I loved her...

[Daily]

For years I loved her, cherished her even. Each day at school her smile, laugh and her eyes filled with the liveliness I lack gave me a reason to feel happy.

Even though she didn't notice me and wiped me off as a weirdo when she did I pardonned her.

But now, this person, who I thought he was an individual of a good kind, as he wasn't a douchebag. He was also shy, introverted. But not anymore. The two have formed a "couple". He stole her joy and magnificence from me.

Now, I won't kill myself, as I am sure she wouldn't feel a tiny bit of guilt for rejecting my love and making a fool of me. If only there was a way to make her feel bad for what she has made me...

[SethfromMI]

um dude, I am sorry you feel heart broken, but she has done absolutely nothing wrong. she was interested in the other guy and not you. I understand you might be hurt and I do feel bad about that, but you got to understand, neither of them did anything wrong whatsoever

[Moriya]

I have actually felt something similar. Someone that used to be my friend ended up with another person, and now they barely talk to me. You can be angry, depressed or revengeful all you want, but in the end, you have to realize that this was a personal decision she made, and you can't change her mind. There are plenty other women out there who a most likely better than her, you just haven't met them yet. But you will soon if you keep your head up! :yes:

[Vanilla Cupcake]

I'm sorry you aren't with this girl that you feel you love, but stay positive, things always happen for a reason and maybe the next girl that comes along was meant to be yours.
Maybe the next girl will be even better! :)
Don't worry about it, just think positive thoughts.

Hugs to you!

[Daily]

um dude, I am sorry you feel heart broken, but she has done absolutely nothing wrong. she was interested in the other guy and not you. I understand you might be hurt and I do feel bad about that, but you got to understand, neither of them did anything wrong whatsoever

By "nothing wrong", I assume you mean that mocking me and reminding me that nobody loves me is ok?"

[SethfromMI]

By "nothing wrong", I assume you mean that mocking me and reminding me that nobody loves me is ok?"

well that part is uncalled for, but her desire to be with someone else there is nothing wrong with that

[AutumnWinds]

For years I loved her, cherished her even. Each day at school her smile, laugh and her eyes filled with the liveliness I lack gave me a reason to feel happy.

Even though she didn't notice me and wiped me off as a weirdo when she did I pardonned her.

But now, this person, who I thought he was an individual of a good kind, as he wasn't a douchebag. He was also shy, introverted. But not anymore. The two have formed a "couple". He stole her joy and magnificence from me.

Now, I won't kill myself, as I am sure she wouldn't feel a tiny bit of guilt for rejecting my love and making a fool of me. If only there was a way to make her feel bad for what she has made me...

um dude, I am sorry you feel heart broken, but she has done absolutely nothing wrong. she was interested in the other guy and not you. I understand you might be hurt and I do feel bad about that, but you got to understand, neither of them did anything wrong whatsoever

well that part is uncalled for, but her desire to be with someone else there is nothing wrong with that

i echo everything that seth's said here.

but i'd like to add to this that you might wanna consider talking to the school therapist (or a therapist outside of school) as well.

there's nothing wrong with you, but i think you know that "loving" someone you don't really talk to isn't the healthiest way to go about things, and the real issue here is that every minute to spend on things like that is one you lose finding a girl who sees you the way you see them, and you deserve to find that. so why not take advantage of someone who can help you figure out how to shift the way you think about things to get you on the right track, you know?

[West Coast Sheriff]

there's nothing wrong with you, but i think you know that "loving" someone you don't really talk to isn't the healthiest way to go about things, and the real issue here is that every minute to spend on things like that is one you lose finding a girl who sees you the way you see them, and you deserve to find that. so why not take advantage of someone who can help you figure out how to shift the way you think about things to get you on the right track, you know?

This was my initial thought when reading this. If I may highlight on this: Friendship, and even more so love, must be mutual. If it's not mutual, it could become an obsession rather than genuine feelings. As I scrolled down, I noticed you claimed she mocked you. It sounds like she is a bully. Why would you be attracted to a bully? If someone intentionally hurt me, I'd walk away from them. Another interpretation could be that she acted this way in reaction to feeling stalked. I don't know the whole situation, therefore I won't try to assess it. However, I recommend finding someone that values you. A friendship has to be mutual, not harmful.
Most of all, I am truly sorry about how she has treated you and that things didn't go the way you intended. I wish you the best of luck in the future.

Hope this was helpful
— The Sheriff

[Uniquemind]

By "nothing wrong", I assume you mean that mocking me and reminding me that nobody loves me is ok?"

In order for that to be wrong, he has to be verbally insulting you directly.

If you feel mocked or insulted simply as a passive reaction of him having something you currently don't, then no that's a conclusion your own brain made up based on how you've chosen to see the world. You're stewing in your own misery.

[Uranus]

I have to agree with SethfromMI (once again :P)
Specifically on the part where she had a desire for someone else. Although it doesn't seem fair, it's her choice and hers alone.
And yes, the way she acted was definitely uncalled for.
I'm sorry to hear this man

[maniamsmart]

Have ya ever ya know, told her you liked her and wanted to be with her?

[Daily]

Have ya ever ya know, told her you liked her and wanted to be with her?

I did. Twice.

[ClaraWho]

On a potentially related note, do you have Aspergers?

This reads to me as someone in serious need of help from a therapist. She owes you nothing, you need to leave them both alone. If she is as you say a bully, then why would you even like her? Seems more that you love the idea of loving her.

You use creepy terms like 'I pardoned her', it's as if you feel people have to treat you a certain way or they deserve revenge.

He didn't 'steal' your joy. He probably didn't even think about you at all. If she wanted to be with you, she'd have said yes. She doesn't. Someone else will. But not until you seek help.

Stop blaming her, him and everyone else for your own mindset.

~ Clara

[amgb]

By "nothing wrong", I assume you mean that mocking me and reminding me that nobody loves me is ok?"

No, that is never okay. If she is purposely mocking you and making you feel miserable about her and the other guy being a couple, I'd suggest for you to talk to her about it and tell her how you feel. But, I really don't think that it is her intention to make you feel that way, I think she just doesn't feel the same way about you as you do with her. I know you loved her, and although I can't say I fully understand how it feels, I have been in a similar position before. Love, whether it's from a distance or with someone close to you, is a tough thing and we can still get hurt from it.

I did. Twice.

It is a huge setback in relationships, I know that. It's rejection, it's hurt, it's loneliness, and sometimes even jealousy. No matter how many times you tell her you like/love her, if she doesn't return those feelings then she doesn't return them. It's not her fault. But it's never your fault either, and it doesn't make you any less of a person. You don't want to get hurt, nobody wants hurt. I want you to love people in your life, if you want to fall in love and be with someone then I would want that for you too. We want everyone we love to return our love, but it's not always like that and we won't always be happy. It's okay. You probably feel alot worse than okay, but dealing with this isn't and will not be easy. Sometimes, we have to loosen our grip on someone we love to be able to let go of a little bit of the hurt. Maybe you will keep loving her from a distance. Or maybe you and her can become really good friends someday. I don't know, but whatever happens, don't let her become your everything. Nobody owns anybody, we all deserve to be treated equally and fairly.

Her feeling bad will not make you feel all better again. Do something for both you and her, for the both of you to feel okay with each other. Feelings often get in the way of our actions as much as it drives us to act, but don't let your feelings control you all the time. Maybe take a breath and step back from the situation for a little while to help cool down the heated emotion; it's no good walking around wearing an extra layer of negativity around you. You'll be okay. If you keep your anger boiled up inside, you will only end up causing more pain to yourself and nobody wants that to happen to you okay?

[CharlieHorse]

I'm sorry, but what kind of sick way is it to try and make someone feel guilty for loving someone else? Life is too damn short to be caught up in shit like this. For your own good, move on.

[Tesserax]

For years I loved her, cherished her even. Each day at school her smile, laugh and her eyes filled with the liveliness I lack gave me a reason to feel happy.

Even though she didn't notice me and wiped me off as a weirdo when she did I pardonned her.

But now, this person, who I thought he was an individual of a good kind, as he wasn't a douchebag. He was also shy, introverted. But not anymore. The two have formed a "couple". He stole her joy and magnificence from me.

Now, I won't kill myself, as I am sure she wouldn't feel a tiny bit of guilt for rejecting my love and making a fool of me. If only there was a way to make her feel bad for what she has made me...

Um, I have to say, that's not how it works. It's not like "I love this thing and it should love me back". To begin with, that's actually quite selfish. Secondly, you *loved* her? How so? Did you think she was pretty, act nice to her, and talk good about her, what did you do? None of it matters if you didn't put her needs above your own. If you truly loved her, you would be happy that she's happy. Clearly that's not the case. You clearly want to make her miserable for not loving you back, that's not love. That's borderline sociopathy, and a pretty manipulative way to think. You honestly need to talk to an adult about this, seriously

[DoodleSnap]

I know that you feel bad about the fact that you didn't get to be with her, but take a moment to think about the situation from her point of view: She doesn't know that you wanted to date her, she doesn't know you all that well, and you didn't take the opportunity to introduce yourself.
She's not a mind reader, so you can't blame her for your pain. I know it's hard, but she is a person too, with her own life, and she has the right to pursue love with other people, regardless of who she has dated in the past, or who hopes to date her in the future. You aren't entitled to her, because a relationship is a two-way thing, not one person longing for another with no reciprocation.

Don't seek revenge: that's not healthy. Seek to better yourself, and find the person that wants to be with you, not an altered version of yourself. Love isn't forged in a heartbeat: give it time.

[Daily]

And when I go see a psychiatrist, what then fuck am I supposed to say heh?

[Karkat]

That's kind of delusional, my dude. No one is obligated to have feelings for you just because you have feelings for them. It's something you'll have to accept, and hopefully soon, because the road this kind of thinking leads to is not where you want to go. This is the kind of thinking that fuels abusive behavior, possessiveness, controlling, even violence. I'm not saying that you are personally doing anything wrong, but the desire to 'get back' at her when she hasn't done anything is not right. It's better to learn that now, and avoid hurting anyone in the future or getting yourself emotionally fucked to the point where you can't have a healthy relationship.

I would suggest telling your psychologist etc how you feel. Tell them exactly this, don't leave anything out. If they're competent, they'll know how to help you or how to refer you to someone who can. Help you learn the healthy way to view relationships, romantic feelings, etc. Because this isn't healthy.

Anyways, yeah, it's awful to have unrequited feelings for someone, but you're never entitled to someone's affection or love just because you feel a certain way for them. I had to learn this as well. Everyone does. It's just a part of life. A shitty one- but hey, if everything went our way, how would we know how to react when things go wrong?

[Emerald Dream]

The OP has been banned. :locked: