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xMetalxMachinex
March 11th, 2016, 08:29 PM
He's my best friend in the whole wide universe, I love him so much. It's like he came into my life when I needed him most. He is sooooooooo amazing. But now I feel like something more is in the air.

To start off, I should be honest and state that he CLAIMS he's not gay. That said, I've heard about many times that other people are told the same thing but it turns out the other person was in the closet. Now, I have examples of why I think something is in the air.

Every single day, if I don't beat him to it, he texts me good morning and asks how I slept. We text eachother all day ( He lives 25 minutes away) mutually, and he really seems to enjoy it. Even when I talk about 'Gay' stuff ( sex, etc.), he "plays along". I find this strange noting that he claims he's straight. Anyways, he's extremely sweet to me, for example when he's going to bed he'll text me stuff like "Goodnight hope you sleep well sweet dreams stay safe stay amazing.", when I am sweet to him (and he knows im gay) he is very recieving and seems to like it. also he tells me that he loves me al the time. The thing that confuses me is that he always ends I love you with "No homo.", I'm like why fuck with me like that? The other day I bought hiim a hoodie and he wouldnnt stop thanking me (through text) and telling me how amazing I am and saying "I love you."

I'm pretty certain he's in the closet but would like second opinios. Any advice on how I can further test my theory? Both our birthdays are next week (his 16th and mine 17th) so I'll probably see him. So I could investigate then. Toughts on all of this?
paul955
March 12th, 2016, 08:24 PM
You're basically describing me when I was 14 and in the closet. Today, I'm gay & out. Sounds like this guy might be gay and just afraid to actually come out and say it. The only way he can express it is by being overly attached to you? I'm not sure. But I would try and sit down with him and ask him if he's gay, or how he feels about that whole subject. Maybe he's just looking for someone to confide in.
Bluebyrd
March 12th, 2016, 10:48 PM
Just tell him what you've just wrote but don't be too forceful with it. If he says he's not gay then just take his word for it, even if your 'evidence' does suggest otherwise.
Sports Boy
March 13th, 2016, 02:56 PM
If he has already said he is not gay, then I would suggest you just believe him and don't ask any other questions. He could be gay and not ready to come out, he could be unsure or might not be gay. As a friend, though, you can't push him into telling you something just because you're curious. As his best friend, you need to just accept him and who he says he is without wanting to "investigate" him.
DoodleSnap
March 13th, 2016, 06:06 PM
It sounds like he is in a somewhat confused situation. He could be gay, bi, or straight, but you can't know for sure unless he says it. All you can really do is be there for him, spend lots of time with him. For the record, it does sound like there could something romantic there, from the little information I have.
Melodic
March 13th, 2016, 06:46 PM
He seems like he's in the closet. I wouldn't advise confronting him about his sexuality. You really just have to be patient and wait for him to come out if you want to remain close to him.
xMetalxMachinex
March 13th, 2016, 09:06 PM
If he has already said he is not gay, then I would suggest you just believe him and don't ask any other questions. He could be gay and not ready to come out, he could be unsure or might not be gay. As a friend, though, you can't push him into telling you something just because you're curious. As his best friend, you need to just accept him and who he says he is without wanting to "investigate" him.

He seems like he's in the closet. I wouldn't advise confronting him about his sexuality. You really just have to be patient and wait for him to come out if you want to remain close to him.

I get both of your statements, but what if he's like waiting for me to approach him?
Melodic
March 13th, 2016, 11:24 PM
I get both of your statements, but what if he's like waiting for me to approach him?

I'm not going to say that's not possible because I really don't know. Since he hasn't come out to you directly, you can't really act on that idea right now. It could make him uncomfortable and/or hurt your relationship with him. You just have to accept the relationship as it is for right now and be patient until he's ready. You both have an amazing relationship as is. Live in the moment and see what happens!
Sports Boy
March 14th, 2016, 01:26 PM
^^
Just what Melodic said. Couldn't agree more.
xMetalxMachinex
March 20th, 2016, 07:26 PM
Update: I asked and he said he's not gay at all.
jockeyboy97
March 20th, 2016, 08:41 PM
He sounds like a real friend who accepts you as being gay. Perhaps he is confused at the moment, but wants you to feel accepted and loved as a friend. Give him some time and see where it goes.