Girls, are you into exploring sexuality?

[dreamofdante]

From my experiences, the girls in my life seem not to be interested in exploring sexual things such as blowjobs, footjobs, doggystyle, anal, etc but I am. Am I strange for this or are women also interested in exploring such things?

[Blood]

From my experiences, the girls in my life seem not to be interested in exploring sexual things such as blowjobs, footjobs, doggystyle, anal, etc but I am. Am I strange for this or are women also interested in exploring such things?


Correct me if I'm wrong, but I thought you had no sexual experiences with women?

Anyways to answer your question yes, I'm into exploring those things, although I'd be a little cautious about anal.

[dreamofdante]

Correct me if I'm wrong, but I thought you had no sexual experiences with women?

Anyways to answer your question yes, I'm into exploring those things, although I'd be a little cautious about anal.

I haven't. I haven't kissed a girl lol. I'm talking about the women I've talked to in life. I've had girl space friends lol.

Yeah I know a lot of girls are cautious about that. I can't really blame them for that to be honest.

[Sierra98]

I'm always curious about this sorta stuff.. doesn't mean I'd tell every guy I know about it though. Maybe the girls you know just don't feel comfortable enough to tell anyone but the person they might try anything "interesting" with.

[dreamofdante]

I'm always curious about this sorta stuff.. doesn't mean I'd tell every guy I know about it though. Maybe the girls you know just don't feel comfortable enough to tell anyone but the person they might try anything "interesting" with.

Fair enough. I'd like if women were open with me and feel comfortable and discussing things but I can understand why they wouldn't because of the subject.

[cherylcherylX2]

Yeah, so far most of the people I know are pretty sexually open.

Maybe it's just you, like perhaps there's something about you that puts people off?

[dreamofdante]

Yeah, so far most of the people I know are pretty sexually open.

Maybe it's just you, like perhaps there's something about you that puts people off?

Hahaha that was funny to me...Maybe it's because no girl ever sees me as boyfriend or sex material and just like a brotherly figure. So it would feel weird for them.

[PatrickV]

Ohh jack.. What else can I say..

[dreamofdante]

Ohh jack.. What else can I say..

What?

[Karkat]

I've done most of it. I'm relatively open to experimentation.

[dreamofdante]

I've done most of it. I'm relatively open to experimentation.

Well I'm sure you've made that guy(s) quite lucky.

[Karkat]

Well I'm sure you've made that guy(s) quite lucky.

Haha, he sure seems to think so

[dreamofdante]

Haha, he sure seems to think so

That's good. He is.

[Taryn98]

I think most girls are adventurous

[dreamofdante]

I think most girls are adventurous

Never would've guessed from the ones I know. That's interesting.

[Lovecraft]

From my experiences, the girls in my life seem not to be interested in exploring sexual things such as blowjobs, footjobs, doggystyle, anal, etc but I am. Am I strange for this or are women also interested in exploring such things?

You aren't strange. I've experimented with some pretty depraved shit in my sixteen short years and I plan on continuing to do so. I think a lot of girls feel shy about talking about their more kinky interests because there's such a taboo surrounding female sexuality. Even admitting that you enjoy sex as a girl can sometimes get you branded a "slut" in this weird world of ours.

[dreamofdante]

You aren't strange. I've experimented with some pretty depraved shit in my sixteen short years and I plan on continuing to do so. I think a lot of girls feel shy about talking about their more kinky interests because there's such a taboo surrounding female sexuality. Even admitting that you enjoy sex as a girl can sometimes get you branded a "slut" in this weird world of ours.

That's interesting. I know there's got to be people out there like you who like trying all that but then there's people who think it's disgusting to kiss me hence the reason I've never been kissed. The world is a strange place.

[Lovecraft]

That's interesting. I know there's got to be people out there like you who like trying all that but then there's people who think it's disgusting to kiss me hence the reason I've never been kissed. The world is a strange place.

Do you mean "disgusting to kiss you" because they aren't attracted to you, or because the idea of kissing in general disgusts them?

The world is indeed a strange place.

[dreamofdante]

Do you mean "disgusting to kiss you" because they aren't attracted to you, or because the idea of kissing in general disgusts them?

The world is indeed a strange place.

Because they find me disgusting I guess. Not the idea of kissing.

[Lovecraft]

Because they find me disgusting I guess. Not the idea of kissing.

Not to be rude, but if girls don't want to kiss you because they aren't attractive to you, that's entirely okay. They're allowed to not be attracted to you and aren't obligated to kiss you. There's nothing "wrong" with them.

It's when the idea of sexual interaction as a concept is seen as "disgusting" that things become problematic.

[dreamofdante]

Not to be rude, but if girls don't want to kiss you because they aren't attractive to you, that's entirely okay. They're allowed to not be attracted to you and aren't obligated to kiss you. There's nothing "wrong" with them.

It's when the idea of sexual interaction as a concept is seen as "disgusting" that things become problematic.

Well I'm ugly and I'm going to die a virgin and alone so I kind of expect them not to want to but there's some sick shit out there but the thought of kissing me is really abstract. I don't know. I guess it's just sad irony. Sexual interaction isn't a disgusting concept. The thought of sexual interaction with me is probably disgusting though I would imagine.

[Karkat]

Not to be rude, but if girls don't want to kiss you because they aren't attractive to you, that's entirely okay. They're allowed to not be attracted to you and aren't obligated to kiss you. There's nothing "wrong" with them.

It's when the idea of sexual interaction as a concept is seen as "disgusting" that things become problematic.

Well that's not entirely true. Some asexuals are asexual because the idea of sex is disgusting to them. They don't necessarily shame others for having it, it just doesn't appeal to them at all.

I think anti-sex AND pro-sex attitudes are problematic. It's up to the individual to decide. There are benefits of sex, people should be able to be free to express themselves sexually without judgement, and all, but at the same time, people shouldn't be forced or pressured to have sex and then be told they're "weird" if they don't want to.

[Lovecraft]

Well I'm ugly and I'm going to die a virgin and alone so I kind of expect them not to want to but there's some sick shit out there but the thought of kissing me is really abstract. I don't know. I guess it's just sad irony. Sexual interaction isn't a disgusting concept. The thought of sexual interaction with me is probably disgusting though I would imagine.

Meh. You'll find someone that doesn't find sexual interaction with you disgusting. Really, you will. You aren't irreconcilably bad looking (assuming your profile picture is you) and if you have a half decent personality, a girl will come along that wants to kiss you. I've been attracted to "ugly" men before because of their intellect and the interests we've shared, and I know I'm not the only one to feel that way.

[Lovecraft]

Well that's not entirely true. Some asexuals are asexual because the idea of sex is disgusting to them. They don't necessarily shame others for having it, it just doesn't appeal to them at all.

I think anti-sex AND pro-sex attitudes are problematic. It's up to the individual to decide. There are benefits of sex, people should be able to be free to express themselves sexually without judgement, and all, but at the same time, people shouldn't be forced or pressured to have sex and then be told they're "weird" if they don't want to.

Oh I didn't mean in the context of asexuality. I meant more if it gets to the point that you shame others for enjoying it. If sex is disgusting to you, that's fine. I should have been clearer in my initial post.

Yeah, I guess I probably sound pretty preachy of pro-sex ideals. I do agree with you, though. If individuals want to express themselves that's awesome, and if individuals don't like that particular form of expression that's awesome too. So long as the ideals don't try to inflict their beliefs upon one another, whatever makes the individual most comfortable is what they should do/believe.

[dreamofdante]

Meh. You'll find someone that doesn't find sexual interaction with you disgusting. Really, you will. You aren't irreconcilably bad looking (assuming your profile picture is you) and if you have a half decent personality, a girl will come along that wants to kiss you. I've been attracted to "ugly" men before because of their intellect and the interests we've shared, and I know I'm not the only one to feel that way.

I've come across a few who pretend to just for a little bit of affection over the internet or phone and then dump me when they find a good man. So apart from using me, I doubt anyone will ever truly be interested in me. I'm very shy and serious and I like certain things and like I said, I'm a really unattractive guy. Yes that's me in my avatar. I'm just saying, at 18 I've very rarely seen cases of women being truly attracted to me. There's always huge changes I have to make because they don't like it. Whether it be I'm serious or whatever. So no, I seriously doubt I'll ever find anyone.

[Lovecraft]

I've come across a few who pretend to just for a little bit of affection over the internet or phone and then dump me when they find a good man. So apart from using me, I doubt anyone will ever truly be interested in me. I'm very shy and serious and I like certain things and like I said, I'm a really unattractive guy. Yes that's me in my avatar. I'm just saying, at 18 I've very rarely seen cases of women being truly attracted to me. There's always huge changes I have to make because they don't like it. Whether it be I'm serious or whatever. So no, I seriously doubt I'll ever find anyone.

You're average looking, you aren't hideous. I've seen much worse. I won't sit here arguing whether you'll find someone or not because I guess I can't really say. I don't know you or your interests. All I'm saying is that I bet there's at least one woman in this world that you'll meet and that will like you.

[dreamofdante]

You're average looking, you aren't hideous. I've seen much worse. I won't sit here arguing whether you'll find someone or not because I guess I can't really say. I don't know you or your interests. All I'm saying is that I bet there's at least one woman in this world that you'll meet and that will like you.

Yeah there's really no need in arguing with someone who will be dead soon so yeah. I mainly just like filmmaking and writing and entertainment. I don't like a whole lot of other things.

[Lovecraft]

Yeah there's really no need in arguing with someone who will be dead soon so yeah. I mainly just like filmmaking and writing and entertainment. I don't like a whole lot of other things.

By that logic there's no need to argue with anyone; we'll all be dead relatively soon.

I'm going to stop bumping this thread with my posts, feel free to PM me if you want to talk about anything else.

[Karkat]

Oh I didn't mean in the context of asexuality. I meant more if it gets to the point that you shame others for enjoying it. If sex is disgusting to you, that's fine. I should have been clearer in my initial post.

Yeah, I guess I probably sound pretty preachy of pro-sex ideals. I do agree with you, though. If individuals want to express themselves that's awesome, and if individuals don't like that particular form of expression that's awesome too. So long as the ideals don't try to inflict their beliefs upon one another, whatever makes the individual most comfortable is what they should do/believe.

Ah, ok. Yeah no, I see what you mean, and I agree.

Yeah, I probably sound very pro-sex as well both in my arguments and just my general treatment of the topic of sex. Which, I'm all for sex being a beautiful thing if it's a beautiful thing to someone. It really can be a beautiful thing. But I also have asexual friends, and in a way I'm possibly grey-a myself (That's like my final decision, but it's so hard to explain, I might just give up putting a label on it. Who knows.) so I feel the need to defend those who aren't sexual as well.

[dreamofdante]

By that logic there's no need to argue with anyone; we'll all be dead relatively soon.

I'm going to stop bumping this thread with my posts, feel free to PM me if you want to talk about anything else.

Yeah but I'll be a lot sooner than others.

And I can't PM you because you need a post count of 100 to PM. You only have 22. I would if I could.

[Karkat]

Yeah but I'll be a lot sooner than others.

And I can't PM you because you need a post count of 100 to PM. You only have 22. I would if I could.

Actually, you CAN, to my knowledge she just can't respond. Either that or I read the FAQ wrong, and I'm in trouble.

[Lovecraft]

Yeah but I'll be a lot sooner than others.

And I can't PM you because you need a post count of 100 to PM. You only have 22. I would if I could.

Are you referring to suicide or something else?

Huh, didn't know. First day here, still working out the kinks.

[dreamofdante]

Actually, you CAN, to my knowledge she just can't respond. Either that or I read the FAQ wrong, and I'm in trouble.

Yeah I think you can do that but what's the point.

Are you referring to suicide or something else?

Huh, didn't know. First day here, still working out the kinks.

Yeah pretty much.

And it's okay. I was confused the first couple days here too.

[Karkat]

Yeah I think you can do that but what's the point.

Yeah, that's true. From the looks of it she'll be there in no time, haha. Took me like 24 hours. (No seriously I was on VT for the better portion of a complete day because I have no life anymore. Besides. Worth it.)

[Lovecraft]

Yeah I think you can do that but what's the point.

Yeah pretty much.

And it's okay. I was confused the first couple days here too.

Ah. I've been suicidal in the past; fucking sucks. Any particular problems making you feel this way, or just a general dissatisfaction with life?

(Look at me, still bumping the thread when I said I wouldn't. Whee.)

[dreamofdante]

Yeah, that's true. From the looks of it she'll be there in no time, haha. Took me like 24 hours. (No seriously I was on VT for the better portion of a complete day because I have no life anymore. Besides. Worth it.)

It took me a few days to get a hundred. But I really pushed for it because I wanted to.

Ah. I've been suicidal in the past; fucking sucks. Any particular problems making you feel this way, or just a general dissatisfaction with life?

(Look at me, still bumping the thread when I said I wouldn't. Whee.)

I don't see myself going anywhere in life. The career I want to pursue is so difficult to become successful in and I always wanted a girl that was into experimenting and trying new things but someone who'd really dig me. But no. I'm too ugly and boring for a girl to like me so alas I'm 18 and the only virgin of my entire group of friends. Oh well. And I've been going through a constant pile of shit since I was probably 3. So in summary, what I said above and mixed with having the shits of life.

[Karkat]

It took me a few days to get a hundred. But I really pushed for it because I wanted to.

Yeah, that's why I spent a whole friggin day on here. (I have a secret: I really just talk too much and I'm not actually all that helpful, I whine, and I have way too many problems of my own! So it wasn't hard...)

[dreamofdante]

Yeah, that's why I spent a whole friggin day on here. (I have a secret: I really just talk too much and I'm not actually all that helpful, I whine, and I have way too many problems of my own! So it wasn't hard...)

Nah you're a helpful person on here and a lot of people like you including myself. We're all glad you're here. A lot of people would consider the things I say whining. You're just shooting the breeze.

[Lovecraft]

It took me a few days to get a hundred. But I really pushed for it because I wanted to.

I don't see myself going anywhere in life. The career I want to pursue is so difficult to become successful in and I always wanted a girl that was into experimenting and trying new things but someone who'd really dig me. But no. I'm too ugly and boring for a girl to like me so alas I'm 18 and the only virgin of my entire group of friends. Oh well. And I've been going through a constant pile of shit since I was probably 3. So in summary, what I said above and mixed with having the shits of life.

Is enjoying your career not in itself success? I'd much rather make minimum wage and love every minute of it than make 100k annually and hate every minute of my boring nine-to-five desk job.

Can't really speak for the virginity aspect of it, or for the constant pile of shit. I'm sure you've heard the whole "it gets better don't do it life is worth living" shpeal before, and I don't entirely believe it, so I'll refrain from being annoying.

I will say, though, that what stopped me from being suicidal was accepting that life's meaningless nature is actually a positive thing. I would think about killing myself and then I'd think "okay, if I'm going to die anyway, let's do that thing that you always wanted to but didn't because it's dangerous/illegal/etc." Not valuing my life, in a funny sort of way, made me value my life more, because after letting go of the societal constraints I ended up finding ways to love life as a concept. I did things that were pleasurable physically (not just sex, mostly just a lot of drugs [not that I'm advocating that]) and made the only thing that mattered my satisfaction. I acted on impulse, and I felt free. Not saying this will work for you or even that it's a good idea, more trying to say that I've felt and seen and tasted incredible things since "letting go" and those sensations convinced me not to invoke seratonin syndrome and die on my bathroom floor.

TL;DR go do some things that feel really fucking good in some way, shape or form, see if it might be worth sticking around just to keep doing those things (but be careful)

[dreamofdante]

Is enjoying your career not in itself success? I'd much rather make minimum wage and love every minute of it than make 100k annually and hate every minute of my boring nine-to-five desk job.

Can't really speak for the virginity aspect of it, or for the constant pile of shit. I'm sure you've heard the whole "it gets better don't do it life is worth living" shpeal before, and I don't entirely believe it, so I'll refrain from being annoying.

I will say, though, that what stopped me from being suicidal was accepting that life's meaningless nature is actually a positive thing. I would think about killing myself and then I'd think "okay, if I'm going to die anyway, let's do that thing that you always wanted to but didn't because it's dangerous/illegal/etc." Not valuing my life, in a funny sort of way, made me value my life more, because after letting go of the societal constraints I ended up finding ways to love life as a concept. I did things that were pleasurable physically (not just sex, mostly just a lot of drugs [not that I'm advocating that]) and made the only thing that mattered my satisfaction. I acted on impulse, and I felt free. Not saying this will work for you or even that it's a good idea, more trying to say that I've felt and seen and tasted incredible things since "letting go" and those sensations convinced me not to invoke seratonin syndrome and die on my bathroom floor.

TL;DR go do some things that feel really fucking good in some way, shape or form, see if it might be worth sticking around just to keep doing those things (but be careful)

Filmmaking is hard to do without success.

I've thought it over for a very long time. Three years. Things aren't getting any better and I basically have no one who cares about me anymore. Sex was going to be an escape for me but I'm too ugly for anyone to want sex with me. Drugs aren't my thing so that won't work. I just don't see there being anything worth while sticking around for. If I had a gun, I probably would've done it long ago.

[Lovecraft]

Filmmaking is hard to do without success.

I've thought it over for a very long time. Three years. Things aren't getting any better and I basically have no one who cares about me anymore. Sex was going to be an escape for me but I'm too ugly for anyone to want sex with me. Drugs aren't my thing so that won't work. I just don't see there being anything worth while sticking around for. If I had a gun, I probably would've done it long ago.

Ever considered urban exploration, nomadic living or travel (if finances permit)? There are wondrous sensations on the world beyond sex and drugs. Then again, maybe the things that appeal to me won't appeal to you. Just thinking about all the things I don't know makes me anxious to go out and answer my questions.

[dreamofdante]

Ever considered urban exploration, nomadic living or travel (if finances permit)? There are wondrous sensations on the world beyond sex and drugs. Then again, maybe the things that appeal to me won't appeal to you. Just thinking about all the things I don't know makes me anxious to go out and answer my questions.

Not really. I never was much of a traveler. I like seeing nice spots and filming by them but it's not like I want to travel around the world. Like I said, sex and romance are the only two escapes I could honestly see getting me through this. I feel empty inside without it.

[Karkat]

Nah you're a helpful person on here and a lot of people like you including myself. We're all glad you're here. A lot of people would consider the things I say whining. You're just shooting the breeze.

(Well I guess you haven't seen my mini tirades on things yet. Heh) Eh, to be fair, I think most of us whine from time to time.

[dreamofdante]

(Well I guess you haven't seen my mini tirades on things yet. Heh) Eh, to be fair, I think most of us whine from time to time.

I haven't been on much lately. I've been contemplating suicide for about a week. Been off and on but not much. It's okay to whine from time to time. It's a way of blowing off steam.

[Karkat]

I haven't been on much lately. I've been contemplating suicide for about a week. Been off and on but not much. It's okay to whine from time to time. It's a way of blowing off steam.

I guess so. I can kind of relate to that. Except instead of suicide for me it's...Complicated. I was pretty suicidal a couple of months ago, but I've gotten a little better there.

[dreamofdante]

I guess so. I can kind of relate to that. Except instead of suicide for me it's...Complicated. I was pretty suicidal a couple of months ago, but I've gotten a little better there.

Well I'm glad you're a little better. You seem like you have plenty to live for, hun.

[Karkat]

Well I'm glad you're a little better. You seem like you have plenty to live for, hun.

I do, but I also have a lot holding me back. It's hard to deal with sometimes.

[dreamofdante]

I do, but I also have a lot holding me back. It's hard to deal with sometimes.

You deserve to live. You got a guy who loves you and I'm sure you'll have a good future.

[Nanael]

i really like to explore my sexuality :D

[dreamofdante]

i really like to explore my sexuality :D

That's good then

[Danagal]

From my experiences, the girls in my life seem not to be interested in exploring sexual things such as blowjobs, footjobs, doggystyle, anal, etc but I am. Am I strange for this or are women also interested in exploring such things?

I can only speak for me but it is the way that I am approached about trying things and by the way you asked your question I can see why they won't.

[dreamofdante]

I can only speak for me but it is the way that I am approached about trying things and by the way you asked your question I can see why they won't.

That's good to know.