does this make me gay??

[dysterian]

I'm sexually attracted to men, but I can't ever picture myself being in a relationship with one. I like girls, but I don't really check them out. I want to marry a girl and have kids, but I always look at men to get off. So getting to my point, is this just being curious? or am I gay?

[ska8er]

Since u just started puberty ur hormones r
probably playing tricks with u. Right now I think
that u r curious and confused. Give urself time and
c how u feel later in puberty. I would not say that u
r gay-I would say u r probably Bi curious.

[Elysium]

Puberty for Boys :arrow: Teen Sexuality and Gender

[zaccary]

If your only 13, dont feel pressured to put a label on yourself. Just give yourself some time, find out what you like, and dont stress about it

[mcdaniels]

Oh my god finally someone who is the exact same as me, I've been like this for about 3 years now but I wouldn't call myself gay.. I'd say no curious.. I have a girlfriend and am attracted to her sexually and all but still boys turn me on big time and I'd only watch gay porn so there's nothing wrong and class yourself hoe you want

[andrew14]

Oh my god finally someone who is the exact same as me, I've been like this for about 3 years now but I wouldn't call myself gay.. I'd say no curious.. I have a girlfriend and am attracted to her sexually and all but still boys turn me on big time and I'd only watch gay porn so there's nothing wrong and class yourself hoe you want
Mee too, always from puberty arround 12 or 13 had this feeling is like curious or idk but grils are hoy as hell, but I found somethin' is some guys that atract idk I read that hormones olay with us the problema here that im 17 now and still feeling that, I dont want to be calles gay I think this is not for me, I feel like a hetero but some times feel that atraction..

[mcdaniels]

Mee too, always from puberty arround 12 or 13 had this feeling is like curious or idk but grils are hoy as hell, but I found somethin' is some guys that atract idk I read that hormones olay with us the problema here that im 17 now and still feeling that, I dont want to be calles gay I think this is not for me, I feel like a hetero but some times feel that atraction..


Strange isn't it, I'd just carry on with what your comfortable with.. I just don't tell anyone and it works for me

[Zachary G]

I'm sexually attracted to men, but I can't ever picture myself being in a relationship with one. I like girls, but I don't really check them out. I want to marry a girl and have kids, but I always look at men to get off. So getting to my point, is this just being curious? or am I gay?

Its hard to describe what you are going through because only you know what you feel and can explain it better than most, but, to me, it sounds like you are describing a bit of bisexuality. Because of your age it could be a bit of curiosity and as time goes on things will become clearer for you and then you can decide on how you want to settle. Dont stress it, relax and enjoy it.

[DoodleSnap]

When I was your age I went through exactly the same thing, and it was very confusing, I have to admit. It took a lot of will from myself to admit that I even liked guys sexually, so kudos for accepting that.

Sexuality is a very complicated thing, as I'm sure you know, and it fluctuates a lot for each person. In my experience, I went from thinking I was straight, to thinking that I only liked guys sexually, to actually preferring guys and wanting to have a relationship with one. I'm not saying that you'll be exactly like me, but I can say that it will shift around a bit. My best advice is not to worry about labelling yourself, but to keep an open mind. Over time, as you gain experience, you'll work out who you like, and how it all works. You might grow to want relationships with guys, or you might not, but no matter what, don't let a label define you. Just be who you are, and just feel comfortable in that.

[ImCoolBeans]

When I was your age I went through exactly the same thing, and it was very confusing, I have to admit. It took a lot of will from myself to admit that I even liked guys sexually, so kudos for accepting that.

Sexuality is a very complicated thing, as I'm sure you know, and it fluctuates a lot for each person. In my experience, I went from thinking I was straight, to thinking that I only liked guys sexually, to actually preferring guys and wanting to have a relationship with one. I'm not saying that you'll be exactly like me, but I can say that it will shift around a bit. My best advice is not to worry about labelling yourself, but to keep an open mind. Over time, as you gain experience, you'll work out who you like, and how it all works. You might grow to want relationships with guys, or you might not, but no matter what, don't let a label define you. Just be who you are, and just feel comfortable in that.


This is excellent advice.

When I was around your age, and a little older, I used to worry about labeling myself and fitting into one label. As I got older I realized that my tastes and feelings change over time and I can't force myself into a rigid category, only used to describe myself to other people. The most important thing is that you're comfortable with yourself, and while finding a label can be comforting for some, it's hard to do as a young teenager seeing as you're probably going to have varied interests at times. Hormones are crazy, and influence people to feel a lot of different things during puberty. Like DoodleSnap said, don't let a label define you or run your life. Be yourself and you'll figure it all out as you get a little older and gain more experience.

[hobroff]

I was the same way, until I realized I liked boys more, there was nothing I could do to change it, and there was nothing wrong with that. I wish I went on a site like this to help sort things out.

[PinkFloyd]

As others have said, you're only 13. You shouldn't be putting labels on yourself just yet. I'd say enjoy your childhood. :)

[andrew14]

Strange isn't it, I'd just carry on with what your comfortable with.. I just don't tell anyone and it works for me

yeah! good advice:yes:

[mcdaniels]

yeah! good advice:yes:

No problem haha

[Sanchez16620]

I understand exactly how you feel and I think it's just a stage in which we're just curious

[LiamC]

I thought I was bi at 13, now I'm definitely gay and I realised that around the age of 14. I've had friends who were confused up until about 18! I think it might psychologically be a reluctance to admit you're gay, it was for me. But at 13 it's definitely hard to know what you are, and it's an age where you don't yet have to know, really. That can and will come later but you're not alone and there will be so many teenagers struggling to know what they are.