At school ...

[West Coast Sheriff]

So it's not like I have friends but, when I'm at school and in a group of people: whenever I suggest something (or did in the past) no one pays attention. Someone else says the exact same thing and everyone adores the idea. No one invites me to do anything and, I try to invite people to get together and they never like my ideas. I know my voice has NO value to these people so, I've really separated myself from them this year. Considering its my last year of high school, thank the lord, I will be in college next year.

I honestly love being around people and part of a crowd but, it seems like people just don't like me. I'm never good enough for them. Am I really that bad of a person? What can I do at college to not be so transparent and obsolete?

[Sailor Mars]

It's really the repetitive "Well if they don't ___ they aren't your real friends" in this case. Friends should value each other's opinions and ideas and build off of them, not just a select few.

Also, for college, it isn't something about yourself that's wrong. You're a good dude, you just need to wait to meet the right people. If anything, introducing yourself to a few people and get along with them, and maybe build your own group.

[Atlantis]

I agree with what The FM Mars has said above. You can't be friends with everyone (sorry to put that across so harshly). Try to meet a few new people, that might help.

[amgb]

Hi Francisco~ I've had a similar experience at my previous school, I understand where you're coming from. I had 'friends' who I more or less preferred to call acquaintances and classmates since they never really took notice of me. Whenever I sat with them at break they'd never so much as glance at me, and whenever I said anything they simply talked over me. When I wanted to hang out after school, they rejected me. I was only spoken to when they had something to say that they wanted me to listen to. It's beyond unfair. I know it's hard to speak up and have a voice when you feel that nobody even listens to you or values what you say. I also learned to distance myself and become silent. Every single person deserves to be listened to and to have a voice. Sometimes when friends have other friends, they'll tend to stick together in a group and push aside the less important people to them. If you're not important to someone, making them important to you will overtime cause you more hurt than it's worth.

You are good enough exactly the way you are. Going to college will be a big step, but it'll be one that you could be so proud of once you start loving the place. Step forward and make yourself seen. Start a conversation with someone you don't know. Be friendly (which I know you already are:)) and be open. You will find the right people to keep in your life as friends. You will~

[Zachary G]

I always say, everything is not for everybody, and I think that applies to people as well. So, that being said, it could be the group you have included yourself in is not the place for you to be however, when you get to college you should focus more on your studies first and finding friends later. There are going to be times you will have to pair up with someone for a project or something like that, and lets not forget your possible roommate -- those could be opportunities for you to meet and make new friends who would enjoy your company and your voices. Dont give up and dont stress it, it will all come together for you in time.