Should I be in a relationship with this guy

[Heyitsjustme]

Hey everyone,
I'm new to this site, and I was looking for some advice. I really like this guy at my school and he likes me back, we have been flirting for about 3 weeks now and we have gone on a couple dates. We have been friends for about a year before this, so we know each other really well. I really enjoy talking to him, and we are both very comfortable talking and being around each other :) However there is one problem with us dating, I am in my senior year of high school and he is a junior. I am only a month older than him, but I was moved ahead a grade in elementary school. As much as I really like him, I can't help feeling kind of bad about dating him so close to the end of the school year knowing that I will be graduating really soon and going to college. I don't really know if I am making the right decision here... Any advice is greatly appreciated :)

[perrymoon]

I'm a senior as well and I have a thing with a girl from my work, I was open about it and told her how I feel about her and how I would date her but since I will be moving away in, what is it now? 4-5 months? anyway. I told her I didn't think it was a good idea to date when I knew I would move away so soon, she understood and we still have a "thing" for now but nothing committed and I'm glad I was open about it with her so it wouldn't be more difficult in the end.

[Heyitsjustme]

I'm a senior as well and I have a thing with a girl from my work, I was open about it and told her how I feel about her and how I would date her but since I will be moving away in, what is it now? 4-5 months? anyway. I told her I didn't think it was a good idea to date when I knew I would move away so soon, she understood and we still have a "thing" for now but nothing committed and I'm glad I was open about it with her so it wouldn't be more difficult in the end.

Sorry, I should have added that I am not moving out of town or anything, just leaving high school... I've decided to stay at home while I'm doing my undergraduate degree. In any case I think I need to talk to him about this

[perrymoon]

Sorry, I should have added that I am not moving out of town or anything, just leaving high school... I've decided to stay at home while I'm doing my undergraduate degree. In any case I think I need to talk to him about this

Oh okay, well still don't you want to be single in college so you can experience everything without any restrictions?

[Heyitsjustme]

Oh okay, well still don't you want to be single in college so you can experience everything without any restrictions?

Honestly I've liked this guy for a loooong time, so I want a relationship with him... But on the other hand I have no idea what college is going to be like and I don't want to lead him on you know? Maybe I'm overthinking this lol

[perrymoon]

Honestly I've liked this guy for a loooong time, so I want a relationship with him... But on the other hand I have no idea what college is going to be like and I don't want to lead him on you know? Maybe I'm overthinking this lol

I can't help with the what college is going to be like but it would also be bad if you started to date him then you wanted to be single for college then broke up with him that early too, so maybe you should just have a thing with him for now until you know what you want once you have started college got your feet wet and all that. (just a suggestion)

[Heyitsjustme]

I can't help with the what college is going to be like but it would also be bad if you started to date him then you wanted to be single for college then broke up with him that early too, so maybe you should just have a thing with him for now until you know what you want once you have started college got your feet wet and all that. (just a suggestion)

Yeah I think that is the best thing to do, I think I'm pretty lucky in that I can easily talk to him about this without feeling weird. Thanks for the advice!

[West Coast Sheriff]

Go for it. School shouldn't stop you from being happy with the guy you like. Even if you are moving you shouldn't let it stop you. Luckily you said you aren't so I see no reason to punish yourselves.

Sorry, I should have added that I am not moving out of town or anything, just leaving high school... I've decided to stay at home while I'm doing my undergraduate degree. In any case I think I need to talk to him about this

[Uniquemind]

Honestly I've liked this guy for a loooong time, so I want a relationship with him... But on the other hand I have no idea what college is going to be like and I don't want to lead him on you know? Maybe I'm overthinking this lol

It sounds to me like you want to try a relationship with him.

Since you revealed you'll continue to go to a local community college rather than a 4-year live on campus type college, I highly recommend trying a relationship.

Remember the generic advice is be single when going to college because of other opportunities.

BUT if your heart feels conflicted between generic one-size fits all advice, with a more personalized specific romantic goal, then go with your personalized specific feelings actions first.

The reality is if it doesn't work out or you find someone different, you break up and go with the new person but you cross that bridge when you come to it, no sooner and no later.