Not a guy's type

[ZzeWatermelon]

When you're not physically a guy's type, is there any way you can become his type? Change your appearance, attitude? Is it even possible to become someone's type? Maybe with flirting?
I know that no one should change just to please someone else, but here it's not based on a particular case, it's a general question.

[Babs]

I'm sure you could, but I don't know why anyone would.

[StoppingTom]

Yeah, it's putting someone else over yourself in the worst way. If you're a goth kid and try to make yourself the cheerleader type just for a guy, you're doing yourself more harm than good.

[everlong]

You couldn't physically change who you are. You are who you are. You shouldn't have to.

[Vanilla Cupcake]

That depends what the guy meant by not his type. Can you give more detail?

[Uniquemind]

That depends what the guy meant by not his type. Can you give more detail?

What she said.


Because this is one of those yes AND no questions, depending on the specifics on each case.

It depends on the problem, and if it's just a problem of getting noticed, then maybe.

But if the guy doesn't find you romantically interesting because of personality then no I don't think there is anything worth changing.

Like others have said before, there are situations where I think it's more harmful to pretend to be someone you're not, but I don't take that to mean an absolute policy, because I also believe in putting your best foot forward.

Dating is nothing more than marketing yourself to show what you got, and the other person should be doing the same, and you work you're way from there within the context of a relationship; which can end at any point.

[Cadanance00]

I'm too young and immature to answer that question.

[ZzeWatermelon]

What she said.


Because this is one of those yes AND no questions, depending on the specifics on each case.

It depends on the problem, and if it's just a problem of getting noticed, then maybe.

But if the guy doesn't find you romantically interesting because of personality then no I don't think there is anything worth changing.

Like others have said before, there are situations where I think it's more harmful to pretend to be someone you're not, but I don't take that to mean an absolute policy, because I also believe in putting your best foot forward.

Dating is nothing more than marketing yourself to show what you got, and the other person should be doing the same, and you work you're way from there within the context of a relationship; which can end at any point.


What if the guy LOVES your personality and you share the same common points but physically he doesn't find you hot or anything like that...

[ashdyn]

How do you know what his "type" is? Lol

I thought I had a type too and all my previous GFs fit the mold but my girlfriend who I've been dating forever now isn't anything like what I thought my type was. Physically anyway.

I guess the best way around his "type" physically would be to show him your personality and connect with him on a more emotional level.

[Uniquemind]

How do you know what his "type" is? Lol

I thought I had a type too and all my previous GFs fit the mold but my girlfriend who I've been dating forever now isn't anything like what I thought my type was. Physically anyway.

I guess the best way around his "type" physically would be to show him your personality and connect with him on a more emotional level.

Which I want to point out is a bit weird to understand because society (including health class) tends to teach us that to get a guy interested is a visual medium not really an emotional one.

What if the guy LOVES your personality and you share the same common points but physically he doesn't find you hot or anything like that...

You move on with life. Perhaps he'll grow up, but perhaps you'll meet someone new.

Most people I think meet their first steady partner in their late teens or college years.

So don't lose hope on the concept of love, but don't get fixated on one person either.

[Uranus]

I don't believe that you can physically be his type if you're already not his type, but if you have a attitude and personality he likes/loves, then he really wouldn't care as much about your physical appearance as much.

[ZzeWatermelon]

I don't believe that you can physically be his type if you're already not his type, but if you have a attitude and personality he likes/loves, then he really wouldn't care as much about your physical appearance as much.

Yeah but for some guys personality is not enough.... And it SUCKS. :/