Telling parents

[RookieFox]

Hi! I'm 19, and couple years ago I have discovered that I'm bi. I told to my closest friends and they took it seriously and supported me, which I'm forever grateful for. But... I never told my parents.
A little background: I come from a Russian family (which is stereotypical and if you've heard about Sochi, you know that majority of Russians hate LGBTQ). Also, I've been living in Canada for 3 years now (I discovered that I'm bi, here, in Canada), thus my parents didn't have a chance to find out about my "discovery". My step dad is very conservative, and I'm afraid of his reaction the most. My mother is not as conservative but I think I would disappoint her in a way. (Also, she is religious, so that doesn't help...)
So, I have been with couple of guys, though never told my parents about it, and, at least for now, I came up with the idea, to use my bisexuality as an advantage: tell my parents only if I would be in a serious relationship with a guy.
But recently, I've felt the urge to share, because I feel like they don't quite understand me sometimes and telling them that I'm bi would help me create more open relationship with them.
Please, share your opinion on that matter :)
PS: I've tried to talk about LGBTQ and how people shouldnt treat others by their sexuality, but it never went well (my parents point was the same - it's disgusting)

[Uniquemind]

Hi! I'm 19, and couple years ago I have discovered that I'm bi. I told to my closest friends and they took it seriously and supported me, which I'm forever grateful for. But... I never told my parents.
A little background: I come from a Russian family (which is stereotypical and if you've heard about Sochi, you know that majority of Russians hate LGBTQ). Also, I've been living in Canada for 3 years now (I discovered that I'm bi, here, in Canada), thus my parents didn't have a chance to find out about my "discovery". My step dad is very conservative, and I'm afraid of his reaction the most. My mother is not as conservative but I think I would disappoint her in a way. (Also, she is religious, so that doesn't help...)
So, I have been with couple of guys, though never told my parents about it, and, at least for now, I came up with the idea, to use my bisexuality as an advantage: tell my parents only if I would be in a serious relationship with a guy.
But recently, I've felt the urge to share, because I feel like they don't quite understand me sometimes and telling them that I'm bi would help me create more open relationship with them.
Please, share your opinion on that matter :)
PS: I've tried to talk about LGBTQ and how people shouldnt treat others by their sexuality, but it never went well (my parents point was the same - it's disgusting)

In this case I would recommend only telling them once they're super elderly.

This might get you cut off from them.

[Zachary G]

Telling your parents is always a big risk, especially if they are conservative or religious. In situations like that, my best advice is to not say anything to them until you are out on your own and supporting yourself. Only you know your parents better than anyone else, so only you know when a good time would be to tell them and exactly what to tell them. Good luck.

[Cadanance00]

I think given the circumstances stay in the closet for the time being.

[federica]

Hi! I'm 19, and couple years ago I have discovered that I'm bi. I told to my closest friends and they took it seriously and supported me, which I'm forever grateful for. But... I never told my parents.
A little background: I come from a Russian family (which is stereotypical and if you've heard about Sochi, you know that majority of Russians hate LGBTQ). Also, I've been living in Canada for 3 years now (I discovered that I'm bi, here, in Canada), thus my parents didn't have a chance to find out about my "discovery". My step dad is very conservative, and I'm afraid of his reaction the most. My mother is not as conservative but I think I would disappoint her in a way. (Also, she is religious, so that doesn't help...)
So, I have been with couple of guys, though never told my parents about it, and, at least for now, I came up with the idea, to use my bisexuality as an advantage: tell my parents only if I would be in a serious relationship with a guy.
But recently, I've felt the urge to share, because I feel like they don't quite understand me sometimes and telling them that I'm bi would help me create more open relationship with them.
Please, share your opinion on that matter :)
PS: I've tried to talk about LGBTQ and how people shouldnt treat others by their sexuality, but it never went well (my parents point was the same - it's disgusting)

i don't think it is a good idea to tell it to your parents

Telling your parents is always a big risk, especially if they are conservative or religious. In situations like that, my best advice is to not say anything to them until you are out on your own and supporting yourself. Only you know your parents better than anyone else, so only you know when a good time would be to tell them and exactly what to tell them. Good luck.

yes it is a to big risk...