this gif, how often?

[tovaris]

How often have you done this? (if at all)

http://45.media.tumblr.com/68e6f11f6d6352c41369e0c68de6359f/tumblr_o1bcrprm9P1v5tf9po1_400.gif

[Jinglebottom]

I've never done this.

[Hudor]

I've thought about it, yes. For like three or four people, I've had this conversation mentally(once very recently) but its a passing thing and whenever i feel like saying this to the person in question, i kind of start getting over it.
It's like whenever i think about how much i think i need my crush, i sleep over it or do something to get my mind off it and with a fresh mind it feels stupid that i should rely on someone else for my own happiness. So that's basically how i deal with those pangs of longing.

[Emerald Dream]

I've thought about this a lot, but never actually typed most of it out - simply for fear of blanking out for a few seconds (or getting distracted by something else) and accidentally sending the message.

[West Coast Sheriff]

How often have you done this? (if at all)

image (http://45.media.tumblr.com/68e6f11f6d6352c41369e0c68de6359f/tumblr_o1bcrprm9P1v5tf9po1_400.gif)

I have done it a lot. In the past, I actually would press send on that kind of long text if I'd been drinking (not proud of that). A bout six months ago, I realized that anyone I have or have had feelings for will only want to be around me if I'm happy or at least appear to be. If I show I'm sad, I'll drag them down. I don't want to do that. So I don't even think about typing it out anymore because, I just want that person to feel happy. I want to do everything to make them smile. I feel like it's better if I try to bring out the best of them rather than making them have to try and bring out the best of me.

[Merk]

Wow... ive done this many times...shit...im speechless...this makes me feel better knowing I'm not alone. :(

[maniamsmart]

I've done it quite a few times, but I end up telling them eventually after re-writing and erasing it a few times even xD

[Abhorrence]

Not done this exactly but I've written how much someone has pissed me off in their chat log before deleting it and just not replying.

[DoodleSnap]

I kinda did this before entering my first romantic relationship. I just find it easier and healthier to be honest and open with people nowadays.

[Uniquemind]

I haven't felt that way about or thought that way about crushes and attractions and rejections or acceptances since I was in grade school (around 7-8).

You have to stop seeing relationships or the desire for a certain person, as a metaphor for desiring a toy on a shelf at a store that makes you happy but is denied you.

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I've been on the receiving end of such messages and it is awkward.


It's like how am I supposed to respond to that?!

I get that your upset, but I can't shake the feeling that person is rubbing off responsibilities of managing their emotional state based on how I react to them.

If hypothetically I had not rejected them, how solid a foundation emotionally will they provide me if I needed to lean on them for support.

It feels like a manipulative guilt trip, and it causes me to distance myself from them until that person can find their centered calm self.


I hear social talk about "objectification" all the time, but nobody talks about this side of it.

[Babs]

Nah, never. A little like those melodramatic Best of Tumblr facebook posts imo.

[everlong]

Maybe in my head, but never actually typed out.

[Typhlosion]

Not really.

[amgb]

The amount of times I've wanted to send this to someone...I never did and probably never will. I can express how I feel but it's more a matter of if I choose to or not~

[Shiny Moon]

Never did. I'm always super honest with my feelings, I don't like to save this kind of stuff for myself because in the end it could be really bad for me.

[Moriya]

I've done this plenty of times...

[Micheal99]

yo <3