Can anyone relate?

[Irishperson15]

Ok, so. I am in numerous clubs/societies and have a part-time job etc. I get along well with people at work and they all think I'm cocky (in a fun way) and I've read in front of crowds, have good friends I can trust and all that. But in reality, I gave no self-confidence. I enjoy being alone. My idea of fun is to watch TV when everyone is asleep and eat junk food. I like to talk to my friends but if they cannot meet for whatever reason I am relieved and, almost, happy. I avoid social occasions and 'going out', but still keep up the presence that I am a sociable person. Being with people seems like a chore, being alone is more favourable. Can anyone relate to this and has anyone come through it?

[redrider12]

I am/was like that. I still prefer solidarity to others, but subconsciously wish that wasnt the case. I want friends now and want to go out with friends and have people to talk to. But the years of isolation have done a toll on my circle of friends and many of them have moved on from me. As a result, i generally learn to enjoy the peace and quiet, but I resent it

[Irishperson15]

I am/was like that. I still prefer solidarity to others, but subconsciously wish that wasnt the case. I want friends now and want to go out with friends and have people to talk to. But the years of isolation have done a toll on my circle of friends and many of them have moved on from me. As a result, i generally learn to enjoy the peace and quiet, but I resent it

It can be hard to escape from but, it is like a vicious circle. Do you try and overcome it?

[redrider12]

I try a lot. I've made a few very close friends of both genders who I associate with very well, and they are my lifeblood. I wish I had this huge web of friends and girlfriends and the whole gambit, but that's not the reality.
Peace and secularity seem like great things from the outside. I know a lot of guys at my school who are in with the "popular" crowd, who have girls on both shoulders every time they go anywhere. Those kids could have a girlfriend, hell, even sex whenever they want it. But they don't. There's a level of shallowness to that group that many people are ignorant towards. If you are happy tending to your own affairs, by all means, do it. If you prefer a few close friends, like I've found that I do, go for it. Finding those friends is a pain in the butt a lot of the time, especially coming from solidarity. But trust me. It's worth it.

[Irishperson15]

I try a lot. I've made a few very close friends of both genders who I associate with very well, and they are my lifeblood. I wish I had this huge web of friends and girlfriends and the whole gambit, but that's not the reality.
Peace and secularity seem like great things from the outside. I know a lot of guys at my school who are in with the "popular" crowd, who have girls on both shoulders every time they go anywhere. Those kids could have a girlfriend, hell, even sex whenever they want it. But they don't. There's a level of shallowness to that group that many people are ignorant towards. If you are happy tending to your own affairs, by all means, do it. If you prefer a few close friends, like I've found that I do, go for it. Finding those friends is a pain in the butt a lot of the time, especially coming from solidarity. But trust me. It's worth it.

Thanks Mark. All of what you said is very true. But it is engaging with the friends I have which is difficult. Like obviously I care for them and such, but often I would rather be alone that be with them.

[Freckles]

I know what you mean. It depends on the mood I'm in. Sometimes I want to be with my friends and sometimes I wish I was on an island all my myself. One thing that concerns me is you mentioned a few signs of possible depression. If you think you might be depressed check it out with a doctor before it gets too bad.

[Irishperson15]

I know what you mean. It depends on the mood I'm in. Sometimes I want to be with my friends and sometimes I wish I was on an island all my myself. One thing that concerns me is you mentioned a few signs of possible depression. If you think you might be depressed check it out with a doctor before it gets too bad.

Ok thanks, I'll read into it more to see!

[Bontigo Papi .]

That's totally me lol . I just keep myself to a minimum although I know many people , they ask if I have Facebook , I just say no , like , I don't even use Facebook that much lol . If people ask me to hang out with them , typical response is , "too busy" .

[Irishperson15]

That's totally me lol . I just keep myself to a minimum although I know many people , they ask if I have Facebook , I just say no , like , I don't even use Facebook that much lol . If people ask me to hang out with them , typical response is , "too busy" .

Haha yea I know what you mean. You are always "busy" at convenient times and make excuses. It isn't good but it works sometimes. Perhaps it is better to not go than go and not want to be there?

[Sanchez16620]

I know what you feel like I just try to be the best person I can be

[Bontigo Papi .]

Haha yea I know what you mean. You are always "busy" at convenient times and make excuses. It isn't good but it works sometimes. Perhaps it is better to not go than go and not want to be there?

Haha , exactly .

[NickTheStar]

I am the exact opposite I crave socialization. But I just think you sound like someone who enjoys being by themself. Nothing wrong with that.