Gay Friends

[Garibay]

My mate says he's not gay, but sometimes he do strange things and make me uncomfortable sometime he suck my fingers and try to make me hickeys at arms and recently at neck.
I am bi, and I am not homophobic, but I have a girlfriend and she gets anger, what can I do?

[Abhorrence]

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[Vermilion]

Tell him to stop. And ask him why he's doing it

[Hermes]

I don't see that this has got anything to do with homophobia or even sexual orientation. It's to do with your body being yours and being entitled to have him leave it alone if that's what you want.

Start by asking him politely not to do those things and if he persists get more assertive. If that still fails then it's time to tell parents etc. and ask them to intervene.

[Bull]

I agree with Hermes except the part about getting parents involved. If you guys can't work this out it is time to end the friendship.

[Falcons_11]

If someone, boy or girl, does some things you don't like just tell them to lay off. If they don't stop then you have to make a decision if you want to still be friends with them. You don't have to put up with people who do stuff that makes you feel uncomfortable.

[SethfromMI]

I agree with Hermes except the part about getting parents involved. If you guys can't work this out it is time to end the friendship.

this. you tell him how it makes you feel, he MUST knock it off, and if he won't, he is not a true friend you need anyways

[ska8er]

My mate says he's not gay, but sometimes he do strange things and make me uncomfortable sometime he suck my fingers and try to make me hickeys at arms and recently at neck.
I am bi, and I am not homophobic, but I have a girlfriend and she gets anger, what can I do?

Dude-my best friend considers himself straight and when
he and I like to mess around he asks me if he can suck on my big toe. I think
she is scared that he might take me away from her but she and
her best bud like to do stuff that she wont tell me.

What can u do about ur "not gay" mate or ur girl?
I would say that ur mate likes u more than a friend and
if it makes u uncomfortable tell him but u say u r bi so
don't u like it in a little way? As for ur girl just tell her he
makes u feel uncomfortable but it is his prob not hers and
not to take it another way. ;)

Guys-Yes no one has a right to do things that
make u feel uncomfortable but Garibay says that
he is bi and it is his mate-its not like he is a
stranger. I think if u have a good relationship with
ur mate he might think that u like what he is doing
and want the same in return. If u were straight on
then I would say-why r u trying to do this to me-u
know im not interested.

Y would u want to get ur parents involved in this?
I would not even attempt that.

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[maritza]

u need to tell him its inappropiate and he needs to stop or u cant be friends with him anymore

[West Coast Sheriff]

Ask him to stop. It bothers your girlfriend and makes you feel uncomfortable.

If he continues, ask why he is doing it. Hopefully he will stop.

[northy]

Just tell him to stop and that it makes you feel uncomfortable. If he has any self-respect, he will listen and stop. Otherwise, stop hanging out with him.

[Zachary G]

If hes not gay then he should explain to you why hes doing what he is doing that makes you uncomfortable. Maybe because youre his close friend and your being bi has made him curious and he doesnt know anyother way to express himself.

Really though, if you are uncomfortable with what he is doing then you need to let him know that you dont like it and he needs to stop. If he has any respect for you, then he will do it. If he does not stop, then he has no respect for you or your friendship and you need to let him go.