Nervous about having first phone call?..

[Justaguy11]

Okay so i've been speaking to this girl for a couple days now and she's asking me to phone her tomorrow after school, but I'm a really nervous and shy person and I'm worried about phoning in case I have nothing to say or just make an ass out of myself in general. Any advice?? :)

[West Coast Sheriff]

Just call her and do it. You'll be so glad you did.

[Justaguy11]

Just call her and do it. You'll be so glad you did.

That might be easy for you but not for me :( my anxiety plays a big part in it aswell

[West Coast Sheriff]

That might be easy for you but not for me :( my anxiety plays a big part in it aswell

I still find it difficult. Just count to 3 slowly. 1...2...3... Then do it!!

[Porpoise101]

When I have to call people I usually have a little note in front of me with a few words to get things going. That way I have a good "diving board" to go from in the conversation. Maybe you could also put some important points down that you don't want to miss

[lliam]

my anxiety plays a big part in it aswell


Is the fear just nervousness or a pathological thing?

[Tesserax]

I have a couple of main tips:
1. Just do it, get it started, just call her and there's no going back
2. Once you've started it might be a bit awkward at first. Ask her about anything, interests, talk about a movie, and try to establish common ground.
3. Once that's done (if it wasn't already) talk about it, and make sure you show enthusiasm and interest. Don't be afraid to get excited, just don't go overboard
4. Speak whatever comes to mind unless it's just going to piss her off
5. Compliment her every once in awhile. If she makes a good comment say "Wow, I didn't think of it like that, you're really smart!" or something like that
6. Relax, you're just talking to a friend, nothing serious is happening yet so you guys are basically just buddies catching up
Hope this helps, PEACE!

[Straya]

when my anxiety stops me from doing something i stop dont even think about anything and just do it. i hate talking on the phone and thats the way i get over it

[kylem1229]

Its not as bad as you think it will be...just think in your mind that youre talking to her in person.

[Lukas1999]

You just have to call her. You would be glad if you have done it. You can not do anything wrong.