Should I tell my crush I like him?

[Supermeggs12]

I posted this here awhile ago, but I need to ask for advice again-

I'm probably over-analyzing the situation. I noticed whenever I talked, this guy stared at me, not in a mean way. There was a period of time where him and I kept looking at each other and smiling..
I sat across from him at a table. He said he had long arms, and I said I did too. Then he reached across the table and put his hand on my shoulder, claiming that his arms were longer. I put my hand on his shoulder, and claimed that mine were longer. Was that flirting? Eleven days later, I texted him:

Me: is this Jake?
Him: Maybe, who's asking?
Me: Ashley!! Haha.
Him: okkkkkkk and what do u want?
Him (again): okkkkkkk and what do u want?
Me: I guess wanted I to say hi?
Him: Ok?
Me: I m glad you're not some sort of creep.
Him: K.

I was sorta hurt by him responding so coldly. But he apologized later.

Him (later): Sorry if i sounded like a jerk it s just i get super defensive when people i dont know text me cuz ik my friends have given my number to random people so its like who are you what do you want.

Me: I should've asked you for your number instead of asking my friend for it. But you seemed really cool and I was nervous... so yeah.

Then we texted for a couple hours and he responded really quickly, like within seconds. Whenever I see him, he usually looks at me for a bit, but won't say anything and is very shy.

Anyways, I need to know if I should let him know that I like him. But I'm soooo afraid of being rejected...

[SkyClad33605]

If you don't tell him then you will be rejected by never trying.

It's better to just tell him and know for sure then to live in constant doubt. Also, if he's not into you then you can move on and stop wasting time.

Don't over think it, just go for it. The worst thing that can happen is he says, "no."

[Tesserax]

I think I remember commenting with some advice on this post in the past, yes.

I'm going to start by asking you how your relationship has progressed. If you two have grown closer as friends, start dropping him hints and signals, especially including physical contact (not necessarily sexual), like hug him, ruffle his hair when he's being annoying or something, etc. It might also be a good idea to have lots of eye-contact with him, that definitely helps in sending a signal.

Don't tell him straight away, and, contrary to convention, you should ask him out on a date with a movie or something, horror is a good idea. When you expect or a scary part happens, then just hide in his chest, and see how he reacts. The first girl I dated did that to me and it really helped her hook me in, and it helped us to break the ice.

It's better not to confess your love or feelings straight away, as you could very easily both get hurt and make him uncomfortable and afraid to hurt you. If you instead ease it into his mind, and allow the attraction to slowly and comfortably become mutual, you'll probably not need to actually just say you have a crush on him, you'll eventually just both understand it.

Again, good luck!

P.S. I think he likes you a little, and at the very least is considering you as a potential girlfriend, so show him that you can be a great friend, because without the friendship, to him you're just a girl :)

[Body odah Man]

I posted this here awhile ago, but I need to ask for advice again-

I'm probably over-analyzing the situation. I noticed whenever I talked, this guy stared at me, not in a mean way. There was a period of time where him and I kept looking at each other and smiling..
I sat across from him at a table. He said he had long arms, and I said I did too. Then he reached across the table and put his hand on my shoulder, claiming that his arms were longer. I put my hand on his shoulder, and claimed that mine were longer. Was that flirting? Eleven days later, I texted him:

Me: is this Jake?
Him: Maybe, who's asking?
Me: Ashley!! Haha.
Him: okkkkkkk and what do u want?
Him (again): okkkkkkk and what do u want?
Me: I guess wanted I to say hi?
Him: Ok?
Me: I m glad you're not some sort of creep.
Him: K.

I was sorta hurt by him responding so coldly. But he apologized later.

Him (later): Sorry if i sounded like a jerk it s just i get super defensive when people i dont know text me cuz ik my friends have given my number to random people so its like who are you what do you want.

Me: I should've asked you for your number instead of asking my friend for it. But you seemed really cool and I was nervous... so yeah.

Then we texted for a couple hours and he responded really quickly, like within seconds. Whenever I see him, he usually looks at me for a bit, but won't say anything and is very shy.

Anyways, I need to know if I should let him know that I like him. But I'm soooo afraid of being rejected...

Sometimes asking works, sometimes it doesn't. You might get rejected, aye, but the flipside is that he might like you back and you'll have a beautiful relationship to enjoy (side effects may include occasional fights and teaching ur boyfriend hygiene is important, like happened tween me and my former gf.). I hope things work out and that it's mutual

[GothSwimmer]

I definitely advocate asking him out. What's the worst that can happen?

[Uniquemind]

There's always the option of being really forward or seductively flirty to see how he responds too.

But those kind of moves are best done with subtlety and in private.

[GothSwimmer]

There's always the option of being really forward or seductively flirty to see how he responds too.

But those kind of moves are best done with subtlety and in private.

Indeed. I think being seductively flirty can be quite dangerous. Increased possibility of humiliating rejection if it goes wrong. At least asking plainly gets a plain response.

[Uniquemind]

Indeed. I think being seductively flirty can be quite dangerous. Increased possibility of humiliating rejection if it goes wrong. At least asking plainly gets a plain response.

It's definitely takes a more mature individual to both dial that up and tone it down. You don't have to be crass about it, if done right it comes off as really classy.

You're absolutely correct though.

But let me throw out a piece of wild advice which may or may not ring true for everyone:

Shame and humiliation are in the minds eye of the beholder.

As long as you aren't hurting someone else I don't see the harm in it.

[GothSwimmer]

It's definitely takes a more mature individual to both dial that up and tone it down. You don't have to be crass about it, if done right it comes off as really classy.

You're absolutely correct though.

But let me throw out a piece of wild advice which may or may not ring true for everyone:

Shame and humiliation are in the minds eye of the beholder.

As long as you aren't hurting someone else I don't see the harm in it.

True! But not everyone is hardy enough to take the possibility of rejection ;)

[TeenPortland]

Agree with Yan Hearn, and also...
So, From a guy's perspective, if he likes you, (which the long stares give away) then you should ABSOLUTELY go for it. Ask him if he wants to get ice cream or something very relaxed, and start the conversation light. If he engages, just maybe wish him goodnight and (really a maybe here) like touch his arm or torso or something. Text him to say you had fun, or say it to his face, and don't tell your friends if they talk a lot: it can be really embarrassing, overwhelming, and confusing if suddenly all the girls seem like they are whispering behind his back. Be gentle, be slow, and take half (or more) of the initiative if he is shy.

[Uniquemind]

Agree with Yan Hearn, and also...
So, From a guy's perspective, if he likes you, (which the long stares give away) then you should ABSOLUTELY go for it. Ask him if he wants to get ice cream or something very relaxed, and start the conversation light. If he engages, just maybe wish him goodnight and (really a maybe here) like touch his arm or torso or something. Text him to say you had fun, or say it to his face, and don't tell your friends if they talk a lot: it can be really embarrassing, overwhelming, and confusing if suddenly all the girls seem like they are whispering behind his back. Be gentle, be slow, and take half (or more) of the initiative if he is shy.

Based on the original post, he's a bold one. Not shy at all.