Crush on my best friend

[CreativeUsername]

So the title says it. I have a crush on one of my best friends. If things go poorly when I tell her how I feel, I still want to be friends with her. I'm sure someone else has had an experience like this, so how did it go? Do you think that asking them out and getting rejected ruins the friendship?

[Splat]

So the title says it. I have a crush on one of my best friends. If things go poorly when I tell her how I feel, I still want to be friends with her. I'm sure someone else has had an experience like this, so how did it go? Do you think that asking them out and getting rejected ruins the friendship?


No??! Why would it ruin it? Granted, you both might feel a bit awkward about it for a while after (and no, I haven't gone through this before) but assuming you guys are really good friends, there shouldn't be any reason why you'd completely break it.

[Rydar8]

me and my best friend dated for a month and a day. we broke up and its like we never dated and its great. our friendship is still very strong and our failed relationship did not affect it at all.

[ImCoolBeans]

I told a good friend of mine in high school that I had feelings for her and it didn't end up hurting our friendship at all. There is always a risk in telling someone who you're already close to about feelings you have for him/her, but if you don't do it you might regret it for a long time. I'd rather be the guy who tried and failed than the guy who always wished he had said something and missed his shot.

[ClaraWho]

Life's too short to not tell those you care about how you feel. If she had a boyfriend then she may feel the need to distance herself, but she's single Soo....

What are you waiting for? Lol. If she says no don't act all depressed, though it's okay to ask once why. Take it in your stride, shrug and say everyone likes knowing they are admired or liked don't they? And then move on like it's all good, go hang out like you normally do.

Don't be the guy who keeps bringing it up half jokily or every other day lol.

~ Clara

[Zachary G]

So the title says it. I have a crush on one of my best friends. If things go poorly when I tell her how I feel, I still want to be friends with her. I'm sure someone else has had an experience like this, so how did it go? Do you think that asking them out and getting rejected ruins the friendship?

I dont think it would ruin the friendship, but it will definitely make things awkward between you for a while. I think before you come out to her with your feelings, I think you should have a talk about youre friendship, this way you dont get hurt and she doesnt feel like shes hurting you.

[kylem1229]

I told a good friend of mine in high school that I had feelings for her and it didn't end up hurting our friendship at all. There is always a risk in telling someone who you're already close to about feelings you have for him/her, but if you don't do it you might regret it for a long time. I'd rather be the guy who tried and failed than the guy who always wished he had said something and missed his shot.

Same as Mike here. I had a great friend and asked her to prom before, and it didnt hurt are friendship. She just told me she wasnt interested in that level of frendship, but all is still well

[hesaidhesaid]

I asked my best friend out once. Eventually we dated and I lost my virginity and the whole shebang. Sometimes, you just have to give things a go. If she can't see past your guts to ask her out and immediately ends the friendship, she wasn't a friend in the first place.

Good luck. H

[kev1998]

I don't think dating or going out with your friend you ruin your friendship. It is when you decide to break off the relationship that it will get tricky. As long as the breakup is friendly then you can still be friends. I'm still really good friends with some of my ex's.

If you decide to ask you friend out and she says no then things could get wierd between you. I would hint around and maybe joke about going out before you ask to see what her feelings are.

[kyd13]

I used to have a crush on one of my really close friends. I never said anything about it, and eventually the feelings went away. So you should at least say something to her. It might be a little awkward, but that will go away

[ethan-s]

You know, I had my first crush on one of my best friends once. Looking back, if we had stayed together I might not be a virgin at this point. Just say what you think, there is nothing wrong with having a crush on your best friend.

[Supermeggs12]

It wouldn't ruin your friendship, as long as you're both mature about everything.