I can't stop questioning my sexuality

[cyan]

I thought that I was straight when I was younger, and I always pictured myself marrying a guy. I didn't even really know that being gay/lesbian was a thing. Eventually, I learned that you could be gay, and by grade 6 I started finding myself staring at girls in, you know, that way. In grade 7-8 I tried to ignore it a bit... but I couldn't help feeling uncomfortably attracted when girls changed in front of me for gym, and I've always worried that girls will catch me staring at them. I'm now in grade 9, and for the past few months or so I've been seriously questioning my sexuality. I am definitely somewhat sexually attracted to the female anatomy, but I have never been in a relationship with a girl (or a guy for that matter), so I am really confused about whether or not I'm bisexual or maybe hetero-flexible? Sometimes I find girls much more attractive than guys, and I almost see sex with girls as somewhat more appealing but again, I wouldn't know which one I like more. I am only 15, so going out and having sex with both isn't an option. I truly feel that I'm not just 'curious,' I know that girls can turn me on, but I still feel attracted to guys and can't imagine myself actually marrying a girl. I guess I've just always been 'straight,' so coming to terms with maybe being bisexual is difficult. Not having been in a relationship with either doesn't help make things easier to figure out, haha. I'm just very confused, and the question is always on my mind. Advice? Anyone in a similar situation? :confused::confused::confused:

[Ainsleyshea]

well your only 15 so plenty of time to come to terms with you sexuality

[mcdaniels]

In time you will know and don't rush the outcome and be happy with your sexuality once you figure it out

[LiamC]

I thought I was bi up until about 14 when I realised that I am just gay :P One of my friends had the bi confusion thing until he was about 17-18, and then realised that he is just gay. Everything is still developing and settling within you at 15, a lot of teenagers are going to have these confusing periods, and then it will just kind of randomly click and you'll realise :)

[northy]

Confusing periods are normal. One day it will just click and you will know who you are. Don't let anyone influence who you are and who you want to be. Be yourself.

[Cadanance00]

I suggest finding a student gay-straight alliance and there you will find people you can share your thoughts with and not be treated like a freak.

There's nothing wrong with you. From what the girls I know and talk to say, you're more normal than otherwise. Sure, some girls, especially around here, would never admit to being attracted to girls, most people I know don't really care if a person is gay or not.

[SkyClad33605]

I agree with everything that was said here and will only add that sexuality isn't gay or straight or bi. It's a spectrum. And that spectrum can change or adjust throughout your life.

You are a unique and dynamic individual, not a statistic that fits in a little box :)

[DoodleSnap]

I used to be in a very similar situation to yourself: you are definitely not alone in having been confused by your sexuality at some point.
Initially, I was in the same position as you: I didn't even consider myself being anything other than straight. I assumed that the feelings I had for other guys was just me looking up to them, rather than having a crush on them. But when I was thirteen, I started to realise, like yourself, that what I was feeling was an attraction. It took me a lot of time to come to terms with it all, and my sexuality changed and shifted a lot in that time, and it still does to this day. But now, I have ended up actually preferring guys, both sexually and romantically. Now, I'm not saying you'll end up the same as myself, but what I am saying is that things can change a lot, and you shouldn't let something as small as a label confine who you are. My best advice is for you to forget labels for the time being, instead, just keep an open mind and let time and experience tell you what you like. I sometimes use bisexual to describe myself, but even that isn't quite correct. I'm just me. If it were me, I think bisexual would be the best label to use: a relationship is defined by how you feel, not your previous relationships. Of course, that's if you're desperate to use a label. But just remember: things change, do don't try to force yourself to be anything, instead, learn from yourself, and the way in which you change.

[ska8er]

I cant give u advice cause I c some of u in me.
When u find out y-please let me know.
I find girls and guys hot and Idk y.

[johndale23]

You are the only one who can define yourself. What you are experiencing now was pretty normal and i encourage you to explore more, because whatever you discover to your self, theres nothing wrong for being who you are

[Ice0724]

I am in a similar situation but the guys and the girls are flipped.

[Miss Ophelia]

I find it is easier to stop questioning and just go with whatever feels best for you.
If you stop questioning, then it suddenly becomes normal and that is easier to deal with. :)

[warbit]

Don't take this the wrong way but, I doesn't really matter!
What I mean by this is that who you love and who loves you are what matters. It doesn't matter if they are guy, girl or sheep, at the end of the day, you are you and whatever sexuality you are wont change that. If it turns out that your are into guys or girls or ducks, you will still be the same person. So don't worry about it because quite frankly, there is no point as not only are you 15 so you have ages to figure it out and knowing won't change the fact that you are you and you can be whatever you want to be. I hope this didn't sound bitchy :) and I hope this helps!!