Shy Girls???

[Ryuun]

Hey VT, I have moved in with this girl recently we are basicly dating even though its not offical because she won't go out with me because she wants me to be Christian first which im ok with i pretty much believe in God anway

But the point of this is I really want to do more stuff with her not sexual but just cuddle more and stuff but its hard to tell if she is just being shy with me she is fine with me touching her but she doesnt touch me back unless i tease her and she hits me.

How can i make a shy girl feel more comfortable with doing that stuff?
we havent kissed and I dont want to force her to do anything because she is so innocent but I would like her to lay her head on my shoulder or anything really.. asking for a little bit of affection isnt a bad thing is it?

What should i do?

[West Coast Sheriff]

I would straight up ask her about it.

Also, if you went to church more, prayed more etc., it might have an influence on how close she gets to you,

Also, if you haven't kissed, make sure the nature of the relationship is what you think it is

[Ryuun]

I would straight up ask her about it.

Also, if you went to church more, prayed more etc., it might have an influence on how close she gets to you,

Also, if you haven't kissed, make sure the nature of the relationship is what you think it is

i was just being silly i knew what she was like before we moved in together she doesnt like people touching her, she doesnt even hug her own family but she gives me hugs so i am just being impatient

[Living For Love]

Some people are more touchy than others, and you have to respect her preference. I usually get quite uncomfortable whenever a girl touches me, whereas other people don't mind at all. I think you just need to wait and be a bit more patient.

[Typhlosion]

You gotta ask, before doing something. Be light and take answers lightly. As time passes she should gain more trust in you and will want to get closer. If you fear that, since she's very religious, you might not get as close as you want in a long time, you might want to figure out the boundaries with out too much delay.

As for her touching you... well, people are different in the ways they express themselves. Some may want lots of contact, others may not want much contact at all, and that's their way and their choice, and there not might be much that will change that.