To feminine?

[chris97]

So my gf says I act to feminine and that she doesn't know how to feel about us dating because of it. Is there a way I can act more manly or somthing? Not sure if this is the right area to post this😅

[West Coast Sheriff]

If she doesn't appreciate who you are, maybe she isn't worth it.

If you are willing to change for her, it shows a great amount of effort and that should be appreciated. I don't know what you do that she considers feminine so, I can't say anything else.

[Sailor Mars]

In my opinion, fuck her opinion.

Masculinity shouldn't be defined by how much hair is on your sack and how many raw eggs you can chug. If she thinks you act too much like a girl and says she doesn't want to date you because of it, tell her to check her priorities about shoving her hand up her nose and resetting her brain from 1920 to 2016.

Bottom line, there are no ways to be more masculine and more feminine. Be yourself and act the way you feel is natural.

And I'm positive John is gonna get on this thread so hard lmao

[Uniquemind]

Counter her with wit, and press for details and specifics.

If she can't provide those, it's due to an emotional context issue. Sometimes that's repairable and other times it's not and it implies you aren't compatible.

[Straya]

if she wants to change you then she isnt the right person for you to be dating. id be dumping her and finding someone who likes you for who you are

[Tesserax]

Do you love her? And more importantly, does she love you? Ask yourself this, then ask her this.

A relationship should be based on the emotional connection between the minds of two people. If you two truly love each other, you will be willing to overlook undesirable traits that the other has in order to maintain a relationship.

Tell her this, tell her that if you want to make it work, then you both have to actually work to make it happen. Relationships aren't all sunshine and rainbows for free, hard work and effort must first be put in to reap the rewards. Talk with her about it, it might not go so well, but you know what? It's okay, it happens, and you move on eventually and find somebody else.

But, in the case it goes well, talk to her about it. Tell her, if you're acting like this naturally, then at least she knows who you are, and if she doesn't like who you are then you shouldn't be together.

Looks are important, and I will admit that I actively look for looks in a partner, but I never neglect the unseen characteristics of a person, this is important. If she is not willing to accept you, then she doesn't deserve you, you deserve better. Personally, I don't mind if my girl acts boyish, as long as she doesn't get too rough in bed (yes I'm still a virgin, I'm just saying, I've seen some weird shit online (fine, I watch porn you happy?)). But you get the point, different people like different things, maybe she doesn't like you as much as you initially thought.

But all that aside, good luck man, I hope it goes well. If it doesn't, then remember what Rocky said: "It ain't about how hard you hit, it's about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward, how much you can take and keep moving forward."

As always, good luck in your ventures, and may you be guided for Eternity

[targaryen101]

that is the craziest thing I have ever heard! you should NEVER change for ANYBODY! unless of course what you currently are is dangerous to you or others, and in this case it clearly isn't! I am exactly the same, I was raised constantly around girls, always being the only boy etc my mannerisms are a little feminine. but what literally means NOTHING! If your girlfriend doesn't like this about you and it is who you are she is not worth it (as hard as it might be) If she wants a grunting beer drinking, voice deeper than the depths of hell douche bag then that not your problem. always be yourself if you want to change for her then thats great but do so carefully. (hope this helped) sorry if it was a bit blunt but its a big issue facing men in todays society where we care seen as personality trait that were acceptable for the past 300 years. times have changed and we dont have to be a cliche anymore, we dont have to be what society assumes we have to be...think about it

[amgb]

This is the right area:)

You don't have to worry about being more masculine or less feminine, plus if you feel you have to 'act' something out, signs are it's just not you. Be who you are and don't be afraid of what your girlfriend thinks. If she truly accepts you, she will embrace you as a person. I know it's difficult when you so badly want to change to please someone, especially in relationships. I would say for you to talk to her about how you feel, let her know that if she wants to date you she needs to be comfortable around the way you are. But I agree with the above, don't ever change for anybody, yeah?

[tovaris]

To feminine as in what? did she say anything in particular?

Always keep in mind that this is you, and acting otherwhise wouldnt be you...

[chris97]

Thanks for all the responses guys there actually helped a lot and I will talk to her next time is she her. she did say what she meant though it seems I tend to be overdramatic and just have the general personality or a girl or so she says but I don't see why I should change as you all have said so thanks for your help.

[Zachary G]

Umm, yeah, you are who you are and there is no changing that no matter what you do. If she cant appreciate you for the person you are, then maybe shes not the one for you. Apparently when she agreed to be your gf she liked the person you are, but now something has changed and she doesnt? Whats that all about? I think you need to ask her to explain herself then you need to decide if she is the right fit for you. Why should you change the real you for anyone?

[Body odah Man]

So my gf says I act to feminine and that she doesn't know how to feel about us dating because of it. Is there a way I can act more manly or somthing? Not sure if this is the right area to post this😅

If she wants you to adhere to popular misconceptions on how males have to act then she just ain't worth it bro.

[Bluebyrd]

Just be yourself, man. If she can't accept you for you then she isn't the one.