First love

[brookelauren]

Is it possible that you could end up marrying your first love? Me and my first boyfriend of 9 months are extremely happy together and I could never handle the thought of us breaking up.. Our parents say it's not love at such a young age. (he's about to be 16 and I'm 15) I truly found what I want in a man and he has it all. Is it possible that you CAN stay with your first love? I have no desire to find someone else and I Know he doesn't either.. Is there any advice?

[Desuetude]

If you're happy just go with it, be together for as long as possible and don't dwell on the future. Of course there's a chance that it might all work out and be long term but that's likely to be very small. You're both extremely young and there are so many factors that may affect a relationship at your age - peer groups, school/uni, interests there are too many to name. Things change, people change but you just have to go with it.

Like I said, no point in worrying about the long term now. Not to sound like a parent but it's much better if you focus on school and getting decent grades and finding out what you want to do with your life than putting all your energy into a relationship. Of course stay together if that's what's making you happy but just be careful about how much you're putting into him. Don't make the relationship the centre of your life with everything else coming second, it'll end up backfiring on you I can guarentee. I've seen it happen one too many times.

[Uniquemind]

A big test is college and career choices.

I know a lot of older friends and even people here who faced obstacles in otherwise steady relationships due to being or wanting to go to different campuses.

That forces a couple to deal with long distance among tons of other options, and also depression from the distance can set in too.

There's hope, but there is some realism you have to face as well as a conscious and disciplined effort from both of you to make a relationship work from start to finish (from the time you meet begin the relationship and ending with death itself not marriage).

[West Coast Sheriff]

I'm not sure about the likelyhood of you two making it through high school. However, nine months is impressive and from what I've read in other posts you've made, you guys seem very committed. If you guys make I through high school, then the chances of getting married are very high. Right now, I'd recommend just enjoying each other and not focusing too much on the future. Always continue to treat the relationship like it was when it first started, never assume the other person will just stay. If you assume, they might look else where. Continue to impress, same goes for him. But like Nikk said, don't forget to focus on other things out side of the relationship.

[kylem1229]

I think it can definitley be possible. I've seen people who've known eachother since 6th grade get married. It is a likelyhood that it is going to happen? Probably not, but there could be a good chance if the relationship continues well

[Uniquemind]

There's a saying I like to say and it goes like this:

"Be aware of the seas, for while you cannot control the currents, but you can determine the course, speed, timing, and preparation of one's voyage and vessel. Yet to be ignorant of the currents or route, will ensure one is taken for a ride and possible wreck."



-uniquemind


The question isn't "can we?" The question is "how do we and do we will it so?"

[ethan-s]

have you ever seen that A&E hit show? not gonna mention names but those kids were the only people they ever dated. it could work. but just be careful.

[Uniquemind]

Idk this show

[Amber999]

I'm still looking, but don't get married until you are both older. It is unlikely to last this early on.

[Meron]

Its possible but not guaranteed. Try to see when you're both older, also yeah, as some people said "College and career choices" is a big test.

One more thing - don't be afraid that it's possible for you to lose him. I did the same, she left out of sudden. But I'm trying to move on.