Anal fixation

[GothSwimmer]

As I'm growing up I'm finding myself anally fixated.

My majority of sexual experience is in the form of anal sex. This has led to my sexual desires almost exclusively being about anal, which I don't think is normal.

I assume this isn't healthy. Is there something I can do to get out of this rut? I'm worried I'll damage myself back there if it's the only place I give my attention to.

What are you guys finding yourselves doing in order to get away from unhealthy drives puberty is giving you?

[Beach_Blonde]

Do you have better orgasms from anal? I mean I know my sister likes it but she likes doing stuff vaginally to

[GothSwimmer]

Do you have better orgasms from anal? I mean I know my sister likes it but she likes doing stuff vaginally to


I don't know how much we're allowed to discuss about experiences, but I've never been penetrated vaginally. I've had a fair amount of sex anally. I only masturbate anally and clitorally, and I do get better orgasms through anal.

[Beach_Blonde]

I mean maybe you should try penetration vaginally...I mean switch it up. It may work.

[GothSwimmer]

I mean maybe you should try penetration vaginally...I mean switch it up. It may work.

It probably sounds silly, but I don't want to break my hymen. Not that way. :wub:

[Beach_Blonde]

I mean I get it....

[GothSwimmer]

I mean I get it....

You must be the first person who does!

[Taryn98]

When I first started having sex I was super afraid to get pregnant since I wasn't on the pill, even if the guy wore a condom so I ended up having a lot of anal sex. I really enjoyed it and never saw a problem with it. Once I got on the pill, I had a lot more vaginal sex but still enjoy anal.
I think as long as you're not rough back there, there's nothing wrong with doing anal all the time if that's what you enjoy.
Personally, I think variety is the best. I get bored if I do the same thing all the time whether it's the same type of masturbation or actual sex, so I've found that I have more fun if I change it up frequently.

[ClaraWho]

You answered your own question.

The 'hymen' is often worn away by everyday activities, rather then 'broken' it simply breaks apart over time. Chances are if you have ever been the sporty type you may not have anything left to 'break'. Even if you did it would be better for your first time if you had worn it away over time by gentle penetration.

Having said that gay men have anal sex all their lives with no issue. I would hazard about the connotations and repeating of cycles that may have developed for you though, as discussed in other threads.

Whatever you decide to do to yourself, make sure your hands are clean and don't swap back to front, though the other way is fine.

~ Clara

[litte_beautiful]

As I'm growing up I'm finding myself anally fixated.

My majority of sexual experience is in the form of anal sex. This has led to my sexual desires almost exclusively being about anal, which I don't think is normal.

I assume this isn't healthy. Is there something I can do to get out of this rut? I'm worried I'll damage myself back there if it's the only place I give my attention to.

What are you guys finding yourselves doing in order to get away from unhealthy drives puberty is giving you?

I've never had anal sex but I like stuff in my ass.
I like to feel filled ... leave it in there while I rub my clit

[Mollypop]

I don't see why you assume it's not healthy. People like what they like and as long as you aren't being rough about it you're fine. I've had plenty of anal and it's been fine. More than fine. :D

[GothSwimmer]

I don't see why you assume it's not healthy. People like what they like and as long as you aren't being rough about it you're fine. I've had plenty of anal and it's been fine. More than fine. :D

I guess it has certain negative connotations. I don't have many friends, but those I do tend to consider it "dirty" or that it'll leave me loose.

[LITTLEANGEL19]

It's not a thing I am into even during masturbating.

[GothSwimmer]

When I first started having sex I was super afraid to get pregnant since I wasn't on the pill, even if the guy wore a condom so I ended up having a lot of anal sex. I really enjoyed it and never saw a problem with it. Once I got on the pill, I had a lot more vaginal sex but still enjoy anal.
I think as long as you're not rough back there, there's nothing wrong with doing anal all the time if that's what you enjoy.
Personally, I think variety is the best. I get bored if I do the same thing all the time whether it's the same type of masturbation or actual sex, so I've found that I have more fun if I change it up frequently.

I suppose I'm pretty rough with myself back there, and could be less so. Hmm. I do see what you mean about variety though. I'm not bored with doing it, as much as I'm concerned by my doing it. I may be a little masochistic possibly.

You answered your own question.

The 'hymen' is often worn away by everyday activities, rather then 'broken' it simply breaks apart over time. Chances are if you have ever been the sporty type you may not have anything left to 'break'. Even if you did it would be better for your first time if you had worn it away over time by gentle penetration.

Having said that gay men have anal sex all their lives with no issue. I would hazard about the connotations and repeating of cycles that may have developed for you though, as discussed in other threads.

Whatever you decide to do to yourself, make sure your hands are clean and don't swap back to front, though the other way is fine.

~ Clara

It's helpful that you pop up in as many threads as you do!

I didn't even consider that gay men do it all the time. And you're right - I may be perpetuating a cycle. I'm a little trapped, as it's the main way I physically enjoy myself sexually. I need to divorce it in my mind from my previous experience though.

I'll consider what to do, hymen-wise. I suspect I'm placing too much importance on it.


I've never had anal sex but I like stuff in my ass.
I like to feel filled ... leave it in there while I rub my clit

Anal sex itself is definitely a different feeling to anal masturbation, bit I expect if you like to fill yourself you'll enjoy it. Just be safe!

It's not a thing I am into even during masturbating.

It's funny how we all develop our own preferences. May I ask why you're not into it?

[lenka11]

i néver had anal sex, but i masturbate anally a lot :) exactly i do it every time i masturbate normally :) som like every day and no problem :)

[GothSwimmer]

i néver had anal sex, but i masturbate anally a lot :) exactly i do it every time i masturbate normally :) som like every day and no problem :)


Thank you! That makes me feel far less weird.

[Brit4love]

I've never done anal or master bated analy......sort of makes me nervous. What's it feel like

[GothSwimmer]

I've never done anal or master bated analy......sort of makes me nervous. What's it feel like

We can't describe experiences on here, so I recommend you try it yourself and have fun :)

[Brit4love]

We can't describe experiences on here, so I recommend you try it yourself and have fun :)

Oops my bad .....and maybe I will sometime :D

[GothSwimmer]

Oops my bad .....and maybe I will sometime :D

Good! :D

[Anita_111]

I have anal sex and i masturbate anal regulary and never had any problems, as long as it doesnt hurt while u do it its good.


Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk

[GothSwimmer]

I have anal sex and i masturbate anal regulary and never had any problems, as long as it doesnt hurt while u do it its good.


Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk

Good to know :) I'm feeling a lot more confident as a result of this thread.

[stoneflowe96]

I never had anal sex, but I masturbate analy on a regular basis. I never had any problem. As long as you don't hurt yourself and you like it, is it good. Every one has own preferances

[Doro15]

I can not imagine to masturbate or even to have anal sex in my live

[Laibachd]

Nothing wrong with anal, i like it as well! Though i wouldn´t know how to help you :§

[iamsilkspectre]

Nothing wrong with it. I love anal sex and masturbation equally.

[SammyG17]

I prefer anal sex to vaginal sex, any day. I prefer anal masturbation to regular, any day. I have ever since I started doing things.

Every-body has limits. Sometimes those limits can be stretched (hah literally) but at a higher risk of causing damage like tears or punctures. Its ok to be rough, or even like a little pain. But it also depends on how your going about reaching that (since you stated in another post here). If you go from playing volleyball at 7pm, to having a soda can inside by 7:30pm, you are probably moving too quickly and actually are at risk for damage. If you are clean inside, use lots of lube, and take your time getting the body used to things, there should not be a problem of damage. I'm not saying use a soda can, but that should take at least an hour of prep work, if not more. (And really, the can would be too smooth and you could easily lose it. Don't ever use a can or glass)

Basically, to big to fast = ouchies and problems.

In terms of doing it to much...your body would let you know. Besides stomach upset, if you ever notice any blood, or sharp pains, its time to call it quits for a bit.

Otherwise, if it is what you like, it won't hurt you. So no need to be worried.

[Cangirl]

yeah i like anal now but it has to be done slow and lube and let me get used to it. I'm kinda new to it but i do anal masturbate sometimes to. I do like that its different and also feels more like intense if thats the word. I know sis and some of my friends have tried it and like it and some havent so its not for everybody.

[litte_beautiful]

I can not imagine to masturbate or even to have anal sex in my live

Start slowly with a pen and lube. this is how i did the first time

[iamsilkspectre]

Start slowly with a pen and lube. this is how i did the first time

Sharpies are your friends :P

[litte_beautiful]

Sharpies are your friends :P

LOL how do you know ?:lol::lol::lol:

[maritza]

ive recently just started trying anal masturbation and i dnt think its bad but if u are scared its becomming a habit then mayb try not to do it for a day or 2 so u dnt hurt urself

[deepthroat_tacos]

I prefer anal sex to vaginal sex, any day. I prefer anal masturbation to regular, any day. I have ever since I started doing things.

Every-body has limits. Sometimes those limits can be stretched (hah literally) but at a higher risk of causing damage like tears or punctures. Its ok to be rough, or even like a little pain. But it also depends on how your going about reaching that (since you stated in another post here). If you go from playing volleyball at 7pm, to having a soda can inside by 7:30pm, you are probably moving too quickly and actually are at risk for damage. If you are clean inside, use lots of lube, and take your time getting the body used to things, there should not be a problem of damage. I'm not saying use a soda can, but that should take at least an hour of prep work, if not more. (And really, the can would be too smooth and you could easily lose it. Don't ever use a can or glass)

Basically, to big to fast = ouchies and problems.

In terms of doing it to much...your body would let you know. Besides stomach upset, if you ever notice any blood, or sharp pains, its time to call it quits for a bit.

Otherwise, if it is what you like, it won't hurt you. So no need to be worried.




Thank you so much for your confident post! I absolutely love the stretch as well but it is always awkward talking about it as people often judge

[Londongirl01]

I think everybody must try it anal masturbation at some point or other... I enjoy it and do it from time to time but I don't do it any where near as often as vaginal masturbation, just my preference :)

[missy_moo]

I've had anal sex quite a lot with partners but only recently got a toy to try just by myself. I know what you mean to a degree - I did nothing but anal masturbate for a few days straight and liked it, but I think I'll just save it for those special occasions.

[Jordan99]

When I first started having sex I was super afraid to get pregnant since I wasn't on the pill, even if the guy wore a condom so I ended up having a lot of anal sex. I really enjoyed it and never saw a problem with it. Once I got on the pill, I had a lot more vaginal sex but still enjoy anal.
I think as long as you're not rough back there, there's nothing wrong with doing anal all the time if that's what you enjoy.
Personally, I think variety is the best. I get bored if I do the same thing all the time whether it's the same type of masturbation or actual sex, so I've found that I have more fun if I change it up frequently.

Could not agree more!

[Ashwells9991]

i dont think there is anything wrong with it if u enjoy it. i do too

[Jennboh]

I've been like really into anal lately too.

[Xiao.Z]

This topic seem very popular. I never have anything in there so can not know enjoy or not. Idea of this seem uncomfortable. What make want to experience this? Maybe just not of adventure type. Only have real sex few time and not enjoy. Sex not idea I pursue only have intimidate for do it.

Everyone here seem enjoy sex and I want to experience as fun. How can I do this?

[GothSwimmer]

This topic seem very popular. I never have anything in there so can not know enjoy or not. Idea of this seem uncomfortable. What make want to experience this? Maybe just not of adventure type. Only have real sex few time and not enjoy. Sex not idea I pursue only have intimidate for do it.

Everyone here seem enjoy sex and I want to experience as fun. How can I do this?

Sadly we're not allowed to give advice on here, but you're right - this topic is very popular. I think it's a fine testament to how confident a lot of the girls on here are with exploring their bodies.

[LisaB]

I enjoy anal masturbating but typically only when combined with the water faucet method.

[Linda2001]

I enjoy it and am just careful to really wash my fingers or whatever I use after

[Sarah16]

You must be the first person who does!
I understand this too. That's why you don't do normal sex. Then just keep having anal. You don't break anything there. You will just maybe get more relaxed and it's easy for you. For me anal is still difficult at first. TYEN I love it.
Guys love anal. So you for sure do them a big favor. When do you want to break the hymen

[Emerald Dream]

This thread was bumped. :locked: