afraid we might go to far

[ashleigh7]

Ok so in June my family and I are taking a cruise down to Mexico. It's for my brothers high school graduation and his big send off before he head's into the ARMY. Plus my dad who is in the Army will be home for about a month. Anyways my mom told me we are doing 2 separate rooms. My mom and dad in one, and my brother and I in the other. So now I am nervously going to say we...my brother and I have kinda experiment together a little. : / It just play...I swear! We have moved so many times, 7 times in my 16 years. Anyways I am just trying to make sure our....hormones don't get the best of us and do something we aren't prepared for, ya know? Needing help on how to plan.

[Chapperz16]

Ok so in June my family and I are taking a cruise down to Mexico. It's for my brothers high school graduation and his big send off before he head's into the ARMY. Plus my dad who is in the Army will be home for about a month. Anyways my mom told me we are doing 2 separate rooms. My mom and dad in one, and my brother and I in the other. So now I am nervously going to say we...my brother and I have kinda experiment together a little. : / It just play...I swear! We have moved so many times, 7 times in my 16 years. Anyways I am just trying to make sure our....hormones don't get the best of us and do something we aren't prepared for, ya know? Needing help on how to plan.

Firstly many siblings experiment with each other especially if you move location a lot and can't build friendships with other people. I think that before you decide to experiment, lay out some ground rules I.e. say what your happy to do etc. Obviously tell him that you don't wanna do anal and only do the stuff your comfortable with.

[ClaraWho]

Not sure why the poster above brought up anal.....

In terms of 'controlling your hormones' that's down to your will power. Don't take any substance that may impair your judgement, maybe ask for your own room saying you need privacy or he does.

Have you talked to HIM about this? If not, why are you asking a bunch of strangers on the Internet?

I'm not sure what exactly you have done, but if it's out of sexual convenience and 'playing' then you really should stop. Not only have people been arrested and jailed for this if it is local law, but imagine explaining this to a future partner? On the other hand you'll have to hide who your first time doing those acts was with or lie to someone you are going to share your life with. It all could get horribly awkward, particularly between you both when you are older.

7 times in 16 years, sure. But you'd only have been looking to date/be sexual for around 2 years. That's not long at all.

At the very least be on the pill and have condoms if you know you're both weak willed.

~ Clara

[Zachary G]

Firstly many siblings experiment with each other especially if you move location a lot and can't build friendships with other people. I think that before you decide to experiment, lay out some ground rules I.e. say what your happy to do etc.

Thats the biggest point, lay down and agree on some ground rules so this way you are both on the same page. Communication is the key, so open the lines and get it out there.

[ashleigh7]

Thanks for the advice everyone : ) I appreciate your thoughts. Ya not sure how we got to doing the "back side" so fast. But that's one thing for sure that is off the table....even if I was with my dream man...who ever that may be. And yes I know it's strange and all but...long story short I am comfortable with him and he says he is with me.

[ClaraWho]

Thanks for the advice everyone : ) I appreciate your thoughts. Ya not sure how we got to doing the "back side" so fast. But that's one thing for sure that is off the table....even if I was with my dream man...who ever that may be. And yes I know it's strange and all but...long story short I am comfortable with him and he says he is with me.

You seem to be looking for a justification to continue with replies like this, rather than a way of stopping. And in terms of 'strange' please see my signature lol.:wub:

~ Clara

[ashleigh7]

You seem to be looking for a justification to continue with replies like this, rather than a way of stopping. And in terms of 'strange' please see my signature lol.:wub:

~ Clara

First off, love your name. : ) I knew a Clara, she was one of the coolest persons I knew. And you may be right....I never looked at it that way. I will try and have more of an open mind. And play devils advocate.

[LITTLEANGEL19]

You seem to be looking for a justification to continue with replies like this, rather than a way of stopping. And in terms of 'strange' please see my signature lol.:wub:

~ Clara

I see your point Clara :)

[ska8er]

Please do not have straight sex. If u must-
masturbate each other which even so is out
of the ordinary. Set some rules and try not
to let ur hormones play havoc with ur mind.
My girl and I control ourselves to mutual which
up to now satisfies us.

[ashleigh7]

You seem to be looking for a justification to continue with replies like this, rather than a way of stopping. And in terms of 'strange' please see my signature lol.:wub:

~ Clara

Oh I didn't mean anything by saying "strange". Just used it for a lack of better words. I appreciate you thoughts greatly! And I am thinking your right...just looking for someone to say it's ok...

[Beach_Blonde]

Oh I didn't mean anything by saying "strange". Just used it for a lack of better words. I appreciate you thoughts greatly! And I am thinking your right...just looking for someone to say it's ok...

Just my opinion but listen to everything Clara has to say. She is a real lifesaver and someone you can trust explicitly. And personally I know what culture says is right and wrong but sometimes you just have to follow your own heart. I leaned early on that only doing what other people think is "ok" can lead to some serious heart break

But I think you should defiantly set down some guidelines and rules. I would be willing to bet your brother is having these same thoughts right now.

[Beach_Blonde]

Please do not have straight sex. If u must-
masturbate each other which even so is out
of the ordinary. Set some rules and try not
to let ur hormones play havoc with ur mind.
My girl and I control ourselves to mutual which
up to now satisfies us.

Idk if you know this or not but it is ok to have sex. Not everybody wants to just mutual masturbate. I am happy that it works for you and your girlfriend. And that you can "control" yourself that way. But not everybody is you. Some people like having straight sex, some people like having anal and that is okay.

If you are coming from a view point that what she is asking about is wrong then I think that is a bunch of bs. I understand that the subject that we are talking about it taboo now, and that it is "wrong". But I think that the only reason it is wrong is because of society views nowadays. And personally those views could change.
I mean it wasn't always taboo, I mean everybody in the bible did it, and all the royals in the past did it too.

I think she should follow her heart and do what ever makes her happy.

[ashleigh7]

Just my opinion but listen to everything Clara has to say. She is a real lifesaver and someone you can trust explicitly. And personally I know what culture says is right and wrong but sometimes you just have to follow your own heart. I leaned early on that only doing what other people think is "ok" can lead to some serious heart break

But I think you should defiantly set down some guidelines and rules. I would be willing to bet your brother is having these same thoughts right now.

Thanks, I really like what you had to say. And ya, I am sure my brother is struggling with this to. We need to talk....it's just kinda hard to find time and place. thanks : )

[ska8er]

Idk if you know this or not but it is ok to have sex. Not everybody wants to just mutual masturbate. I am happy that it works for you and your girlfriend. And that you can "control" yourself that way. But not everybody is you. Some people like having straight sex, some people like having anal and that is okay.

If you are coming from a view point that what she is asking about is wrong then I think that is a bunch of bs. I understand that the subject that we are talking about it taboo now, and that it is "wrong". But I think that the only reason it is wrong is because of society views nowadays. And personally those views could change.
I mean it wasn't always taboo, I mean everybody in the bible did it, and all the royals in the past did it too.

I think she should follow her heart and do what ever makes her happy.

Reread her post. She said that she and her brother experimented and that when they go vacation she is going to share a room with her brother and that both of them hope their hormones don't get the best of them.

Im not against straight sex but straight sex between brother and sister is playing with fire. I don't care what they did in the bible and what is taboo- if they r blood related they r asking for trouble-if they were step siblings I wouldn't care if they did it 10 times a day.

She should Not follow her heart mainly because she is asking for advice on what to do here so she has doubts. :mad:

[Steelerfan]

So how did it go
Ok so in June my family and I are taking a cruise down to Mexico. It's for my brothers high school graduation and his big send off before he head's into the ARMY. Plus my dad who is in the Army will be home for about a month. Anyways my mom told me we are doing 2 separate rooms. My mom and dad in one, and my brother and I in the other. So now I am nervously going to say we...my brother and I have kinda experiment together a little. : / It just play...I swear! We have moved so many times, 7 times in my 16 years. Anyways I am just trying to make sure our....hormones don't get the best of us and do something we aren't prepared for, ya know? Needing help on how to plan.

[ashleigh7]

Still got a few months. : )

[shamrockgirl02]

Just do your best to be careful and try not to do anything you will regret or something that will have consequences, it sounds like your brother will be understanding of your worries if you talk about it

[ashleigh7]

Just do your best to be careful and try not to do anything you will regret or something that will have consequences, it sounds like your brother will be understanding of your worries if you talk about it

Thanks:) good advice!