Family problems

[JacobIN]

Seem like the correct spot...sorry if its not.

So here I go.

I don't like my family. They are not abusive in any way, before you ask. I am 16 and have proven myself responsible several times, but they refuses to let me make any important decision for myself. We yell at each other constantly. We probably get in a yelling match every night. Whenever I try to ask why my mother made a certain choice about something I have to do, she just tells me to do chores and refuses to let me talk. Or, she gets my dad involved and then they both start yelling at me. I then get very defensive and start yelling back. Then I get In trouble for yelling. This is basically the nightly routine in my house. Also, my mother seems to think I dont know how to use the internet or something, because once I Skyped a friend about a homework assignment (I didn't have a phone) and she yelled at me saying I didn't know if Skype was safe. She does this for anything I do on MY computer. (Which I did pay for) Whenever I get a C or lower on a report card, they immediately ground me from everything, My truck, My computer, my TV, my Ipod, and going out with friends.

That being said, I of course love them, But I cant live with them.. When I turn 18 I going to move out of my house and somewhere far away.

Sorry for the rant, I just needed to get it off my chest.

[JamesSuperBoy]

All that yelling - thats bad dude.

[MechaSniper]

Sorry to hear that bro.

[Living For Love]

I go through the same situation. Believe me, the best you can do is totally ignore them, try to spend the less time possible with them. Avoid talking too much, and never ever riposte, it just make things even worse. It's hard, I know, but if you just try to do your best, and ignore their criticism, it will work.

[runnerz]

My mom gets on my case all the time for video chatting people. In my case and a little bit in yours I do just think it's parental suspicion with safety in mind.

But as you said, they don't seem to realize that you're getting more and more independent and can make the other important decisions that you talk about. As much as it hurts now, I think you shouldn't yell back. I know this advice is kinda hard, as I find myself yelling back sometimes just depending on the day and my mood, but in reality you know that yelling hasn't solved anything yet. Maybe by stopping your yelling back as much as you can, things will at least be calmer. Just grin and bear it for two more years at least like you said.

[JacobIN]

Great news, they threatened to send me to a strict Quaker-Christian boys home/school. This place sounds like a prison, and I really don't want to go there. However, it is about 80 miles from where I live, so my family wouldn't ever visit me. Is it worth it just to pack up and stay there? I would probably be there until im 18. And would it affect my chances at a Law-Enforcement job plan?

[Living For Love]

Great news, they threatened to send me to a strict Quaker-Christian boys home/school. This place sounds like a prison, and I really don't want to go there. However, it is about 80 miles from where I live, so my family wouldn't ever visit me. Is it worth it just to pack up and stay there? I would probably be there until im 18. And would it affect my chances at a Law-Enforcement job plan?

Well, that actually seems a good plan. Question is, are you willing to leave everything behind and start living in that place, on your own? Maybe it's a small price to pay, right? I don't know, the school can be bad but you won't be in a prison, I guess, probably you would have even more freedom without your parents controlling you. It's a decision you have to make, balance the pros and the cons, and get more information about that school. But at first glance, it does seem a good plan.

[KiyoshisIsland]

Whoa, I feel bad