Should I forgive my best friend

[mcdaniels]

i was at a party last week and I didn't bring my girlfriend of 9 months or my best friend because they wouldn't have known anyone there.. I caught up with an old friend of mine who is a girl at the party and one of my friends took a snapchat of us when I wasn't expecting it.. It went up on his story. Nothing was happening we were just talking..

But my best friend screenshotted the picture and sent it to my girlfriend.. She started to go mental about everything and thought I was cheating on her.. I didn't talk to my mate for a week and he was giving out about how he didn't do anything wrong.. When in truth he nearly ended my relationship..

Can I get some responses on what I should do with the situation

[StoppingTom]

Your friend made a pretty big mistake, and it could be forgivable if he took some responsibility for it. He could argue that he can't control how your girlfriend reacts, but there was no reason to send that screenshot to her other than to elicit a reaction.

I'd cold shoulder him until he takes responsibility, or just be done with him, tbh.

[ClaraWho]

I agree he must admit SOME responsibility for what he did. Secondly, why is he trying to split you up? Does he like your girlfriend a bit too much perhaps?

In terms of her reaction, if you haven't given her prior reason to think you'd cheat, she should trust you. That's not to suggest you go angrily asking why she reacted that way, maybe she is insecure or needs reassurance. But sit down and talk about it, let her know why you wouldn't cheat and how you are always going to have female friends; so what can you do to help her be more trusting?

Good Luck

~ Clara

[mcdaniels]

Your friend made a pretty big mistake, and it could be forgivable if he took some responsibility for it. He could argue that he can't control how your girlfriend reacts, but there was no reason to send that screenshot to her other than to elicit a reaction.

I'd cold shoulder him until he takes responsibility, or just be done with him, tbh.

He's just that type of person he never thinks he's wrong.. He annoys me so much all the time but he's still my best mate.. But yeah I agree wit giving the cold shoulder as I already have to this point

[mcdaniels]

I agree he must admit SOME responsibility for what he did. Secondly, why is he trying to split you up? Does he like your girlfriend a bit too much perhaps?

In terms of her reaction, if you haven't given her prior reason to think you'd cheat, she should trust you. That's not to suggest you go angrily asking why she reacted that way, maybe she is insecure or needs reassurance. But sit down and talk about it, let her know why you wouldn't cheat and how you are always going to have female friends; so what can you do to help her be more trusting?

Good Luck

~ Clara


Yeah I don't understand, he may be jealous that he hasn't missed a girl in months and I spend more time with her or something I'm not sure..

I explained myself to her after she calmed down and she understood, it was a heat of the moment thing and we've been through so much hard times that we've helped each other through it so we're strongi N that sense.. It just really annoyed me and her that he done that

[Freckles]

It doesn't sound like he's your friend at all to do that. Maybe he was jealous of your gf. Forgiving is a choice only you can make but I know that not forgiving can be harder than forgiving. That doesn't mean you have to forget or stay friends.