook up. They wanna do everything fast , they're not romantic, they just need other kind of pleasure. You're not crazy - they're crazy O_o

[orangeyes]

Cadanance00 Yeah I tried to meet up with someone once just get to know eachother, and he kept saying that he doesn't have a ride :(

Hudor You're right, someone I met online did that, he kept sending his junk and he was waiting for me to compliment it and then he stopped talking to me -.- (I didn't send any btw) and Yeah I should try to find someone closer, I know some gay guys in my town.. But none of them attract me :[

lemondrop I completely agree, but I remember when I started using dating apps I met someone HE started talking to me, (we lived quite far from eachother, 2 hours) and he was super nice and romantic for about 2 months. I got attached, even though we never met in real life. In the end, he ditched me with the reason that he didn't want a relationship... But why did he started talking to me romantically and then say that he didn't wanted a relationship.. What? Maybe he wanted to meet and have sex but then he saw that it won't be possible..because I live far from him lol.

[Body odah Man]

Hey guys, I've been trying to date guys from dating apps for the past 8 months and I had no luck so far. Most of the guys I was talking to, ended up by saying "I don't know if I want a serious relationship right now." "I'm not really into long distance relationships." But like, what were they doing on DATING apps? Some of my friends told me that I might get attached too quickly, and yeah I am. So I tried to get less attached and be more neutral with the people I try to date. But again, still no luck so far. They basically ignore me, take years to answer, ask for nudes... Why? Why are they like that? Like he was showing interest earlier but then he stops. :what: I'm trying to show interest and be nice, but all I get is ignorance from them. Maybe they start ignoring me because they are not interested in me anymore? I feel ready for a relationship and I feel like all my efforts are for nothing. :(

So what do you guys think? Am I crazy or it is just them being jerks?

Most people just want sex, not relationship and that's what they use dating apps for

[lemondrop]

be careful , there are plenty with STD's and if u catch one (hope not) you're pretty screwed. Just don't rush everything will come in time. You'll have time to taste everything - loss, happiness, hate, pleasure and etc. Try to find other side irl in school for example

[lemondrop]

Cadanance00 Yeah I tried to meet up with someone once just get to know eachother, and he kept saying that he doesn't have a ride :(

Hudor You're right, someone I met online did that, he kept sending his junk and he was waiting for me to compliment it and then he stopped talking to me -.- (I didn't send any btw) and Yeah I should try to find someone closer, I know some gay guys in my town.. But none of them attract me :[

lemondrop I completely agree, but I remember when I started using dating apps I met someone HE started talking to me, (we lived quite far from eachother, 2 hours) and he was super nice and romantic for about 2 months. I got attached, even though we never met in real life. In the end, he ditched me with the reason that he didn't want a relationship... But why did he started talking to me romantically and then say that he didn't wanted a relationship.. What? Maybe he wanted to meet and have sex but then he saw that it won't be possible..because I live far from him lol.

Well maybe he's afraid to be open with a boyfriend and he changed his mind?