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[Hero.of.Hyrule]

Hi everyone. So yesterday i went to the mall with my crush and our conversation somehow led to him metioning that he is straight. I got really heart broken because i've liked this guy ( A LOT) for about a year now and i was really hoping to come out as gay to him but then he metioned that. I kinda feel upset right now because of that. I know we can still be friends but i was really hoping to become something more than that with him. Has any other gay/male out there been through something like this? Or has anyone at all shared a similiar experience? How did you move on / get through it? Thanks.

[paul955]

Yup, I've been there lots of times and I hate to say that this is probably going to happen again in the future to you. Unfortunately, it's just a part of being gay. There's lots more straight guys than gay guys and the chances of us ending up crushing on a straight guy are higher.

I think you should be happy that he told you he was straight passively in conversation without things getting awkward. It could have been you in the middle of professing your love to him and then him shutting you down and feeling too awkward to keep the friendship going.

When it happened to me, I just started crushing on other guys to get over the heart break. With time I learned to kind of figure out guys sexuality before letting a crush develop.

[DoodleSnap]

Having a crush on a straight guy is something that pretty much every guy that likes guys will go through. And as many others will tell you, I'm sure: you can't make them not-straight.

All you can do, I'm sorry to say, is to be a friend to him. Maybe one day he'll find something in himself that tells him that he isn't straight, but do not hold your breath.

What you have to do now is move on. Keep on keepin' on, and just be yourself. There are people out there, who will value you for you, so live life for finding them.

Good luck.

[AutumnWinds]

Hi everyone. So yesterday i went to the mall with my crush and our conversation somehow led to him metioning that he is straight. I got really heart broken because i've liked this guy ( A LOT) for about a year now and i was really hoping to come out as gay to him but then he metioned that. I kinda feel upset right now because of that. I know we can still be friends but i was really hoping to become something more than that with him. Has any other gay/male out there been through something like this? Or has anyone at all shared a similiar experience? How did you move on / get through it? Thanks.

i'm a bisexual female, but i've been in a similar place before. it's really hard, especially if you thought they might not be straight to begin with. the only real advice i can give you is to just give it time to sink in. it still stinks, but it gets easier once it's set in that they just don't share your sexuality. :wub:

if you need to vent don't be afraid to drop me a line.:)

[Karkat]

It's going to be hard, but time is honestly the best healer. Try to focus on hobbies, taking care of yourself. All that jazz. Try not to jump into any relationships or anything (some people do it as a way to 'get over' the person but it doesn't work. Believe me.)

Just remember that it'll be ok, you'll find someone someday. You might want to cut back if you're spending a lot of time with them (it's hard to get over someone if you're constantly around them). Don't AVOID him, but don't go out of your way to be around him right now.

Good luck. Shit's hard.

(Also I love your username. Big Zelda fan here. I'm actually finishing up a 100% run of OOT today, and starting on Twilight Princess soon)

[Merk]

I have been chatting with a girl I think I know on girls ask guys for a long time we used to be good friends... I let myself say I loved her.. I didnt got a reply and then she deleTed her account... is this my fault?...

[Zachary G]

Its really difficult having a crush on a straight boy, especially after crushing on him for so long. I dont think you will ever get over it, especially if you are going to remain friends with him, those feelings will still be there. When my crush told me he was straight, I just told him I wasnt, but that didnt change anything between us. We are still friends and I still crush on him very hard, but I made boundaries for us and I dare not cross them because I value his friendship too much.

[Saibot2612]

I am really confused about this girl. She's really pretty, smart, funny and nice but she's been a friend to me for a while. I'm positive I'm not gay (I have tested many times and it's simply not for me) I started to feel attracted to her, but when we talked I saw her as a friend and nothing more. Do I objectify women, am I asexual or is she in the friend zone. I have no idea how I feel about her and why:confused:confused: