Guilty feeling??

[Just a Guy]

I know this question has been asked time and time again but I just would like to see if anyone has any new thoughts also I'm a little different than most guys in that I like never masturbate. Like last night was the first time in like three months. So yeah I hardly ever do it but when I do I feel really guilty the next day especially around my family. is there any advice or anything I can do to make me feel less guilty and dirty? Thanks guys

[Ratman1234]

Well when I started I felt really guilty as well. But now I don't. So I think the solution for me was to do it more.

[Bluebyrd]

I can't speak from personal experience but I imagine that doing it more will mean that you won't be as guilty because you can't be feeling guilty all the time. See what I'm sayin'?

[ska8er]

Its a natural thing-Y r u feeling dirty? U have
it in ur mind that it is not right-I know if u dont
release ur cum it will release by itself in a wet dream
or if u get really horny with a boner-just the friction
when u walk will cause u to jizz ur pants not even
saying the precum. Sooner or later u have to relieve
yourself.

[jackspeaks]

i used to feel guilty whenever i would do it but now i dont anymore. after you do it for a long time you wont feel guilty anymore

[CynicalHats]

Trust me, I felt guilty the first time too. I actually ended up talking to my dad about it because I felt so horrible about myself. He reassured me it is normal, and he said to me, "just go with the flow." Meaning, if you feel like doing it and it feels good, go for it!

Out of curiosity, how old are you? I'm guessing a bit younger?

[Just a Guy]

Trust me, I felt guilty the first time too. I actually ended up talking to my dad about it because I felt so horrible about myself. He reassured me it is normal, and he said to me, "just go with the flow." Meaning, if you feel like doing it and it feels good, go for it!

Out of curiosity, how old are you? I'm guessing a bit younger?

No I'm actually 17 but I've been feeling guilty ever since I started a few years ago and I never was able to jerk off regularly like once a day

[nnoooooooopppeee]

I think I used to feel guilty but I don't anymore. I think the guilt stopped for me once I had came (no pun intended ;)) to terms with the fact that masturbation is natural and that everybody does it.

[Gokingsgo12345]

Its normal to feel guilty. Dont worry, I was guilty when I first started, but now I enjoy it much more a few years later.

[Coolguy2068]

I know this question has been asked time and time again but I just would like to see if anyone has any new thoughts also I'm a little different than most guys in that I like never masturbate. Like last night was the first time in like three months. So yeah I hardly ever do it but when I do I feel really guilty the next day especially around my family. is there any advice or anything I can do to make me feel less guilty and dirty? Thanks guys

i think you need to examine why you feel guilty and what about the actual act makes you feel guilty. then once you've identified that, then try to associate joing with good things. think about it like this: is what i'm doing hurting anyone? am i dissapointing anyone by doing this? after you asked yourself this and you realize the answer is no maybe that will help calm your nerves a bit about the situation

[megasasuke101]

yeah i used to feel guilty in the beginning also. its perfectly normal. But its just a life experience we all go through, just remind yourself that its normal and every man you know goes through it, its totally fine, eventaully after doing it more and more it just became a normal thing and i got over it. its just biology theres nothing scary about it

[Falcons_11]

I never had any guilty feelings about masturbation. If masturbation is normal why then would anyone feel guilty about doing it? If anyone can set me straight about this, please do.

[TheLotus]

I used to feel guilty about it at times when I first started masturbating YEARS ago, which is weird because I'm not religious at all, but now I just do it and move on. No real feelings or regrets about it

[Bull]

I have never had feelings of guilt associated with masturbation or sexuality and I think that is because my family never created an atmosphere of guilt about my body. I grew up on a ranch where the sex act occurred openly between stock and my questions were always answered honestly and in age appropriate language. Evaluating the source of your guilt is important for you in overcoming the feeling when what you are doing is natural and should be pleasurable for you (probably is) and guilt free. Hope you can figure this out for your own well being.

[GoGoDiego]

I occasionally feel guilty than the past after I cum. I feel guilty when I jack off out of habit or to relieve stress

[Bull]

I occasionally feel guilty than the past after I cum. I feel guilty when I jack off out of habit or to relieve stress

Why do you feel guilty about masturbating?

[GoGoDiego]

Why do you feel guilty about masturbating?

Guilty after jacking off...
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[kyrocks03]

I felt a bit guilty when I first started doing it, but kept doing it. I think the reason I felt that way was because of thinking that I was too young for sex and for some reason, I thought what I was doing was having sex.

[RiHouse]

Don't think of it as something that anyone else needs to know about. It's just you, your dick, and you're pleasuring yourself. It's all for you, you're the only one that can judge you/

[Hermes]

I don't think there are any reason why anyone should feel guilty about masturbating but I can think of several reasons why you may feel guilty and it make help to go through them.

1. Direct Conditioning

That's a fancy way to say you that one or more previous episodes of masturabing have resulted in being told off, punished or someone has preventing you from continuing by holding your hand away from your penis etc. For most people this would not have been as a teen but much more likely as a baby or todler. Even parents who are not particularly uptight may have done this because it was much easier than trying to explain that it was fine to do it, just not "in public" to a toddler.

2. General Negativity About Sex

I felt a bit guilty when I first started doing it, but kept doing it. I think the reason I felt that way was because of thinking that I was too young for sex and for some reason, I thought what I was doing was having sex.

Whilst on the one hand sex is used to sell all kinds of stuff, others things can paint it in a negative light. It's not polite to do it in public, we are discouraged from starting too young, there are age of consent laws and age restrictions on movies containg sexual scenes and on porn (even if the latter are mostly ineffective). In some ways this can make it seem a bit like smoking and how some people view drinking - a bit naughty really but though they've given up trying to stop adults they can still try to stop teens.

There is nothing fundamentally wrong with sex, of course, but there can be consequences, i.e. pregnancy, STIs and, when the two people have a different level of emotional investment, one can go on to regret doing it so there are good reasons to do it only when you're ready to deal with that.

But for all that masturbation shares with sex it is excempt from these consequences. No-one gets pregnant, no-one catches an STIs and you don't conlude that you thought you loved yourself at the start and now you realise you don't.

So, there no age at which it is too young to be masturbating - if you're old enough to have the urge you're old enough to do it and it's a great way of learning about your sexual response.

3. The "Wasting Sperm" Argument

So you've grown up with parents telling you you should conserve resources and not waste stuff. You shouldn't use too much toothpaste or soap, you shouldn't leave taps running, you should turn off lights when you walk out of a room etc. and it seems reasonable to apply the same thinking to sperm. Or perhaps your religion appears to have something specific to say on this. So, shouldn't you save up your sperm for when you really need them?

It turns out this just isn't possible. Just like butterflys spend the greater part of their lives as caterpillars and only a brief time as a butterfly so sperm spend the greater part of their life maturing. It takes a sperm about three months from initial creation to being mature and ready for ejaculation and then, if not ejaculated it soon dies and is reabsorbed. A girls egg lives for a very short time - about 24 hours from ovulation - so a girl getting pregnant relies on the male to have plenty of sperm available at what turns out to be the right time, so his body can't start making some sperm at that momement - she'd have had two periods before they were ready - so continuous production is the only way that works.

It's like if you go to the bakers to buy bread you're not going to wait while they bake it. So the baker has to take a risk and bake bread in the hope that customers will come and buy it and accept that if they don't, or he bakes more than they buy, he'll have to throw some away because it won't keep. Sperm don't keep either, at least not for long.

Then there are wet dreams where if you don't ejaculate some other way your body does it for you, though this doesn't happen for everyone.

So, you can't "stockpile" your sperm, all you can do is decide whether, when a bunch of sperm are ready but you're not trying to get anyone pregnant, you have fun shooting them out and at the same time get some relief from being horny, or whether you forgo that pleasure for no obvious gain.

[NickS]

my friends the same way about it and I just told him if he wants that to stop he just has to accept that its a completely normal thing to do and theres no reason to feel weird about it