How to know if I'm in love

[lookatfeet]

So. The thing is, that there is that one girl in my class. We are friends since the first month of the first year of high school(now is the third one). We are kind of close( I mean, we really like each other, we have the same kind of humor, like similar things and so on), but on the other hand, she does not really go out of her house often and we dont spend so much time together. Anyway, the thing is that lately I realized that I think about her really much. Like, almost all the time. And I really like to spend time with her. I also like to hear her laugh and I like when she smile at me and all that things, but the problem is that I, well, I don't really feel my emotions. And I'm talking about all emotions. It is like they are here, but not really. And know is the core of that post. How do I know if I'm in love? I can't feel it but it's kind of like I love her, but like I said. I just can't feel it. :confused:

[Irishperson15]

It can be hard to determine when you are truly in love, it probably takes some people a long time to figure it out. But if you like her in that way, you don't know she feels the same. Maybe talk to her about it and ask her how she feels, but don't push anything as it could risk your friendship if you do anything she doesn't want to. Approach it carefully and be honest, it seems you're close. If you're as close as you imply, she should give you an honest reply. But maintaining your friendship is the most important thing. You will have to work out for yourself if you are in love, can you live without her?

[redrider12]

I've always seen love as a two-way street. If she doesn't feel the same way back, you could be (and likely are) feeling some sort of infatuation. You can't just say that you are in "love" with someone because you think about them a lot and really like them. If she doesn't "love" you back by those same standards, you have a level of disconnect.

I would take a few steps back from trying to make something out of what seems very shallow. Try talking to her. Get to know her more than you already do. Talk a lot. Make small talk. If you know she's at home and you want to do something, find a way to ask. Say you just wanted to go for a bike ride or for a run.

"hey ______, I was thinking about going for a run after school today and I was wondering if you might want to come along? I think it would be really fun"

Cookie-cutter, I know. But everything starts somewhere, and something is the starting place for anything.

And to answer the gut of your question, OP, you'll know for damned sure when you're in love. And she'll know it as well. If you all are still a tad hesitant around each other and don't spend a lot of free time together, that's a good place to start