Is there something wrong with me?

[iWilPower]

Hi everyone,
First of all I hope this is the right forum to post this in!

My question is as the title suggests and it is regards to sex. I've had two girlfriends in the past few years, the first girl I really liked a lot but she was very manipulative of me and it was a toxic relationship. The second girl my feelings weren't as strong with but it was better. With both of these girls I've been engaged sexually. The first girl, let's call her 'X', and I wanted to have sex but had only done oral sex really, it was also mainly to her. She had tried to give me a handjob and blowjobs but she could never make me ejaculate. It also ended up that when we tried to have sex I couldn't keep an erection. The second girl, 'Z' and I had sex and it was fine apart from again, oral sex was mainly to her. A few of my friends have been with girls and had sex fine and been able to ejaculate and whatever and enjoy it no problem. Yet I've had problems. It really affects my self esteem during sex because I feel like I'm not normal or something stupid and it really stops me from enjoying it. There's so many different things that could affect it like my anxiety but I'm really not sure. All I want to know is if people have had similar experiences to me and how to overcome it.

I apologise in advance for the long winded first paragraph!
Thank you in advance :)

[Uniquemind]

I would consult your doctor.

[Tesserax]

I agree with the guy above, you should see a doctor about it if it's really that bad. There's nothing wrong with you, don't worry, but it's certainly a problem that can and needs to be fixed by a professional

[jsands]

It may be one of those situations where because you are so nervous about it, it can effect your performance. I know just someone saying "stop being nervous" isn't going to help but finding a girl where you can go slowly and calmy with so you get relaxed about the whole sex thing will definitely help.

Sometimes it just doesn't work anyway, I know teenagers don't want to hear that but it's true.

[redrider12]

Sounds like a mix of a medical issue and anxiety. Almost nobody can go like a porn star their first time. I think that's totally normal, in every sense of the word. You don't rightly know what to expect, and the feeling of getting a handjob or head from a girl is totally different from any feeling you can give yourself.
If it's really bothering you, get medical help. I would get help regardless.

Good Luck!

[Bluebyrd]

I don't think you should see a doctor. If there's nothing wrong when you do it by yourself then there's nothing physically wrong with you and it's just anxiety or something which you'll probably get over in time.

[Zbmrnb16]

It's most likely a medical issue, but it's possible that you just either felt guilty, anxious, or you just didn't feel anything towards the other person. Protected sex is about love, and if there's no real love, then it's not going to go well.