Finding a BF

[davdev17]

How can I find a boyfriend? I really want one. I don't know very many gay guys. My school is in a very religious area so most gay guys are probably in the closet. If there is one gay person in ten people there should be over 260 gay people at my school. How can I find a guy to date?

[Andy0308]

Literally me! I know a few gay people from school but they're just not the type of guys I see myself dating,where I live there aren't many gays like idk LA maybe but you can go online, I found two guys from school on a gay dating site or I just listen to conversations when I hear them talking about someone being gay haha good luck!

[northy]

I can completely relate to this. I don't know a single openly gay person (except on here) which is kinda depressing.

[Bluebyrd]

I'm in the closet so I can't ask anyone out and no one can ask me out. And I don't think that one in ten figure is right.

[ImCoolBeans]

I wouldn't bank on that 1 in 10 figure. Different areas have different population densities and I don't think there is a rigid figure that can be applied to all areas.

It's not always going to be this hard, but then again it might not really be easy either. When you're in high school it's tough to find somebody of the same sex because a lot of people aren't open about their sexualities. A lot of people use apps these days, but you need to be very careful on those and you never really know who you're talking to. Most guys on those apps don't really have intentions further than one night stands or hookups anyway, at least from what I've gathered. In my experience when you're out looking for love you're only setting yourself up for heartbreak -- maybe take a step back for now and let it find you.

You're 17, so you're almost at the end of your time in high school. College is a much more liberal institution and many gay guys I know have been able to come out at college and find somebody there. If you're out at all, or willing to, you could join an LGBT group in your area and meet likeminded people that way.

[DoodleSnap]

As ImCoolBeans says, it can be very difficult, but because of the generally more widespread education and liberal opinions in college/university, it can be easier to find people comfortable being themselves there. I would also agree on avoiding gay 'dating' apps, as they are often simply used by people looking for hookups.