Pretty sure im straight... but still confused

[hiker17]

Hi, so in a nutshell, im a teen guy and i know for sure im romantically attracted to girls, however i am i guess attracted to shirtless guys. I also don't feel like im as attracted to sex as some guys are.
ok so now let me explain a little more. I am attracted to shirtless guys but that is it about guys. i would never date or do anything sexual with another guy and the thought of it grosses me out. Never watched gay porn and i never will. Yet i am still attracted to shirtless guys. What i've been thinking is that i may have just gotten obsessed with the idea of being shirtless. Ever since I was little i was terrified to go shirtless myself, it only worsened when i found out I had pectus excavatum. I think that maybe i have just gotten so jealous of a normal body that girls are attracted to and that im not ashamed of that i somehow got attracted to them myself. Now maybe im just making up reasons but idk thats what i think about it.
Then there's girls. I love girls, I've had plenty of crushes (and celebrity crushes haha) and a few relationships but they didnt work out cuz it was middle school and they didnt want to be in a relationship (stories for another time haha). Now im in high school and i have a crush on a girl but its not going to work out but its a crush on a girl nonetheless.
Anyways being in a relationship with a girl seems fantastic and a life goal but i feel like im not as attracted to them sexually as some guys are. If i see a really hot girl i have to try not to stare and so i know i am somewhat attracted to girls. But then if im just on the internet or something i wont always get an erection looking at boobs. Sex seems great but some porn just kind of scares me.

Im just scared that in the future i wont be able to have a good relationship with a girl because maybe i dont have the strongest sex drive or something. But then again i have no idea whether it would be true or not because ive never had sex yet.
I really just want to feel normal but i cant change who i am so i got to live with it. :cool: So what do you guys think? I dont know how i should feel and its just really been frustrating me lately. anyone else feel the same? Thanks for reading this btw this made me feel really awkward writing it lol

[northy]

Possibly just hormones. You may actually be comparing yourself those shirtless men. It is hard to tell to be honest. Only you can know what you are and you will realise. Also, you could be asexual, consider that. You don't need to want to have sex to have romance.
Porn is not realistic, don't base your decisions about your sexuality on porn.
Not knowing what you are is normal, it will come to you one day when you least expect it.

[Bluebyrd]

The bit about liking boys is totally understandable but in my cultured opinion, that's more to do with hormones than actual attraction. And not everyone has the biggest sex drive in the world - doesn't mean you can't have a good relationship.

[DoodleSnap]

These things are super confusing for everyone, don't worry about it. For a long time I went through a similar thing to what you describe with guys, and for a long time I wrote it off as something other than sexual attraction. After a lot of different changes in my life and getting to know myself, I finally came to terms with the concept of being bisexual. I'm not saying that you will turn out to be bisexual, but it is important to keep an open mind, as it was only a few years ago that I found the concept of kissing a guy kinda gross. My advice to most people is simply to not worry about labeling yourself for the time being, and instead to learn what you like with time and exoerience. It won't happen overnight, but I'm sure that you'll work out what you enjoy.

As for your sex drive, don't overanalyze it too much - these things will fluctuate a lot, and that's okay.

If you have anymore questions, feel free to ask.

[Think with my heart]

Hey there.

Hm. It doesn't sound to me like your too sexually confused. It more sounds to me like just a little jealousy over having picture perfect shirtless bodies. And hey, we all have our things to be jealous for. It's normal, but it should only be thought of in a healthy way.

Girls seem to be attractive to you, so that's a good sign. Meh, dont worry about sexual attraction in that field. Personality is more important.

Just remember, do whatever makes you happy in life. :D https://i.ytimg.com/vi/mjorKVDMXrA/maxresdefault.jpg

[ska8er]

Ur being over obsessed with all the things u
describe. I think over time everything will fall
into place. U worry too much it seems. It could
b nerves or it could b the ups and downs of going
thru puberty. U dont say how old u r. Ur either
starting puberty or on the end of it.

Im a bit like u. I consider myself straight-have a
girlfriend but have not gone all the way. I dont
know if im scared or just not ready for it. I like
girls I get turned on by them but I also get turned
on by cute guys. I guess im straight curious and just
maybe over time I will consider myself Bi-Idk-I have
not had sex with guys-it grosses me out but have thought
about it. Ive experimented but dont find it wrong cause I
think it is just a curious growing up thing.

As for going shirtless-sure ur self conscious but if it
bothers u so much dont put urself in a position to do so.
If u find a girl that really loves u she will love u for u and not
the way ur body is.

Sex drive concerns hormones some days u can b super horny
and other times it is not that strong. Porn is like that too-some
times u may like it and there r times when it just does nothing
for u. I have to have some thing that just does it for me or it
will not satisfy me. Anyway give all of this some time and chill
and it just might all work out for u.

[TonyJoe]

It's ok to not know. Don't feel like you have to be confined to some kind of label! Go out, explore some!

[Sanchez16620]

You're still young and it's okay to be confused any choice you make is right because I'm the end you'll love who your heart wants