Do I tell my brother or no?

[chessertownsend]

So my older college-aged brother is going to be getting an apartment with two of his friends. His two friends had just gotten introduced to each other but apparently their friendship has developed quickly :/

I came home to find them in my brother's room, in my brother's chair, having sex. One was going for a ride...in my brother's room, in his chair. They didn't see me cuz I got the hell outta there real quick. I don't know where my brother was.

My bro is very religious and I kinda feel like he's slightly homophobic even if he says he isn't. I'm not sure if he'll really take this news well.

Is it even right for me to say something? One of the dudes is a long-time friend of my brother and they're pretty close, even though we never had thought he was into guys. His other friend, though I just kinda met him, is super cool too and I can tell my bro freakin' loves him.

Ugh I'm conflicted:confused:

[KingWavy]

I wouldn't say anything because its not your place. You don't wanna ruin something because of this. Just see what happens and maybe his friend will confess

[eric2001]

No, don't say anything. He'll find out for himself.

[West Coast Sheriff]

I disagree with the posters above. I think you should tell him what you saw. It's part of being honest and not hiding stuff from family

[chessertownsend]

It's just making me feel sooo weird. His one friend is over a lot because he's just one street over from us and I can't look at him without picturing his ass getting pounded :/

I'm not religious like my bro is and certainly not homophobic so I don't care at all but I just feel like I'm betraying him by not telling him about this.

[Abyssal Echo]

I agree with Sheriff McGregor I think you should tell your bro what you saw and let him decide if he still wants to get an apartment with his friends.

[crazyBoyjJ]

Definitely tell your brother, it is his apartment, and if he found out the hard way it would be much harsher. So you should tell your brother.

[chessertownsend]

What do you all think of me first telling Gabe, the friend from the next street over? He's coming over after his shift is done. Should I tell him what I saw and let him decide whether he should tell my brother?

The other friend from college is going to be staying at our house along with Gabe. My bro said he wants them to "keep getting to know each other" and I'm just like "Yea I think it's working"...

[ClaraWho]

Well if he's homophobic his friends deserve to see his true colours. They deserve better than being hurt because of his irrational hate and bigotry.

~ Clara

[chessertownsend]

So I ended up telling Gabe that I saw them having sex. He was extremely apologetic and actually said he had been afraid to tell my bro because he knows how he is with that kind of stuff. I said he should tell him anyways.

So he did. He called my bro into my room and told him what I saw. I could tell my bro was very uncomfortable but wasn't angry at least. He hugged Gabe. It was the first time I'd ever seen him crying.

And apparently my bro already knew the other guy was bisexual. Maybe my bro isn't as big of a homophobe as I always thought he was?

[Bull]

I think you made a good decision and the outcome seems to be positive. Good job!

[Boyfreshx]

It's a very tricky situation. Do you know them personally? I would say speak to one of them before letting your brother know. Sometimes directly approaching the problem can be the best solution.

[Freckles]

I think you did the right thing. If they moved in together and he found out then and didn't like it it would have been harder to deal with.

[everlong]

I think you should tell him

[Brit4love]

I think you should tell him

I agree I think u should tell him as well