Girls, I need your opinion on this...

[BondJamesBond]

Alright, I wasn't sure if I should've posted this here or in the relationship section, since it kinda goes both ways, but I'll take my chances.

My girlfriend got pissed at me yesterday, and still is, apparently, since she's not answering my messages, or picks up her phone when I call. Yesterday, we finally had some time to ourselves, and that was the first time since before Christmas. I was very excited about it, too excited in fact, as I after making out with her for about 20 minutes or so, couldn't hold it anymore. Putting it bluntly, I came in my pants, and wasn't good for anything for the next half hour. My girlfriend became furious. Okay, I can't blame her for being disappointed, since our alone-times is a rare luxury, but personally I think she was over-reacting.

My question for you, girls, is this. If this would happen to your boyfriend, would you be mad at him? Yell at him? Call him things I'm not going to repeat on here? Ignore his calls and messages?

Thank you for your time. Erik out.

[HououinKiyoma]

Over-reacting probably

[Vanilla Cupcake]

Alright, I wasn't sure if I should've posted this here or in the relationship section, since it kinda goes both ways, but I'll take my chances.

My girlfriend got pissed at me yesterday, and still is, apparently, since she's not answering my messages, or picks up her phone when I call. Yesterday, we finally had some time to ourselves, and that was the first time since before Christmas. I was very excited about it, too excited in fact, as I after making out with her for about 20 minutes or so, couldn't hold it anymore. Putting it bluntly, I came in my pants, and wasn't good for anything for the next half hour. My girlfriend became furious. Okay, I can't blame her for being disappointed, since our alone-times is a rare luxury, but personally I think she was over-reacting.

My question for you, girls, is this. If this would happen to your boyfriend, would you be mad at him? Yell at him? Call him things I'm not going to repeat on here? Ignore his calls and messages?

Thank you for your time. Erik out.

No way! I can't believe she did that wow! I would never be mad about that. It would be great though if you ended up pleasing her sexually in other ways so she did t feel jipped lol

[ashdyn]

That's a bit of an over reaction. I get being disappointed any whatnot but not mad enough to yell or anything. Did you make an effort to try to go down on her at least? Like to make it up to her? Also....was she like rubbing you or something that caused you to cum? I mean hands free/no contact cumming is pretty rare. If she was you could've told her to slow down or that you were close.

There's no real way to fix this. If she's not answering your texts or calls just give her some space. Check back in 2-3 days. If she's still pissed well she's just a bitch. Get mad at her if she gives you a shitty BJ one day lol

[Bluebyrd]

Gee she sounds like a bit of a bitch. LOL that's definitely overreacting, especially since you can't help it. She should treat that as a compliment!

[BlackParadePixie]

yeeeaaahhh...she's totally over reacting.

[Uranus]

Seems like she loves dick more than you

[Emerald Dream]

Granted she may have been disappointed, but that's grossly overreacting. Completely agree, from my point of view.

[Harrier]

If she continues to ignore you then yes she not only over reacted but she's not nice. But it's only one day right, or less than that even. Maybe she's as embarrassed as you and doesn't know how to react. You both could've handled it differently and better but people are supposed to learn right? Next time when you think you're gonna cum tell her, better yet before you get close to cumming prematurely do something to avoid it like thinking of something gross or getting up to play music or light candle and that will calm you down and by the time you come back to her you can move on to sex. She should've taken it as a compliment, not freaked out, and let you have time to give it another go. In the meantime you could've gone down on her.

[BondJamesBond]

Thanks for your comments, everyone. Yeah, I definitely thought she was overreacting, and what really puzzled me over her reaction, is that it happened a couple of times after we got together, but those times she just found it a bit amusing, and it was no big deal.
We definitely have to talk when she's calm enough.

Thanks again. :)

[AutumnWinds]

i think she is overreacting in a HUGE way. i mean sure it's not the best situation, but stuff happens. what can you do? i don't think you did anything wrong.


Alright, I wasn't sure if I should've posted this here or in the relationship section, since it kinda goes both ways, but I'll take my chances.

My girlfriend got pissed at me yesterday, and still is, apparently, since she's not answering my messages, or picks up her phone when I call. Yesterday, we finally had some time to ourselves, and that was the first time since before Christmas. I was very excited about it, too excited in fact, as I after making out with her for about 20 minutes or so, couldn't hold it anymore. Putting it bluntly, I came in my pants, and wasn't good for anything for the next half hour. My girlfriend became furious. Okay, I can't blame her for being disappointed, since our alone-times is a rare luxury, but personally I think she was over-reacting.

My question for you, girls, is this. If this would happen to your boyfriend, would you be mad at him? Yell at him? Call him things I'm not going to repeat on here? Ignore his calls and messages?

Thank you for your time. Erik out.

[Moriya]

Totally overreacting. I mean, is it really that serious? :what:

[playfull-qt]

Totally overreacting, after all it was her that got you so excited in the first place. What you could have done was let her sit back, relax, and "take care of her" while you recharged.

[BondJamesBond]

Totally overreacting, after all it was her that got you so excited in the first place. What you could have done was let her sit back, relax, and "take care of her" while you recharged.

Yeah, that was my intention, but then she fled off the handle, before I could do anything.

[playfull-qt]

Yeah, that was my intention, but then she fled off the handle, before I could do anything.

Well I hope you have / had a chance to talk to her since "it" happened. Personally I don't see it as a big deal but she does so if you get the chance do your best to make it up to her.

Just a thought ..... would it help if you mbated b4 your with her the next time so things don't get messy so quickly?

[AutumnWinds]

i mean, it's just my opinion, but it seems to me like we're all focusing on the sexual aspect and not the emotional one. this is 100% your relationship, not mine or anyone else's on here, but i just wonder if it's really worth being in a relationship where someone freaks out that badly just because of something so unimportant. i think that's the thing to work on before worrying about how to better please someone sexually. again, though, just my two cents.

[angelina]

You need not jump in to any conclusion...probe in to those things which prompted her to act like that...there should be some reason..keep your selves in her place and try to analyse for a solution...good luck

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[BondJamesBond]

Well I hope you have / had a chance to talk to her since "it" happened. Personally I don't see it as a big deal but she does so if you get the chance do your best to make it up to her.

Just a thought ..... would it help if you mbated b4 your with her the next time so things don't get messy so quickly?

I did, spoke with her on the phone today, but it was a weird conversation. While I tried to talk about what happened, she avoided it, and asked me random stuff. I don't have a good feeling about this, to be honest.

It would, normally I do it before meeting her when it's been a while, but it slipped my mind this time, so that one's on me, for sure.

i mean, it's just my opinion, but it seems to me like we're all focusing on the sexual aspect and not the emotional one. this is 100% your relationship, not mine or anyone else's on here, but i just wonder if it's really worth being in a relationship where someone freaks out that badly just because of something so unimportant. i think that's the thing to work on before worrying about how to better please someone sexually. again, though, just my two cents.

I've been asking myself the same question since the awkward conversation as mentioned above. I love her very much, but when she can snap over something like that, she can snap over other things as well.

[AutumnWinds]

sorry she wouldn't even discuss it with you. that's a crummy situation o be in :(


I did, spoke with her on the phone today, but it was a weird conversation. While I tried to talk about what happened, she avoided it, and asked me random stuff. I don't have a good feeling about this, to be honest.

It would, normally I do it before meeting her when it's been a while, but it slipped my mind this time, so that one's on me, for sure.



I've been asking myself the same question since the awkward conversation as mentioned above. I love her very much, but when she can snap over something like that, she can snap over other things as well.

[BondJamesBond]

sorry she wouldn't even discuss it with you. that's a crummy situation o be in :(

Thanks. Yeah, it is, but I'm going to give her a few more days to come talk this through. If not, game over. :(

[AutumnWinds]

Thanks. Yeah, it is, but I'm going to give her a few more days to come talk this through. If not, game over. :(

that's gotta be really hard, but i really think you're doing the right thing. :wub: if you need ot talk or vent or anything i'm more than pilling to listen. :whoops:

[BondJamesBond]

that's gotta be really hard, but i really think you're doing the right thing. :wub: if you need ot talk or vent or anything i'm more than pilling to listen. :whoops:

It really is, I love her, but she seems unstable, to be honest. I think so too.
Thank you very much, I really appreciate it. :whoops:

[AutumnWinds]

It really is, I love her, but she seems unstable, to be honest. I think so too.
Thank you very much, I really appreciate it. :whoops:

anytime. good luck!

[angelina]

Thanks. Yeah, it is, but I'm going to give her a few more days to come talk this through. If not, game over. :(

That is the right decision...give her some more time..if needed you can get the assistance of a mediator who may be a trusted person understands both of you

[Uniquemind]

It really is, I love her, but she seems unstable, to be honest. I think so too.
Thank you very much, I really appreciate it. :whoops:

I'd keep my red flags up, she definitely lacks patience and is impulsive. That almost never bodes well for the long-term.

You're going to have to have a talk regarding communication, and to be honest that quality or behavior of like just avoiding talking about major stuff that goes down in a relationship, is deal-breaker unless that behavior can get resolved.

I'll end a relationship if my partner ever does that and can't be honest with me and help solve a relationship hurtle together.

[BondJamesBond]

Thank you all again for your input, I really appreciate it. :)

We're on a break now, reason I haven't ended it is because there's something wrong with her, she's been acting weird around friends and family as well, giving replies that make no sense whatsoever, going crazy over little things, etc., so she's going to get some professional help. This goes deeper than I first thought.

[Jordan99]

Definitely overreacting. I would be so flattered if a guy shot his load in his pants just from making out with me. I'd even feel empowered by it.

[nicole97]

Definitely not appropriate reactions, glad to hear she's getting help.

[Zachary G]

well, Im no girl but i think it was total overreaction on her side and if anything you would think she would be flattered that she was the one who was able to get you off like that. She was way out of line and if she doesnt reply to your texts or calls, then shes not as interested you as she is in your penis.