Being openly bi - some concerns...

[chickenwaffles]

I recently came to terms with being bi. I don't even know if I'm totally bi, because maybe it might be my complete lack of sexual experiences that are urging me to explore different things. I have never even kissed anyone. I'm 19 now, but was a late bloomer, puberty-wise (sexually, physically, etc..)

Anyway, my question is for the girls out there: Would you date a guy who was openly bi?

[paul955]

Sorry, not a girl, but saw this post was unanswered and felt you deserved a reply from someone. Congrats on coming to terms! Once you start experiencing different things your might notice that you sexuality might start to sway toward one sex or the other.

I personally don't know if I could date a guy who's bi, simply because of the fear that the probably of him cheating on me is doubled (cause he's interested in both sexes). I'm sure a lot of girls would also have that fear in the back of their heads, so that's something you should think about and get out in the open to a girl that might be interested in you.

[Bull]

I am a guy and in a committed relationship with a guy. In no way would I cheat on him with a guy or girl. I have been in a committed relationship with a girl before and felt the same when with her.

[Desuetude]

I personally don't know if I could date a guy who's bi, simply because of the fear that the probably of him cheating on me is doubled (cause he's interested in both sexes). I'm sure a lot of girls would also have that fear in the back of their heads, so that's something you should think about and get out in the open to a girl that might be interested in you.
Personally I think that that 'fear' is pretty stupid. If someone's going to cheat on you, they will. Just because there are more people in their pool of interests that doesn't mean they're more likely to cheat at all. The two factors are barely relatable and I don't see why people try to relate them.

OP, I know a couple of people who are openly bi and are in long term relationships. Their sexuality doesn't cause trouble in the relationship at all. One of my best friends is with a girl and hes quite a character so the only thing that has to do with him being bi is the banter between him and his other guy friends and its just a laugh. Hes completely infatuated with his girlfriend and wouldn't even consider cheating on her because that's his personality.

It shouldnt matter what your sexuality is. You shouldn't feel pressured to come out to your partner but sharing it with them shows that you trust them and should bring you closer. Personally I wouldn't care. When you're in a relationship sexuality doesn't really matter because there's only one person you're with, if you see where I'm coming from.

[Laibachd]

are you kidding? bi boys are the best ^^

[amgb]

Glad to hear that you've come to terms with your sexuality:) This is a tough thing to discover and accept. It's not something that you can fully and completely be sure of, and it's okay to not know. You will find the right person when the time is right~

Me personally, I'd date an openly bi guy. I'd date anyone regardless of their sexuality; their sexual attractions and experiences are only a tiny small part of something much bigger that's most important to me; their personality and the way they treat me. As long as they are a trustworthy person, I'd date them~

[DoodleSnap]

Personally I think that that 'fear' is pretty stupid. If someone's going to cheat on you, they will. Just because there are more people in their pool of interests that doesn't mean they're more likely to cheat at all. The two factors are barely relatable and I don't see why people try to relate them.

OP, I know a couple of people who are openly bi and are in long term relationships. Their sexuality doesn't cause trouble in the relationship at all. One of my best friends is with a girl and hes quite a character so the only thing that has to do with him being bi is the banter between him and his other guy friends and its just a laugh. Hes completely infatuated with his girlfriend and wouldn't even consider cheating on her because that's his personality.

It shouldnt matter what your sexuality is. You shouldn't feel pressured to come out to your partner but sharing it with them shows that you trust them and should bring you closer. Personally I wouldn't care. When you're in a relationship sexuality doesn't really matter because there's only one person you're with, if you see where I'm coming from.
This is good advice.

Anyway - I would argue that even the pool of potential partners isn't all that expanded, because it's harder to find guys that are interested in guys than it is girls that are interested in guys.

Also, to the OP: I'm openly Bi and I have dated girls before. There's no stopping you: just be yourself, and if someone doesn't wanna date you, then they aren't worth it.

[Harrier]

are you kidding? bi boys are the best ^^

Just curious why you feel that way?

[hesaidhesaid]

You shouldn't have any concerns about who you are. In addition, it always takes time to decide who you really are. For me for example, it took nearly three years to work it out officially- and it still evolves quite a bit. Do not be concerned but rather work with it and see how you go. I ain't a girl but I'd say that's what a lot of girls (at least ones I know) would most likely say about that kind of issue.

[Karkat]

I am dating a guy who is bi. I'm bi myself so I guess that's not a huge surprise but, yeah.

[ska8er]

I don't know y many girls r not answering this
post but I am straight curious in a relationship
with a girl that says she is the same. I have ex-
perimented with my best friend and she has with
hers but we r Not open bout this to others-(I know
I have not been)-but only to ourselves usually during
mutual getting off-if that adds to the experience.
I know it does for me. Im confused by it all.

Anyway how does one find someone who is going
to openly say they r openly Bi?

[Laibachd]

Just curious why you feel that way?

I just think they are overall more open (sexually speaking), and more active in bed ^^

[Zachary G]

well, not a girl, but a gay guy who dated a bi-guy and it was okay as long as he was committed and exclusive to me and didnt cheat on me with a girl. we had an understanding and we stuck to it. so, I think as long as you are open about your feelings and discuss things, you should not have a problem in an relationship you engage in.

[Harrier]

I just think they are overall more open (sexually speaking), and more active in bed ^^

hmmm idk if that's true, I have no experience :D but it sounds sorta bogus to me imo. Maybe more active then a virgin but not an active hetero ... but who knows, just my 2 cents

[Laibachd]

hmmm idk if that's true, I have no experience :D but it sounds sorta bogus to me imo. Maybe more active then a virgin but not an active hetero ... but who knows, just my 2 cents

That's what i can say based on my experience :D

[Lachy]

Openly bi guy here,

I have no issue with getting attention from girls, in fact I find it easier than when I was in the closet. I don't know if that is because I am more confident now, or because of some other reason

[SethfromMI]

I am a guy but I am openly bi with my gf. she knows I would never cheat on her so she does not have a problem with it.