No crying this time I swear.

[Professional Russian]

Ok so onwards forwards. Anyways so I've started talking to this new girl. I've known her for years, since 5th grade, but we just started talking with in the last 2 months. Well I've started falling again I think but this ones different. There's some very good signs for me and we are very similar, want the same things in life, hell we even want to move to the same state. So yeah but I'm having a couple problems yet still. First off we're both very bad at relationships and all of our prior ones have failed horribly. Second we both fear the other person leaving and no matter how much I promise to her I'm not going anywhere she doesn't believe it and no matter how much she promises me I still have a hard time accepting it. So there's those 2 things plus I have no clue how to really ask her. I've never had to before everything's just fallen into place for me so I'm not sure exactly what I want to do. She says she enjoys talking to me, she always has a different look in her eyes when I talk to her, she already knows I want to ask her out, she never rejected it or anything just said she knew. There's some other signs too but they aren't too appropriate for here since they were in a rather sexual conversation. Any advice for me from anyone? Should I act now or wait alittle longer? anybody at all please?

[amgb]

It seems like you both really enjoy being in the company of each other, despite the fears and the mistrust. Initiating new relationships are always tricky, especially when your past ones were bad experiences and didn't work out. To be honest, I've always lived by the seize-your-chances-when-you-can kinda mindset, and it works. Sometimes. There's the down side that you could tend to take really careless risks, but you know I think you've gotta be able to take at least some small risks to be able to grow as a person. So I'd say act now; and if you're asking someone out I think it's best to do it in person, however that's like a personal choice and everybody's different. From what you've said, I can already see a lot of good signs between you and her. Use that little bit of confidence to gear yourself forward. Things will fail and go badly every now and then, but not all the time. If you never ask, you'll never know. Good luck~ You'll be okay, trust yourself:)

[West Coast Sheriff]

we both fear the other person leaving and no matter how much I promise to her I'm not going anywhere she doesn't believe it and no matter how much she promises me I still have a hard time accepting it. So there's those 2 things plus I have no clue how to really ask her. I've never had to before everything's just fallen into place for me so I'm not sure exactly what I want to do. She says she enjoys talking to me, she always has a different look in her eyes when I talk to her, she already knows I want to ask her out, she never rejected it or anything just said she knew.

It seems like you both really like each other. I say go for it. If you're both committed, then the relationship could last. Just remember relationships always take work and that you guys still need to be as affectionate as you were when you began talking as you are when you've been together for years. It's worth risking. If you don't take the risk, then you'll be apart anyways.

[Uniquemind]

Go for it, and flirt up a storm, and be brazen and less self-conscious, but be subtle and smooth yet intensely clear there's a sexual overtone to your body language and puns.

Then simply provide a date, a movie suggestion, and ask if they're free.

[Professional Russian]

It seems like you both really enjoy being in the company of each other, despite the fears and the mistrust. Initiating new relationships are always tricky, especially when your past ones were bad experiences and didn't work out. To be honest, I've always lived by the seize-your-chances-when-you-can kinda mindset, and it works. Sometimes. There's the down side that you could tend to take really careless risks, but you know I think you've gotta be able to take at least some small risks to be able to grow as a person. So I'd say act now; and if you're asking someone out I think it's best to do it in person, however that's like a personal choice and everybody's different. From what you've said, I can already see a lot of good signs between you and her. Use that little bit of confidence to gear yourself forward. Things will fail and go badly every now and then, but not all the time. If you never ask, you'll never know. Good luck~ You'll be okay, trust yourself:)

It seems like you both really like each other. I say go for it. If you're both committed, then the relationship could last. Just remember relationships always take work and that you guys still need to be as affectionate as you were when you began talking as you are when you've been together for years. It's worth risking. If you don't take the risk, then you'll be apart anyways.

Thanks guys. I'm talking to so many different people about this, including some of her friends, and they're all saying the same thing. Go for it. So I've got one more person to talk cause they're really close and she's gonna tell me how I should do it. I'm so excited its not even funny. I want this so bad. Anyone else want to chime in and say how I should do it?
Go for it, and flirt up a storm, and be brazen and less self-conscious, but be subtle and smooth yet intensely clear there's a sexual overtone to your body language and puns.

Then simply provide a date, a movie suggestion, and ask if they're free.

I can provide the date, but I don't do anything for free so I'll probably end up dumping a boat load of money into it like I always do but it'll totally be worth it. I think I can do this

I still think our biggest problem will be lack of trust of the other leaving. I know I have a very hard time with that and she does to honestly neither of us want to go through that heart break again but because of us both being like that I think that itd work great because we both want the same thing. A relationship that lasts where we're always together so I'm just real hopeful for this...real hopeful.

[amgb]

Thanks guys. I'm talking to so many different people about this, including some of her friends, and they're all saying the same thing. Go for it. So I've got one more person to talk cause they're really close and she's gonna tell me how I should do it. I'm so excited its not even funny. I want this so bad. Anyone else want to chime in and say how I should do it?

I still think our biggest problem will be lack of trust of the other leaving. I know I have a very hard time with that and she does to honestly neither of us want to go through that heart break again but because of us both being like that I think that itd work great because we both want the same thing. A relationship that lasts where we're always together so I'm just real hopeful for this...real hopeful.

It's good you can have someone to talk to about the approach. I'm glad you're excited, because I have a good feeling about this too:) Not sure how you should do it, as I said it's a personal choice and it's more up to what she (-girl you like and want to ask out) is comfortable with. This helps me; maybe rehearse lines and conversations in your head a little bit before asking her out - but don't do this too excessively or you could end up with a cloud of anxiety around you that she might pick up on. Be yourself, I know that's pretty over-rated advice but it's honestly the best thing to do in life wherever you go and whoever you're with.

And that's another thing; hoping for the best but expecting the worst. Don't let your past block out chances infront of you, the past does not make the future. What you do in the present will decide the future. Have more trust because not all things are bad. You both want the same thing, and that is enough to say that maybe there is a little hope for all this to happen~

[Professional Russian]

It's good you can have someone to talk to about the approach. I'm glad you're excited, because I have a good feeling about this too:) Not sure how you should do it, as I said it's a personal choice and it's more up to what she (-girl you like and want to ask out) is comfortable with. This helps me; maybe rehearse lines and conversations in your head a little bit before asking her out - but don't do this too excessively or you could end up with a cloud of anxiety around you that she might pick up on. Be yourself, I know that's pretty over-rated advice but it's honestly the best thing to do in life wherever you go and whoever you're with.

And that's another thing; hoping for the best but expecting the worst. Don't let your past block out chances infront of you, the past does not make the future. What you do in the present will decide the future. Have more trust because not all things are bad. You both want the same thing, and that is enough to say that maybe there is a little hope for all this to happen~

The past actually has alot to do with this because worked withy ex and was there when me and my ex broke up and knew the whole and saw what I did and liked it, in the end I went to her for something but it turned into so much more and the fact that right after I finished that last post she texted me, I tell her good morning and and have a nice day every single day and this morning she texted me telling me thanks for telling her that everyday..she must be having a bad already. Ill ask her about it later and see how she's feeling. I think that's another good sign though

[amgb]

The past actually has alot to do with this because worked withy ex and was there when me and my ex broke up and knew the whole and saw what I did and liked it, in the end I went to her for something but it turned into so much more and the fact that right after I finished that last post she texted me, I tell her good morning and and have a nice day every single day and this morning she texted me telling me thanks for telling her that everyday..she must be having a bad already. Ill ask her about it later and see how she's feeling. I think that's another good sign though

I'm sorry about your ex, the break-up must have been pretty tough on you :/
If she was there to see that break-up, I think she must know you really well. I hope she's doing okay, it's really good of you to care about her. Being able to talk to each other every day, even if it's just a small simple 'have a great day' or 'good morning', it could mean so much to her. Yeah I hope all goes well with asking her out:)

[Professional Russian]

I'm sorry about your ex, the break-up must have been pretty tough on you :/
If she was there to see that break-up, I think she must know you really well. I hope she's doing okay, it's really good of you to care about her. Being able to talk to each other every day, even if it's just a small simple 'have a great day' or 'good morning', it could mean so much to her. Yeah I hope all goes well with asking her out:)

It was very hard on me, just go look at my old posts and it'll tell the story multiple times. I just got off work, its 11:45 now. I texted her at 11 and we've been talking for 20 minutes. Even late at night we'll still talk. And it's just so fucking nice to have.