Ex-Girlfriend and Friend

[FreshWheat]

So recently my 9 month girlfriend and I broke up... It was pretty much mutual in terms of how we felt about each other, so that is good. We are, however, in the same friend group so it can be a bit awkward at times.

Now about 2 weeks after we broke up, my childhood friend, Joe (not real name) asked her out. He is also in the same friend group, so he was well aware of what was happening. I really don't care about them dating or not, but I am a little hurt that he did this, especially since I have known him my whole life. I just want to know if I am being irrational about this...
Thanks in advance! -Ben

[perrymoon]

I understand about getting upset about this but honestly there is nothing you can do about it the only thing that I would say "Joe" should have done differently is wait longer than he did, maybe more like 2 months rather than just 2 weeks.

[Uniquemind]

Emotions aren't wrong to feel, it's just how you manage them and rationalize them.

This is where the "all's fair in love and war" phrase kicks in.

[Cadanance00]

Yeah, you're being irrational. I know your feelings are hurt, but you don't own her. The two of them can do what they want.

[Tesserax]

In my opinion, that was actually a dick move on his part. It seemed like he was waiting for you two to break up, like an opportunist. In the end, it's his decision but you have every right to feel hurt about it. When people break up, you don't ask them out 2 weeks after, you give them time to repair, both of them, and let them open up on their own, rather than taking advantage of an "open space".

But what you can do, I'm not sure of. Perhaps you can express your feelings to him, and tell him that it honestly hurts, but perhaps it would be better to tell her that as well. Don't come off as pushy or jealous though, just say, "look, I'm still not over it and it takes awhile to get used to that attachment getting severed, so psychologically I still feel like we're together and it hurts when that happens. I know you have the right to do what you want, but I just want you guys to keep in mind that it hurts to think about it, so please try to be discrete about it for awhile".

I'm not sure what else you could say or do, but just tell them to try and be considerate about your feelings, as it can be hard to get used to being single again. Hope this helps, good luck.

[ska8er]

It was not cool for ur friend to latch on
so soon and u should b hurt-anyone would
b but give it awhile and c how that relationship
works out-she just might come back.

Bro-even doing that-continue being friends
with him. It might work ur way later somehow.
Give it time.

[Sha Ron]

I know. Obviously it feels bad. Have your friend (Joe) ever mentioned about having a crush on her before?