technically im a heteroflexible demiboy but

[old.acc]

i technically identidy as a heteroflexible demiboy but 99% of the just time i identify as a straight "full-"boy. i think it just saves me a lot of hassle and weird looks to not identify as heteroflexible and a demiboy (especially since barely anyone even knows what either of these are). is this a normal thing to do? does it still count as being closeted if i feel no desire to tell anyone? and if so, would the lgbt community and my friends within it look down on me for it?

sorry to ask so many unimportant questions but i kinda just want to know how my lgbt would feel about me not telling anyone about this

c:

[Moriya]

It's your choice to identify as whoever/whatever you like. I don't think [and especially hope] your own community [LGBT] won't look down on you for choosing not to tell your identity. I mean, I told a couple of LGBT people that I chose not to tell my parents my identity and they never judged me.

Err...sorry if this isn't really good advice. I'm trying to understand your question a bit....

[old.acc]

It's your choice to identify as whoever/whatever you like. I don't think [and especially hope] your own community [LGBT] won't look down on you for choosing not to tell your identity. I mean, I told a couple of LGBT people that I chose not to tell my parents my identity and they never judged me.

Err...sorry if this isn't really good advice. I'm trying to understand your question a bit....

yea sorry i worded that entire thing quite awkwardly
i was just trying to piece together the thoughts at the back of my head
anyway thanks for the reply c:

[Hudor]

See the labels you identify with concern only you. They are for your own better understanding of yourself and no one else has any business to do with them. It is completely your choice to call yourself straight instead of heteroflexible demiboy and no one has any reason to look down on you for it. I would define closeted as being afraid to present yourself as who you are and pretending to identify with something you aren't. I assume that's not the case for you. So i don't think anyone has any reason to look down on you for it.

[DoodleSnap]

If I'm quite honest - I really don't think that worrying about what labels mean what, and which ones that you want to share with people will get you all that far. My best advice, and I know that it is easier said than done, is to just go through life and keep your mind open: experience will teach you what's best for you. If someone asks, just tell 'em that you're mostly straight, but wouldn't rule out a relationship with other genders.

[old.acc]

See the labels you identify with concern only you. They are for your own better understanding of yourself and no one else has any business to do with them. It is completely your choice to call yourself straight instead of heteroflexible demiboy and no one has any reason to look down on you for it. I would define closeted as being afraid to present yourself as who you are and pretending to identify with something you aren't. I assume that's not the case for you. So i don't think anyone has any reason to look down on you for it.

If I'm quite honest - I really don't think that worrying about what labels mean what, and which ones that you want to share with people will get you all that far. My best advice, and I know that it is easier said than done, is to just go through life and keep your mind open: experience will teach you what's best for you. If someone asks, just tell 'em that you're mostly straight, but wouldn't rule out a relationship with other genders.

thanks guys c:

[Hermes]

To me the dangers of being closetted are:

1. Denying yourself the chance of a fulfilling sexual/romantic relationship because of what that would reveal to others about you.
2. Mismanaging the expectations of others, i.e. stringing them along.
3. The emotional exhaustion of the pretence needed for number 2 above.

Those don't see very likely when we're talking about subtle shades rather than one side of the scale to the other.

[UNKNOWN8198]

Personally I only identify as 'gay' to the people that I'm out to, but technically I'm a 'bi-romantic homosexual', and I don't talk about my gender because I haven't a clue. I find it far easier to go with the basics, because it removes any confusion about the fact, and I don't have to worry about the 'Chinese whispers' effect happening and people going, 'so you're bi?'.

If you are happy being classed as a straight guy, then there is no reason for you to tell people any different, and other people show not treat you differently for how you choose to label yourself, even if it isn't the whole picture. I also wouldn't say you are closeted, unless you feel that you are lying when you tell people you are a straight guy, and even then, that's not a bad thing if you feel you would be misunderstood. The problem with the more specific classifications is that 'generally' only people who have felt the need to classify themselves, know what they mean, which isn't that helpful for those people who then use them:whoops:.

[Karkat]

No one worth listening to in the queer community is going to give you shit for not wanting to come out. It's not some necessary rite of gay passage. I think some would like to think it is, but they're full of shit.

You do you, and if anyone gives you shit for it, remove them from your life or ignore them. It's none of their business.