Friend?

[Ash200]

So recently I've noticed that a friend is getting a lot closer to me.

He was recently moved next to me in class and does things like constantly hugging me, trying to lift my shirt and touch me and tries getting me to look at his underwear.

From what I'm aware, he not like this with anyone else and im not sure what to do (I'm straight).

Any suggestions?

[eric2001]

Try smiling when he does it and like make a joke, and say ... don't touch the merchandise.
Make sure he understands you mean it though.

[ska8er]

Well if ur uncomfortable with him tell
him to chill. I wouldn't come off mean
to him-although what u say he does is a bit
too annoying. If he continues tell him he has
to find another friend that u don't like him
touching u.

[TonyJoe]

that's not really ok. and you need to tell him that. make sure he knows you aren't kidding.

[jockeyboy97]

Your friend is attracted to you and is acting out. But if he is making you uncomfortable with his actions you need to tell him that you are uncomfortable and that you just want to be friends.

[Second Chance]

So recently I've noticed that a friend is getting a lot closer to me.

He was recently moved next to me in class and does things like constantly hugging me, trying to lift my shirt and touch me and tries getting me to look at his underwear.

From what I'm aware, he not like this with anyone else and im not sure what to do (I'm straight).

Any suggestions?

Your friend might have a crush on you and maybe trying to get your attention. If you are not interested in doing anything with your friend and are not interested in him romantically, then it is best that you are honest with him and tell him that you are straight. If you want to do stuff with him, then you can let him know as well.

In the end of the day everything depends upon your comfort level and interest. If you are not interested in being more than friends with the guy, then let him know to respect your sexuality as he would expect you to respect his.

[TheLotus]

Don't let him do anything you aren't comfortable with. If you don't want him to do anything to you, just tell him to stop because it's weird.

[Hansolo]

Just make sure ur comfortable if your not just tell him to stop

[Zachary G]

the best thing to do is to talk with him, let him know that its cool he wants to be your friend and all, but you arent into that touchy feely stuff and would appreciate if he would stop. Its going to sound mean, so if you want to keep him as a friend, you will have to reassure him that you will still be his friend, just not with all of the touching and stuff.

[Bluebyrd]

You don't really have to do anything TBH. If it bothers you then just tell him and I'm sure he'll stop. If you're not bothered about it, just ignore it or if you really want to, ask him why.

[Abhorrence]

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[Cristina15]

So recently I've noticed that a friend is getting a lot closer to me.

He was recently moved next to me in class and does things like constantly hugging me, trying to lift my shirt and touch me and tries getting me to look at his underwear.

From what I'm aware, he not like this with anyone else and im not sure what to do (I'm straight).

Any suggestions?

i think you have to talk sincerly with him

[Sanchez16620]

Just be honest to him about how you feel if he's actually gay then respect his decision . if he's not then just joke around with him or something plus he's still a teenager im guessing and heck, what doesnt make us horny!

[ClaraWho]

I think you've got a lot of good advice already, but I just wanted to add this.

My brother has had stuff like this before. He will just make a joke about 'hey man, I don't swing that way', 'Hold up bruh, you don't know me like that homie' (jokily gangsta lol) or 'you can look but don't touch' - both which whislt they get laughed off to prevent awkwardness, also give a very clear message that you aren't interested. If you aren't interested in him, or indeed in men, ways like this show you aren't homophobic, you just aren't sexually attracted.

If it then continues after several hints, you could say 'I've asked you to stop man, it's making me uncomfortable' and then shift the conversation elsewhere.

Good Luck!

~ Clara