Breaking the "boy asks girl" hype

[RJH98]

I hate it.

The "hype" that boys ALWAYS have to ask girls out. I understand where it comes from but it makes no sense.

Why should it always be up to the boy to ask the girl out? I know there are girls who asks boys out too and that is great, but I hear so so so often that boys HAVE to ask the girl out and it is just nonsense.

If you like someone you ask them out, no matter if you are a boy or a girl. That's what I believe in anyway...

[Splat]

I hate it.

The "hype" that boys ALWAYS have to ask girls out. I understand where it comes from but it makes no sense.

Why should it always be up to the boy to ask the girl out? I know there are girls who asks boys out too and that is great, but I hear so so so often that boys HAVE to ask the girl out and it is just nonsense.

If you like someone you ask them out, no matter if you are a boy or a girl. That's what I believe in anyway...

Sure, I agree with you. The pressure is always on guys to make the first move (unless the girl is particularly head-strong and just gets right in. Which is probably something I would do....)

In my mind, I have come up with a few theories as to why this could be the case.

1) Going back into history, it was most likely ALWAYS the guys who asked first. In fact, I'm pretty sure any girl who didn't stay behind the curtain, all quiet etc would've probably been looked upon badly. This is back in the times when there was no gender equality- women couldn't vote, they were forced to be the 'good wife' to the husband. Nowadays, it's more accepted when girls ask guys out due to having more gender equality but I'm sure people still feel like doing things like years ago.

2) Bravery etc. Girls (apparently) want to wait and see how 'manly' their crush really is and whether he's mentally strong enough to go through the whole breaking-the-ice thing. Although there are the exception when you have those nasty girls who'll make the guy all worked up then completely shatter him.


Aaanyway, they're my thoughts. They could be comlpetely wrong but, hey. At least I tried ??

[RJH98]

Sure, I agree with you. The pressure is always on guys to make the first move (unless the girl is particularly head-strong and just gets right in. Which is probably something I would do....)

In my mind, I have come up with a few theories as to why this could be the case.

1) Going back into history, it was most likely ALWAYS the guys who asked first. In fact, I'm pretty sure any girl who didn't stay behind the curtain, all quiet etc would've probably been looked upon badly. This is back in the times when there was no gender equality- women couldn't vote, they were forced to be the 'good wife' to the husband. Nowadays, it's more accepted when girls ask guys out due to having more gender equality but I'm sure people still feel like doing things like years ago.

2) Bravery etc. Girls (apparently) want to wait and see how 'manly' their crush really is and whether he's mentally strong enough to go through the whole breaking-the-ice thing. Although there are the exception when you have those nasty girls who'll make the guy all worked up then completely shatter him.


Aaanyway, they're my thoughts. They could be comlpetely wrong but, hey. At least I tried ??

I think you're spot on. But these days when women fight for equality so hard I think this is a big part of it

[Rydar8]

2) Bravery etc. Girls (apparently) want to wait and see how 'manly' their crush really is and whether he's mentally strong enough to go through the whole breaking-the-ice thing. Although there are the exception when you have those nasty girls who'll make the guy all worked up then completely shatter him.




this is accurate too. I found out a few days ago my girlfriend was going to say no had I waited a few more days to ask her because I waited about a month bc I wasn't sure if she would say yes. I was like why didn't you ask me?

[BlackParadePixie]

If you like someone you ask them out, no matter if you are a boy or a girl. That's what I believe in anyway...
this is pretty much how I feel. But the "boy ask girl" thing doesn't bother me. I've had guys ask me out on dates...and I've asked guys to do things as well...

[ethan-s]

i think because, historically, the man is supposed to be in charge of his family.

[ClaraWho]

I agree with you, although having said that my brother has never asked a girl out in his life, but has BEEN asked over 100 or so times. That's in London though, so maybe that gender stereotype is becoming historical here now.

I imagine in more 'traditional' Christian value areas it's much more segregated gender roles the way you describe, and I certainly know of what you speak.

~ Clara

[NickTheStar]

This is not completely true. It is expected but I've been asked out by girls before.

[West Coast Sheriff]

It's somewhat annoying that girls don't do that but, that's kinda the way things are. I wouldn't really question in because while it may suck at times, there's really nothing wrong with it.

[Cadanance00]

I think I've been asked by girls more than the other way around. I even got asked to have sex the first time so I don't think it's unusual in any way.

[Bull]

i think because, historically, the man is supposed to be in charge of his family.

This is the 21st century. What was tolerated in the past does not mean it should continue to be accepted. If a girl wants to go out with a guy she should girl up and ask him out. A girl in one of my classes ask me to out for coffee after class, we dated for several months.

[SethfromMI]

I hate it.

The "hype" that boys ALWAYS have to ask girls out. I understand where it comes from but it makes no sense.

Why should it always be up to the boy to ask the girl out? I know there are girls who asks boys out too and that is great, but I hear so so so often that boys HAVE to ask the girl out and it is just nonsense.

If you like someone you ask them out, no matter if you are a boy or a girl. That's what I believe in anyway...

amen brother!

[ethan-s]

It's somewhat annoying that girls don't do that but, that's kinda the way things are. I wouldn't really question in because while it may suck at times, there's really nothing wrong with it.

Yeah that's true...