Does she know?

[Tesserax]

Okay here's the thing, I asked a girl out for lunch and maybe a movie over the weekend. However, I'm thinking that maybe the reason I gave for it may have given the wrong message. I basically told her look, she's been a really great friend for me, she's looked out and been there for me and the least I can do to thank her for what she's done is take her out for lunch (my treat) and a movie. She accepted, which is nice, but now I'm thinking and I'm worried about what she thinks.

Here's the thing, I actually want to date her, and I kind of like her and I want to make it happen, but I'm not sure if she knows that this is what I want. Did I maybe make it a bit ambiguous? Or did I just straight up make it seem like just a friendly lunch between two friends? If I asked you in this manner what would you be thinking?

I'm just worried that I'll be going there with false hope that she might be interested in actually dating me, only to be shut down. I just want to know now, is it possible that she may think it's just a meeting between friends?

If there's a chance that she doesn't know, what's a good way I could ask her casually without making things awkward?

[DoodleSnap]

A good piece of advice someone gave to me: We spend far too much time worrying about and obsessing over things that will never happen.

Basically, you're worrying about something that hasn't happened yet.
If you want it to be romantic: then send the conversation that way. You can't know how she feels unless you inquire.
It may be tough, but you have to be honest for a relationship to work.

Good luck.

[Tesserax]

A good piece of advice someone gave to me: We spend far too much time worrying about and obsessing over things that will never happen.

Basically, you're worrying about something that hasn't happened yet.
If you want it to be romantic: then send the conversation that way. You can't know how she feels unless you inquire.
It may be tough, but you have to be honest for a relationship to work.

Good luck.

Well I asked her, and I'm glad I did because well, she doesn't want a relationship. It's a shame, but luckily I didn't embarrass myself

[West Coast Sheriff]

Assume it's a friendly date. You can always say something flirtatiously to hint at wanting something more. Things can always grow but, you should allow them to grow somewhat slowly.

[DoodleSnap]

Well I asked her, and I'm glad I did because well, she doesn't want a relationship. It's a shame, but luckily I didn't embarrass myself

Good job dude - now you know.

See, any good relationship is based on communication and honesty. You were honest and told her how you felt, and she did the same, and now you're both on the same page. It seems terrifying to think about what someone else thinks, but really, you just have to speak to them about it.

I hope it goes well :)