Chat dating

[Alien djinn]

Ok yesterday I just got a girlfriend from a chat site :metal:, but the distance and the fact that we never see each other bothers me, I mean, for you guys, can a chat relationship still be a serious relationship, even if we never see each other? And also I always wonder if she would like me "in real life", I mean people aren't the same on the internet as irl. And my last question is about cheating: like, do I really have to deprive myself from having sex for a girl that I never see ? Is watching porn considered cheating XDD ? Like I don't wanna sound like someone who only thinks about sex but I'm a man I can't just abstinate forever. What if one day I find someone irl , is it okay to leave her for that person ? Sorry if I sound dumb but I don't know how to deal with a distance relationship. :what:

[Serra]

You can webcam with her,or call her? And you can still masturbate,a lot of men in relationships do that. I don't think it's cheating,but maybe check with her about the porn,just to make sure she's ok with it.

If you're still in a relationship with her and you find someone irl,no you shouldn't leave her. It's an online relationship but it's still a relationship,and you leaving for someone else is basically cheating on her,not good to play with her feelings. If you don't love her enough to see yourself in a commited relationship with her,then don't start in the first place,imo.:)

[GothSwimmer]

Online relationships can be as real as face-to-face relationships to some people, especially as the world we live in grows increasingly online-based. I know if I was seeing a guy online and he had a girlfriend on the side I'd be very upset. That's why I'd never get in a relationship with someone over the internet. You've no idea how much of what the other person says about themselves is true.

[lemondrop]

Online relationships can be as real as face-to-face relationships to some people, especially as the world we live in grows increasingly online-based. I know if I was seeing a guy online and he had a girlfriend on the side I'd be very upset. That's why I'd never get in a relationship with someone over the internet. You've no idea how much of what the other person says about themselves is true.

Exactly, i have one friend who tell lies to people over the internet :D

[Leprous]

Ok yesterday I just got a girlfriend from a chat site :metal:, but the distance and the fact that we never see each other bothers me, I mean, for you guys, can a chat relationship still be a serious relationship, even if we never see each other? And also I always wonder if she would like me "in real life", I mean people aren't the same on the internet as irl. And my last question is about cheating: like, do I really have to deprive myself from having sex for a girl that I never see ? Is watching porn considered cheating XDD ? Like I don't wanna sound like someone who only thinks about sex but I'm a man I can't just abstinate forever. What if one day I find someone irl , is it okay to leave her for that person ? Sorry if I sound dumb but I don't know how to deal with a distance relationship. :what:

Alright, watch out. You're going to have to send allot of time talking to this girl, and it will be hard. You will have to work hard to keep it going. Online relationships can work out, but it has to come from both sides. Be sure you know her well if you want to make it work.

If you want to be loyal to her, the answer to your question about sex is yes. If you truly love her, meeting the girl in the future might be possible. As GothSwimmer said, she might not be speaking the truth here. It sounds harsh, but it's the truth. On the internet, allot of people fake who they actually are
Anyways, I wish you the best of luck with her, and I really hope your relationship works out for you two.

[Alien djinn]

That girl is definitely not a liar , she just never lies x), she's very honest and sincere, more than me. I know her we've been talking to each other for the past 3 or 4 months. The problem is me xD. I'll speak with you frankly, I told her some lies, and I don't really LOVE her , I just like her, she's cute, kind etc. My problem is that I still want to be with her but for now I'm not really ready to dedicate myself to a girl that I never see face to face, especially if one day I find someone irl.

[Leprous]

That girl is definitely not a liar , she just never lies x), she's very honest and sincere, more than me. I know her we've been talking to each other for the past 3 or 4 months. The problem is me xD. I'll speak with you frankly, I told her some lies, and I don't really LOVE her , I just like her, she's cute, kind etc. My problem is that I still want to be with her but for now I'm not really ready to dedicate myself to a girl that I never see face to face, especially if one day I find someone irl.

All I can say is you should know yourself if you're ready or not. I can't tell you to go for it or not, as that's your choice after all. Be carefull with not 'loving' her. It may happen that eventually you will not be in the mood to talk to her every day. But yeah, decide for yourself, I know you're uncertain.

If you really love her, someone irl shouldn't be the problem.

[Serra]

That girl is definitely not a liar , she just never lies x), she's very honest and sincere, more than me. I know her we've been talking to each other for the past 3 or 4 months. The problem is me xD. I'll speak with you frankly, I told her some lies, and I don't really LOVE her , I just like her, she's cute, kind etc. My problem is that I still want to be with her but for now I'm not really ready to dedicate myself to a girl that I never see face to face, especially if one day I find someone irl.

You also have to care about how she would feel about it,cause a relationship is about both of you,not just your interests. Also be careful as even irl,people may not tell the truth always. If not seeing her really bothers you,then you can meet up with her sometime.

[Uniquemind]

No.

I'd only have relationships with someone I met in person, and whom, along with myself, made effort to see me in person at least once a month.

Long distance is the best I can endure.

But I'd never start an online relationship as the exclusive means of bonding and expression, it's just not how humans were designed to socialize.

[Sha Ron]

I think you should be meeting the girl in personal. I personally don't believe in chat dating. seems fake.