Question for guys about cheating?

[Vanilla Cupcake]

If you were in a relationship and your GF messed around with another girl sexually would you be upset?
Would you consider that cheating?
Would you break up with her?

I'm interested what you all think about this.

[Vanilla Cupcake]

I would consider it cheating, we both know and agree with are only for eachother and no one else, and that would be cheating, not sure what id do, would really have to think about it

Thanks. I didn't do this, it was something that crossed my mind.
Like if a girl experimented with a girl one time, is it considered cheating.
I guess it is.

[everlong]

I'd consider it cheating

[Vermilion]

I guess I'd say it's cheating

[RiHouse]

If you were in a relationship and your GF messed around with another girl sexually would you be upset? I think I would. If she told me she wanted to do it, it wouldn't be as bad, but if she went out of her way to do it behind my back I'd be very upset I think.
Would you consider that cheating? ^^^
Would you break up with her? Possibly. If I truly though that she was sorry about it then I wouldn't break up with her.

[SillyShyGuy]

[QUOTE=Vanilla Cupcake;3302685]
If you were in a relationship and your girlfriend messed around with another girl sexually would you be upset? With a girl? No because I would be curious haha. I would find it really kinky and plus she cannot get pregos from a girl as Ellen DeGeneres said.
Would you consider that cheating? It is still cheating. But I would see it more like experimenting. If I was jerking off with my dude friends would she it as cheating as well? I mean this is not the same as if she cheated with another guy.
Would you break up with her? No. I would just ask her why she did it or continues to do it. If I was a guy, however, I would break up with her.

[Darrysisland]

Yeah I would probably consider it cheating :/ I'd want to just be with my partner and them just to be with me. I like to make people feel special and wanted and hope they would me too ^_^

[mattsmith48]

If you were in a relationship and your GF messed around with another girl sexually would you be upset?
Would you consider that cheating?
Would you break up with her?

I'm interested what you all think about this.

I would be mad I wasnt part of it or atlease watching
For the cheating part let me ask you something, If you were in a relationship and your BF messed around with another guy sexually would you be upset? Personally I think it depends like they did and/or if im a part it, or able to watch it.

[Vanilla Cupcake]

I would be mad I wasnt part of it or atlease watching
For the cheating part let me ask you something, If you were in a relationship and your BF messed around with another guy sexually would you be upset? Personally I think it depends like they did and/or if im a part it, or able to watch it.

As for me being upset, I think I would be but if it was just a one time thing, silly experimenting then I think I would be ok as long as he was sure it wouldn't happen again.

[PinkFloyd]

I've actually thought about this a lot and it worries me. If my girlfriend messed around with another girl and I knew her and I knew there wasn't an emotional connection, I'd be fine with it. However, if the same thing happened with a guy, I would be in shambles.

[Uniquemind]

This makes me question if the premise behind a majority of guys fear of cheating comes from the animalistic kingdom's urge to prevent their "mate" being fertilized and produce offspring by another competing male.

Obviously there are exceptions where the concept of violation of the emotional bonds is what a guy might be primarily upset about, but from this thread's responses and all the jokes or actual "girl-girl-guy" threesomes that are eluded too in our modern culture both in media or from people we actually know who admit or were busted....

Anybody want to tackle this expanded topic? Guys is there any truth in what I said?

[maniamsmart]

My girlfriend likes to tease and mess around with other girls in a playful way, it doesn't bother me really that much because I know she loves me, we've been together for 4 years, and if she does do something she lets me know. Now, messing around sexually I guess does not equal teasing and messing around in a playful way, so would I consider it cheating? Yes, if I wasn't informed about it, wasn't given a reason for it, or wasn't involved.

I wouldn't break up though.

[Vanilla Cupcake]

I've actually thought about this a lot and it worries me. If my girlfriend messed around with another girl and I knew her and I knew there wasn't an emotional connection, I'd be fine with it. However, if the same thing happened with a guy, I would be in shambles.

I kind of think your right. For some reason I feel like if girls mess around, it's somewhat innocent, but if a guy does it, why does it seem weird?
Is it because girls are just playful and guys are more serious?
I can't quite get out what I'm thinking. :rolleyes:

[maniamsmart]

I kind of think your right. For some reason I feel like if girls mess around, it's somewhat innocent, but if a guy does it, why does it seem weird?
Is it because girls are just playful and guys are more serious?
I can't quite get out what I'm thinking. :rolleyes:

The same reason why girls kissing in the hallways, or hugging in the hallways at schol, will never be a thing for guys.

Society norms have been formulated by... well society, and it's what generations have grown up accepting I guess, especially even more so now with social media and memes.

[Zachary G]

If you were in a relationship and your GF messed around with another girl sexually would you be upset?
Would you consider that cheating?
Would you break up with her?

I'm interested what you all think about this.

If I were in a committed relationship with someone and they messed around with someone else, yes I would be upset and I would consider it cheating, which could be grounds for break up.

[cra1g]

I think I would be upset if she tried to hide it from me or if it was an emotional experience as well. However if we were hanging out with a friend of hers and they suggested that they wanted to experiment and were going to let me watch then I would be okay with it. Also if it just happened one time and she came clean to me about it then I wouldn't be too upset as long as it didn't mean anything to her. But, if it was happening more than once then I would definitely be upset.

I wouldn't break up with her unless she was hiding it from me or she was doing it more than once.

[Bull]

If it is a committed relationship, sex with anyone other than me would be cheating. If it is not a committed relationship no problem.

[mcdaniels]

To be honest, in my opinion no I wouldn't... Like if the tables were turned on me I'd enjoy masturbating or giving oral to a friend and receiving.. But as long as it stays as friends.. Maybe I'm wrong but that's just my opinion

[PinkFloyd]

I kind of think your right. For some reason I feel like if girls mess around, it's somewhat innocent, but if a guy does it, why does it seem weird?
Is it because girls are just playful and guys are more serious?
I can't quite get out what I'm thinking. :rolleyes:

Yeah, I think in girls just like to mess around with other girls and that's fine. But yeah, if a guy does it, then it's a definite no, which is fine by me.

[Uniquemind]

Yeah, I think in girls just like to mess around with other girls and that's fine. But yeah, if a guy does it, then it's a definite no, which is fine by me.

But can you go farther to explain that double-standard.

I also can't help but think maybe bi-sexual individuals would feel differently.

[LanaPole]

i would choose an open relationship to avoid the trouble

[Cadanance00]

For some reason it doesn't seem to bother me if it's with a girl. I think girls are made bisexual anyway.

[Sports Boy]

I had a long term girlfriend and I cheated on her by being with another guy. Cheating is cheating and it can't be rationalized by saying it was with a different sex. I was in bed with someone other than my girlfriend. So, if she did it to me, I'd be upset and probably break up with her. Obviously, if she cheated, I wasn't giving her something she really needed. Same as in my case. Although she never found out, I ended the relationship a short time after I cheated.

[PinkFloyd]

But can you go farther to explain that double-standard.

I also can't help but think maybe bi-sexual individuals would feel differently.

Bisexual individuals would definitely feel differently, and it is a double standard. It's also my own point of view that I was a little reluctant to admit.

[AutumnWinds]

If you were in a relationship and your GF messed around with another girl sexually would you be upset?
Would you consider that cheating?
Would you break up with her?

I'm interested what you all think about this.

i think the big thing is honesty here. most guys i've known would not have a problem with this at all if a girl told them what was going on up front. :P the thing is when you do it behind their back it puts things in a whole other light, and not only makes it hurtful, but makes them wonder if you're hiding anything else. :wub:

that's actually true of a lot of things now that i think about it.