what should i do?

[Waffles444]

I'm 17 and have been unsure about my sexuality since I was 13. Since I know of no gay/bi males to do it with, I recently started using an app to find men in my area to have sex with. Anyway, a few days ago I found a guy who I was supposed to meet and have sex with, I was really excited and went to meet him but I panicked last minute and cancelled. I'm not sure if I made the right decision and I'm questioning my sexuality now more than ever, I'm not sure if to go for a girl first in case this is curiosity or should I go ahead and get with a guy to figure myself out. Someone help me out.

[DoodleSnap]

Look - your sexuality isn't dictated by who you've had sex with, it's based on how you feel. Sure, experience helps you work out what you like, but you should never force yourself into positions where you uncomfortable.

You don't have to decide on a label and then restrict yourself to fit that box, just feel comfortable with whoever you're attracted to, instead of putting yourself inside a category just because that's what society encourages. You're you, so don't let anything force you to be anything else. Things will come with time, and as you live in different places, you'll end up meeting lots of different people, some who you'll be able to engage with sexually. Don't rush it all just now - Rome wasn't built in a day.

Good luck.

[ImCoolBeans]

Look - your sexuality isn't dictated by who you've had sex with, it's based on how you feel. Sure, experience helps you work out what you like, but you should never force yourself into positions where you uncomfortable.

You don't have to decide on a label and then restrict yourself to fit that box, just feel comfortable with whoever you're attracted to, instead of putting yourself inside a category just because that's what society encourages. You're you, so don't let anything force you to be anything else. Things will come with time, and as you live in different places, you'll end up meeting lots of different people, some who you'll be able to engage with sexually. Don't rush it all just now - Rome wasn't built in a day.

Good luck.

This is great advice.

Don't make put yourself in an uncomfortable situation, or force yourself to have sex with somebody you don't know just to be able to say you did it. Be careful with apps, a lot of people on those are hooking up with tons of different people and often don't know what their partners may or may not have (STIs).

[dalasalad]

I'm 17 and have been unsure about my sexuality since I was 13. Since I know of no gay/bi males to do it with, I recently started using an app to find men in my area to have sex with. Anyway, a few days ago I found a guy who I was supposed to meet and have sex with, I was really excited and went to meet him but I panicked last minute and cancelled. I'm not sure if I made the right decision and I'm questioning my sexuality now more than ever, I'm not sure if to go for a girl first in case this is curiosity or should I go ahead and get with a guy to figure myself out. Someone help me out.
You're a teen. You're bound to be curious and wondering what you are. It's you're job. I'm in the same boat as you right now. I consider myself bi becuase I don't know what I want yet. My suggestion: let it come to you later. Find someone who you care about and trust. If you feel a strong connection, it's worth a shot to pursue a relationship (if they're okay with it). Most teens are just out looking for sex and thinking that it's the answer. I believe that you should care for someone enough that you trust them with that high authority of pushing normal limits and allowing them into your deep personal life. Take my past experiences and failures and don't repeat them: don't go for sex first. People will respect and love you more if you take time to build something first. Good luck on this and whatever you decide, remember that it's your decision and no one should tell you that you're wrong.

[KingWavy]

Look - your sexuality isn't dictated by who you've had sex with, it's based on how you feel. Sure, experience helps you work out what you like, but you should never force yourself into positions where you uncomfortable.

You don't have to decide on a label and then restrict yourself to fit that box, just feel comfortable with whoever you're attracted to, instead of putting yourself inside a category just because that's what society encourages. You're you, so don't let anything force you to be anything else. Things will come with time, and as you live in different places, you'll end up meeting lots of different people, some who you'll be able to engage with sexually. Don't rush it all just now - Rome wasn't built in a day.

Good luck.

Agreed. Don't solicit yourself or else you may be doing more harm than good

[ska8er]

Good u cancelled. Find somebody that u get
to know better and then decide what to do next.
Don't get stupid-U want to get killed?

[NeuroTiger]

it's better not to seek sexual encounters over the Internet...you don't know what's waiting for you.

[Bluebyrd]

Please don't meet up with random guys from the Internet; it's really dangerous. Also, I don't think that you should have sex with someone just to say that you've done it or to work out your sexuality.

[Zachary G]

Look - your sexuality isn't dictated by who you've had sex with, it's based on how you feel. Sure, experience helps you work out what you like, but you should never force yourself into positions where you uncomfortable.

You don't have to decide on a label and then restrict yourself to fit that box, just feel comfortable with whoever you're attracted to, instead of putting yourself inside a category just because that's what society encourages. You're you, so don't let anything force you to be anything else. Things will come with time, and as you live in different places, you'll end up meeting lots of different people, some who you'll be able to engage with sexually. Don't rush it all just now - Rome wasn't built in a day.

Good luck.

I agree 100% and just be careful out there dude, people be crazy.