One of my best friends likes me?

[chere6kata7]

Hi guys this is my first topic here. :D

I'd like to share my problem with you now.
I'm 17 years old, I'm hanging out with my squad for like 5 years already. We're best friends, we're talking about literally everything - boys, sex, school... We're straight, all of us. Some of us have boyfriends, the girl I will talk about.
Everything was normal but now I'm little confused of one conversation. I figured out that the girl has told that she has a crush on me?! I was so surprised, I literally didn't expect that from her. Of course, I thought it was a joke.
Her caracter is more different that the others'. She's joking often about her sexuality, she's saying that she's bisexual. But it's all joke, right? 'Till now...
I texted her too see if that's true. She was trying to escape from the question. I told her that she can't have feelings for me, she has a boyfriend... and we're friends since childhood. She told me that in case she hasn't have a boyfriend, she'll want something more than a friendship. I still thought it was a joke and I said yes. Maybe that was my biggest mistake. She was happy untill I told her the truth. She was upset about that and she told me that I play with people's feelings.
And now I don't know if she actually have feelings about me or that was a really good joke. Can you tell me what to do, I don't want to be awkward between us. How to figure out if she's telling the truth? :what:

[West Coast Sheriff]

I don't think she'd joke about something like that. Talk to her about her feelings. Say that you appreciate and value her friendship and wouldn't want to change it.

[Cadanance00]

No. She's not joking. She said that to try to make it safe. I'd say she really is bisexual and wants to leave the door open to sex with you if you ever want it. Instead of getting freaked out about it why not consider it a compliment that she's attracted to you and be grateful she respects you enough to not try to force herself on you.

[ImCoolBeans]

Why can't she have feelings for you if she has a boyfriend? It's very common to fall for other people when you're with someone you don't truly want to be with -- and even if you do want to be with them it still doesn't always stop you from feeling attraction toward other people. I realize it may be kind of weird to have your best friend having a same-sex crush on you, and I'm not saying you should do anything that makes you uncomfortable, but at least realize how much it took for her to tell you that. She really went out on a limb there for you -- she must really care about you.

A lot of people seem to be confused when a close friend falls for another, but IMO that is the most natural thing in the world. It's perfectly normal for a friend to develop a crush on somebody he/she is close with, can trust, spends a lot of time with, and thinks about often. I doubt she was joking, and you probably hurt her feelings a lot by saying that you were interested and then taking it back.

[Uniquemind]

You should tell the truth and that it's not that your deliberately playing with people's feelings, but that you panicked, this was a first time situation and you didn't know how to handle it because you were conflicted.

You're sorry, but that the truth is you aren't bi.

She is and you respect that and you'd like to continue being friends like always.

Done, balls in her court.

[Rhys2001]

This is always a tough situation. She is telling the truth here, if I were you, tell her the truth. Tell her how much you value her as a friend but that you aren't bisexual and so for you to love her in that way doesn't cross your mind. It will hurt her for a bit BUT she will get over it and realise being just friends isn't too bad. If you don't set things straight then she will only become more hurt over time when she realises you don't feel the same towards her.
Hope this helps!