Going to a girls house soon..

[Justaguy11]

So I've been talking to this girl for a while now and I really like her and I think she feels the same about me. I'll be going over to her house sometime in the next week or so, but in person I get really shy and lost for words most of the time. Any advice on how to overcome this? :(

[West Coast Sheriff]

DONT DO ANYTHING STUPID

Just be yourself.

I'm really shy in person but online I'm pretty cool in my opinion. I'll always warn/inform a girl in advance that I'm super shy. They are usually pretty understanding

[Uniquemind]

Calm down, and chill and realize control of yourself and that ultimately you're just with another person, nothing to freak out over.

[Straya]

shes gonna feel exactly the same way on your first get together dont worry as you get to know her more your gonna get less and less shy

[Tesserax]

Tell her straight up that you're really nervous. Chances are, she'll feel the same and say she is too. That will loosen up the tension to know that both of you are on the same level. If you haven't planned, then ask her "So, what are we gonna do?". If she's unsure, then suggest a movie or TV. If it's romantic, or a romantic comedy, that would be best. Whatever it is, if there's a romantic scene in any movie, even just a kiss in an action movie (90% of the time there is), brush your hand with hers and look at her, but don't stare. Chances are she'll notice, look at you, and giggle. If she withdraws her hand, then take a step back and slow down. If she doesn't though, be proactive and hold her hand, try to interlock your fingers. That will get things going.

There is, however, the case that she isn't nervous. If she says "that's alright" or something like that, then play it safe. Don't laugh to loudly (nervous energy can do that). She's already judging you and trying to figure your character out. If she says something like "hmmm, okay" and you can hear the apathy seething from her voice, then she's probably losing interest. Again, don't do anything drastic, but try to spark her interest. Ask her what her hobbies and interests are, compliment her (hair, intelligence, whatever; You should be doing this anyway). Once you know her interests, find common ground and talk about it. This will get conversation going and before she knows it she'll be interested again. But tread carefully, either of these reactions generally means that she can easily move on if she deems you unworthy.

Hope this helps, obviously I can't explore every single possible pathway, but you get the general idea.

[ashdyn]

Don't be scared to laugh at your own awkwardness

[Ragle]

Don't try to be someone you're not.

Didn't work for me at my first date. I thought I do the cool and at the end I was the fool. The date was just a single, awkward happening. ^^

And the funny thing is, she always thought I was cool.

[Zachary G]

Just be yourself and just follow her lead. Just relax and let things fall where they may. You dont need to do anything special, just be yourself.

[Lukas1999]

If boys or girls are charmed they are nervous and they do many things they shouldn´t do. You have go be relaxed and you just have to be yourself.

The first date is important to see his/her in their true colours