Feeling Guilty/Comparing with friends

[CynicalHats]

Okay so I really want to be able to be naked around my friends (not just because I'm gay, I like being open and free) and I'd also like to compare with my friends; puberty has made me very curious.

My friends are really open about this kind of stuff, but my problem is, I KNOW I'll feel guilty afterwards. Next time I jack off and relieve any sexual tension, I'll feel like crap and probably have an anxiety attack.

Before ejaculating, I'm perfectly fine. After, I feel like a wreck.

Any advice?

[Hermes]

Ok, the reason for feeling OK before ejaculating and then feeling guilty after is because being horny, due to hormones, is a very strong feeling; it temporarily suppresses the guilt and persuades you to masturbate. At climax hormones are released which cause you to cease being horny for a while (the refractory period) and then the guilt is re-exposed.

So, you need to address the root of the guilt. You didn't say so but I suspect you may be masturbating to images you recall from seeing your friends naked or fantasies based around those images and you worry that you are in some way "using" your friends by doing that. I don't think you should feel guilty about this. If you were to steal your friends possessions or say nasty things to them it would cause them some distress and there would be reason to feel guilty. Thinking about your friends while you masturbate causes no such distress; it is effectively something your friends can give you without it costing them anything.

[ska8er]

U feel guilty afterwards cause before u
jack off ur horny and on a high and after
the orgasm u crash. I think we all have a
sense of quilt afterwards to some extent.

U want to b naked among ur friends?
Have u been or is this something u think
about when u jack off?

[Bluebyrd]

I'm not really sure what to say because anxiety isn't really something that can be treated, but if you just compare and don't jerk off then surely you won't feel guilty because you said sexual tension kicks off your anxiety, right?

[Irishperson15]

If you think it will affect your friendship, don't do it. If you and your friends want to do it out of curiosity, you shouldn't feel guilty. I know that can be easier said than done.

[CynicalHats]

No no, I don't want to do it to masturbate to them, I want to do it because I'm genuinely curious.

[magicalccc]

how big are you

[Hermes]

No no, I don't want to do it to masturbate to them, I want to do it because I'm genuinely curious.

Ok, so I assumed because you brought up the masturbation and this at the same time that the two were linked. Was the masturbation instead just an example of how you get guilty about something sexual?

So, nudity isn't always about sex. We do generally only get nude in certain places but that's not because there is anything wrong with being nude per se, just to avoid offending people. In a setting where nudity is normal, such as locker rooms, or in private where the people present are comfortable with it then there is absolutely nothing wrong with it.

So when you say your friends are really open about this stuff do you mean they get hnude in front of you? if so there is no reason to feel guilty about getting nude in front of them?

[mcdaniels]

I'm in the same position as you except I'm bicurious, but I think you should just go ahead with it and the guilt will eventually pass for you

[CynicalHats]

The reason I brought up masturbation is because after I masturbate, everything sexual or even remotely sex related I've done recently brings guilt to me. So if my friends and I compare dick sizes one day, and the next day I masturbate, (not necessarily about them), I'll feel extremely guilty for what I did the previous day.

[alex67]

I agree with mcdaniels, probably the guilt will eventually pass and will get used to it to the point where it doesn't affect you that much. I think you should go on and compare with your friends ;) think about how lucky you are for having such open friends who you can trust to compare with:D

[Kevgpdx]

That's a bummer that you think you'll feel guilty. I don't think you should feel bad about being curious. But you probably shouldn't do anything that makes you uncomfortable either.

[hairy balls]

U feel guilty afterwards cause before u
jack off ur horny and on a high and after
the orgasm u crash. I think we all have a
sense of quilt afterwards to some extent.

[eagle18]

Okay so I really want to be able to be naked around my friends (not just because I'm gay, I like being open and free) and I'd also like to compare with my friends; puberty has made me very curious.

My friends are really open about this kind of stuff, but my problem is, I KNOW I'll feel guilty afterwards. Next time I jack off and relieve any sexual tension, I'll feel like crap and probably have an anxiety attack.

Before ejaculating, I'm perfectly fine. After, I feel like a wreck.

Any advice?

I love being naked and free and open around anyone, I shower naked and changed at the gym, ill change at school naked, even walk around my house and family naked. don't really know if my friends would hang out naked, though I wouldn't care if they did, itd be cool. puberty makes everyone curious.
Do you feel guilty after hanging out naked or after masturbating after hanging out naked? Your hormones let you build up and do stuff you usually wouoldnt do if you weren't horny or aroused, then after all that horniness is gone and you start feeling guilty or akward. I have it happen a few times.
The key is to know your doing nothing wrong and its natural to be curious and hangout. And if your friends don't have a problem then there should be nothing to feel guilty about. Just have to tell yourself that theres nothing bad or wrong about it

[Goat69]

This happens to me often and many mates say that they feel guilty after it as well, It must just be hormones etc