Cheating

[warbit]

Hypothetically (btw I'm not in this situation) if your gf/bf cheated on you while you were cheating on them, would it cancel out and you both agree to stop cheating or do you think that this is the end of the world? :wub:

[Elysium]

It depends on the relationship. Perhaps an open relationship would be fitting or perhaps the relationship should end altogether.

[Vanilla Cupcake]

I would think that it would cancel it out. Seems fair..
BTW I like your Nicolas Cage avatar!

[West Coast Sheriff]

It depends on how genuine the feelings are. I feel as if one person cheats they don't really love their partner. If both people cheat, they should head in separate directions. I can understand if both truly want to change their ways they can reconcile. However, it doesn't cancel out. Two wrongs don't make a right and retaliation only creates worse problems.

[Vanilla Cupcake]

It depends on how genuine the feelings are. I feel as if one person cheats they don't really love their partner. If both people cheat, they should head in separate directions. I can understand if both truly want to change their ways they can reconcile. However, it doesn't cancel out. Two wrongs don't make a right and retaliation only creates worse problems.

Your so right! I never thought of it that way. If your cheating on each other then you probably don't love each other that much or maybe you have out grown each other.

[Babs]

It wouldn't be fair for me to get mad at my bf/gf for doing the exact same thing I was doing. I would either cancel it out and agree to stop cheating, or break up. Whichever one I'd opt for would depend on other aspects of the relationship.

But that's just me. Other routes might be better for other people.

I wouldn't go as far as to say that people who cheat don't love their partner; I mean, sometimes that's the case, yes. Obviously it's a shitty thing to do, but I don't think it's that simple. Sometimes people do shitty things and hurt others, even people we love, but we can grow from it and learn to be better.

[Melodic]

I can't see myself ever cheating. Regardless, I'd consider it an unhealthy relationship and leave it.

[mattsmith48]

if both are cheating neither shoulld be mad at the other for cheating but it kinda means the relationship wont go anywhere

[maniamsmart]

if both are cheating neither shoulld be mad at the other for cheating but it kinda means the relationship wont go anywhere

Someone give this man a cookie.

Why is there a relationship even then? Sure it will cancel out I guess, but makes no sense to be in a relationship then.

[Emerald Dream]

I wouldn't necessarily say it cancels it out...probably more along the lines of making a bad situation even worse. In a lot of cases, a relationship is irreparable whether or not there is conscious retaliation. Not saying it isn't justified - but I think it's already past the point of no return. Meh, I guess that's a personal opinion. I think couples getting back together after there is cheating involved (whether it's one person or both) are probably only fooling themselves. I'm a pretty big believer in change (as far as behavioral tendencies go) only is temporary. Your partner may "change" to try and save a relationship, but eventually (whether it's next week, month, year) they'll always go back to the same bullshit.

[cra1g]

I could never cheat on someone personally, but if I was theoretically in this situation, then I wouldn't be mad at her for doing the same thing I was. I wouldn't stay with her though. If we were both cheating then that means that neither of us were satisfied with the relationship so we shouldn't be together and should go our separate ways.

[Zachary G]

If both partners cheat I think it would cancel each issue out, but I think it would open a new issue of if they should be together or not.

[everlong]

If they both cheat, I feel like there's a huge issue in the relationship. I don't think they would "cancel out".

[swimjoey1]

I don't think I will ever cheat. That is so wrong, if I lost the feeling with my partner. I would break up first before moving to someone else