Breakup!

[Cadanance00]

OK. So my gf's friend came home on spring break from college and they had sex. She did that over christmas, too, but she talked to me about it beforehand. This time she just did it and I just have a terrible feeling about it. So I told her it's over.

Did I do the right thing? Part of me feels like there ought to be more talking about and the other part says fuck it, I don't need it. She said she loves me and wants to continue to be gf. I say funny way to show it.

[Sailor Mars]

Eh if she's fucking other guys "without your permission" it's cheating. Cheaters don't deserve relationships imo. You definitely don't deserve what happened and yeah, it is a funny way of showing that you love someone.

[Vlerchan]

It might take a number of months to be more certain about it in hindsight but combined with other posts this seems like the right choice.

[Meron]

Her fucking other guys and you not tossing her out of the bus yet? Bro you dumb?

Of course you did the right thing.

[West Coast Sheriff]

If she cheated on you with a guy, you should easily break up with her. Even if she kissed a guy, I'd say it's over. Having sex? That's completely too far and you need to call it quits. Find a new and better gf.

[Sports Boy]

If I found out that my gf had sex with someone else, I'd dump her as fast as I could. I gotta believe she's having sex at college too. I wouldn't want the increased risk of getting a std, if nothing else.

[Stronk Serb]

Dump that tramp. You will eventually find a girls that deserves you. You mught regret it, but if she did it once, she will do it again.

[Cadanance00]

Tks. You know when you're in the thick of things it's hard to put it in perspective. One thing sometimes looks as good as another. It wouldn't be so bad if she wasn't a friend for much of our lives.

[Impressionist1910]

OK. So my gf's friend came home on spring break from college and they had sex. She did that over christmas, too, but she talked to me about it beforehand. This time she just did it and I just have a terrible feeling about it. So I told her it's over.

Did I do the right thing? Part of me feels like there ought to be more talking about and the other part says fuck it, I don't need it. She said she loves me and wants to continue to be gf. I say funny way to show it.

You definitely did the right thing.
Honestly, I would've told her it was over when she asked to have sex with another guy. If you're willing to go that far with someone else without a second thought about the person you're already in a relationship with, well then in my opinion you have your priorities way out of line.

Around Christmas I went through a nasty break up.
There's always unresolved feelings. My girlfriend actually broke up with me, but sometimes I wonder if I should have fought harder for her, talked about more, or at least pressed for the closure I sought.

It always sucks.
But it also gets better.
It's a very funny way to show it btw.

I hope you find someone in the future.

[SethfromMI]

totally fair for dumping her. she should not be cheating on you. if she wanted to be messing around, she should have ended the relationship. sorry it had to end this way, but I see this as a trend with her. if people are going to do long distance relationships, they need to figure all of that stuff out, though when it comes to having sex with other people, even when it is "agreed" upon, it usually does not end well. sorry again

[Bull]

yeah, it is time to move on with your life

[mcdaniels]

If you already took her back once she should of learned her lesson.. The fact she done it again shows she thinks she can walk all over you.. Don't allow that to happen, you may love her but you deserve better than to be cheated on.. There are plenty more people there for you to find bro and I hope you do

[Uniquemind]

You did the right thing.

You'd think after what happened in the news people would show loyalty to their "loved" ones. But no she goes ahead and cheats.

[KangarooInMalibu]

Yes, you did do the right thing.

If she cheats it shows she isn't as committed to the relationship as she should be and that's not a good sign.

I'm sorry your relationship had to end this way, but it's for the best. She's done it twice, maybe even more than that, so who knows how many more times she'll do it. I'm sure you'll find another girl who loyalty to you shines a lot brighter than this girl's. I wish you all the best.

[Uniquemind]

The question now becomes can you go back to being friends? Or is that not even an option now?

[Cadanance00]

Okay, so I saw her last night and we had a long talk. She said I know she sees him when he comes home on breaks and it's not serious with him and she lost her V with him and when he wants her to do something she doesn't know why but she does it and they only did oral and she doesn't want to break up with me. And stupid me had sex with her again.

Now I don't know what to think. I feel like one of those balls on a rubber band that always comes back to get hit again.

Her younger sis and mine go to the same school and talk about us and my sis says her sis says she really doesn't want to break up.

Her friend Cissy is looking better all the time.

[LanaPole]

Okay, so I saw her last night and we had a long talk. She said I know she sees him when he comes home on breaks and it's not serious with him and she lost her V with him and when he wants her to do something she doesn't know why but she does it and they only did oral and she doesn't want to break up with me. And stupid me had sex with her again.

Now I don't know what to think. I feel like one of those balls on a rubber band that always comes back to get hit again.

Her younger sis and mine go to the same school and talk about us and my sis says her sis says she really doesn't want to break up.

Her friend Cissy is looking better all the time.

you told you before having sex with the other guy right? i think maybe you shouldnt just break up with her like that.... maybe keep going and see how it goes

[ashdyn]

If she really wants to be like that then you should be able to play by the same rules. Since you're back with her anyway try having an open relationship. Y'all just have to tell one another who you're fucking. It's not idea for someone looking for a super serious relationship but it worked with me and my ex for a few months back in my slutty days. We'd be together and she'd hook up with her ex every few weeks and I'd hook up with a bunch of other people lol I guess it depends on the situation...cause I can't honestly say I loved her but I think we dated more for convenience.