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CupcakeLuv101
March 19th, 2016, 11:33 PM
Okay guys I'm sorry if this post is irrelevant but I just gotta let my anger out! My mom always tells me that my hair is ugly and is not pretty she said all it is is long and that's it and she said it's not shiny and always looks tangled and static too. I also have a serious problem with dandruff which is not my fault at all because I was born like that and I try to get rid of it with washing. Well let me explain. It's only tangled like that at home because at home I don't really give a big shit about it because the only people who will see it is my parents but when I go out I will actually brush it but then it does get a lot of static which is one of the reasons she said it's ugly but I try already use conditioner and hairspray before I go out to reduce static.

BUT THIS IS WHAT GETS ME REAL MAD. She would complain about how my hair looks dry and dull and not shiny like "EVERYBODY ELSE". Like she would actually compare me to other people such as when we go out and she sees someone with shiny hair she will be like " look at her hair it's shiny UNLIKE YOURS" and then she would go on for about 15 mins on this (what if seems to be) LECTURE about my hair being disgusting, and not shiny and dull-looking. Then, she tells me i should get oil treatment for my hair so it can look shiny but then she says "but we can't afford it" LOL so why CRITISIZE me on something that you can't afford!!! Like it makes no sense! I never even been to a hair salon EVER in my life even though I'm 16 and the only time I ever been to a salon is when my dad got a haircut. I don't even go to the salon for my own haircut my mom just cuts it herself :(

But the point is she's literally making it like it's my fault that we can't afford oil treatment for my hair LMAO it's so funny I know. She said my hair isn't shiny like other people and that I should get oil treatment but we can't afford it and she's literally yelling at me about how ugly my hair is! It makes me feel like I never want to go out again - never see the world again, just lay in a dark corner under the blankets for the rest of my life if people are going to perceive my hair as being ugly. It really brings down my self esteem by A LOT. Please, my mom is hurting my feelings and she doesn't realize it! Words do hurt! I never want to go to school again! Or go out again! Or anywhere :(

Sorry guys it just feels so good to let my anger and sadness out. It's really giving me negative thoughts and emotions and I'm glad I can rid of this off my chest! I know this post seems irrelevant and probably nobody on this site will even care or read the whole thing. Nobody understands how upset I feel! Nobody understands how angry I feel! To be told by your own MOTHER that you're NOT GOOD ENOUGH. Boy how nice it is to release this tension I have currently through all my spine and blood and whole body!

lliam
March 20th, 2016, 04:55 AM
Nobody understands how upset I feel! Nobody understands how angry I feel!!


Your right. I don't understand it either, although I was arguing a lot with my mom when I was 11-13.

Finally she said: You're like your dad.
Then I said: :Thanks mom and moved out to live with my dad.

Ok. IDK why I'm writing this ... maybe that's kinda pointless to me like your rant about somewhat I can't take seriously anymore.


But I got it: You take this very seriously.
Therefore: nice that it relieved you to post it. Hopefully you are more relaxed now. And good luck with your mom and your life.

Cadanance00
March 21st, 2016, 01:08 PM
That's hardly fair.

Meron
March 21st, 2016, 02:41 PM
You shouldn't be really upset about it. My dad used to judge me so bad I had fantasies of slicing him up, so it's just one of those days.

Look, if someone's opinion is not relevant to you nor it makes any sense, ignore it. Leave the person with their bullshit and continue with your life.

Ragle
March 22nd, 2016, 02:09 PM
I never could write so much text about such a small problem.

Everytime when I come home from the barber mom keeps her breath. Whether she likes my latest haircut or not, i really don't care, as long as she pays it. :D

On the other hand, my sister is always very pissed off when mom criticizes her hairstyles. Both oft them arguing about it a lot.

Don't know why. It's kinda useless to me. Perhaps this hairy prob is more of a woman thing.