Your parents about girlfriend / boyfriend staying overnight

[Leon03]

Do your parents allow your boyfriend or girlfriend to stay overnight?
Maybe on weekends only or not at all. What are the rules in your house?

I am curious because apparently some parents are super strict about this and others super cool.

[Zachary G]

Yes, my mom allows my bfs to stay overnight with me during weekends, or school holidays when we have off. She treats it like any normal sleepover, no big deal for her.

[Typhlosion]

My parents weren't too in favor of the idea until one day I surprised both them and my girfriend inviting her to spend the night studying for an upcoming super important test. After that things got more lax, so she has slept a few times over here now.

[PinkFloyd]

Me and my girlfriend have been together for two and a half years. I'm 18 and she's 17. (18 in August) My parents allow us to do things, but don't allow her to spend the night. In all honesty, they probably would be cool with her sleeping over, but they want to respect her conservative, religious parents just a little.

[Sports Boy]

My parents are fine with my girlfriend staying over but we're not allowed to sleep together. She has to stay in the guest bedroom. Same goes with me at her house.

[Leon03]

Sounds like I was pretty well off.
Neither my parents nor my girls mom mind if she stays overnight.
Even during the week they are ok with it

[SethfromMI]

yea mine are ok with it. they know were active and know we play it safe. my gf usually only sleeps over on weekends or holidays and stuff.

[Cadanance00]

Nope. She can't.

[jsands]

Mine used to not let any girls over for the night I think they were just super worried about us getting up to no good haha.
But when I turned 18 and me and my girl had been together for about 6 months they started to let her sleep over in another room.
We obviously just snook in and slept with each other anyway but I think they just didn't want to think about it.

[german_boy]

When I was about 15 years, they didn't really like the idea of my gf sleeping over but they ageed (they told me to stay safe). From that time, it has not been a problem anymore.

[ClaraWho]

Parents actively expressing permission for sex always seemed really scewy to me, I mean talk about a turn off in itself :/. I will never understand that...

~ Clara

[Sailor Mars]

Parents actively expressing permission for sex always seemed really scewy to me, I mean talk about a turn off in itself :/. I will never understand that...

~ Clara
Sleeping over =/= Sex

My brother had a girlfriend and my parents didn't mind her sleeping over

[StoppingTom]

I think my parents would actually murder me if I even suggested that.

[SethfromMI]

Parents actively expressing permission for sex always seemed really scewy to me, I mean talk about a turn off in itself :/. I will never understand that...

~ Clara

well my parents did not actively express it. but they knew I was going to have sex whether they wanted me to or not and would rather have me do it somewhere safe and be careful doing it. I have myself tested a couple of times of year when I am getting my physicals for sports just to make sure everything is ok. while I don't use a condom, my gf is on the pill and we were both tested before we ever engaged in unprotected safe.

so like I said, my parents understood if I wanted to have sex I was going to and more or less said be safe about it.

[Melodic]

I'm not allowed to have partners over to spend the night. Luckily, this came up during a conversation and I didn't have to directly ask my dad for permission. God, that would've been awkward.

[Moriya]

Bruh, my parents wouldn't even let friends stay over. I can imagine how they'll react if it was a BF/GF situation.

[Cognizant]

My dad would be fine with it I'm sure. It wasn't a problem when I was 16, at least. My boyfriend of the time would sometimes sleep over on weekends and my dad kinda let us be. But now I just sneak in the random grindr guys to my room well after my father is asleep and the dogs are not in the way :P

And, well, my mom lives in a studio apartment so that's obviously out of the question lol

[ClaraWho]

well my parents did not actively express it. but they knew I was going to have sex whether they wanted me to or not and would rather have me do it somewhere safe and be careful doing it. I have myself tested a couple of times of year when I am getting my physicals for sports just to make sure everything is ok. while I don't use a condom, my gf is on the pill and we were both tested before we ever engaged in unprotected safe.

so like I said, my parents understood if I wanted to have sex I was going to and more or less said be safe about it.

Personally I hate this attitude, no offence. But to me personally, in my opinion, that is a parental failure. To allow your child to do what they want rather than being a parent, simply because you can no longer do your job as a parent. No should mean no and be respected, especially in their home. But I know opinions differ on this.

~ Clara

[Leon03]

I am glad that my parents and her mom are cool with her staying over night. Even during the week. To me it is a prove that they trust us and this trust is a very strong motivation for us to be good.
Other than that we are together for almost three years now and they know that we not only read books together. Parents who think they can make their kids keeping their virginity until they are 21 or even older are pretty naive to me.
They can make it harder but will be unable to prevent their kids from having sex. I guess my girlfriend and I would have been very creative to find places. Yet with the risk that our attention is more drawn to be not caught than to practice safer sex or anything.
Don't get me wrong. The staying over thing developed with the time. At first it was of course only on weekends and separate rooms and strict rules. But with the duration of our relationship our parents knew that we can handle it.

[Lukas1999]

Do your parents allow your boyfriend or girlfriend to stay overnight?
Maybe on weekends only or not at all. What are the rules in your house?

I am curious because apparently some parents are super strict about this and others super cool.

Yes, my parents would allow my boyfriend or girlfriend to stay overnight. The have no problems with that. The only thing is that we have to be quiet in the evening because they want to sleep.

[federica]

Do your parents allow your boyfriend or girlfriend to stay overnight?
Maybe on weekends only or not at all. What are the rules in your house?

I am curious because apparently some parents are super strict about this and others super cool.

i don't know what will happen with my first boyfriend (i have never had one) actually a i am used to have my best friend that is a girl for one or more nights and no problems for my parents

[everlong]

The only time I ever did was when I went on vacation with my girlfriend

[Jordan99]

My BF can stay over only when a large group is staying over or if he sleeps in the living room on the pullout-sofa. I stay at my BF's house but I sleep in his sister's room. My BFF is allowed to have her BF sleep over and I am so jealous. he he he