Does this make me bisexual?

[nicole18]

I am attracted to men. I love everything about them. I masturbate fantasizing about them I have dreams about guys constantly.interest in guys. And I really really have a lot of sexual urges and interest. My family is religious and so am I sort of but I have a lot of sexual feelings that I can't help I watch porn and I masturbate and it's not enough. I have been working at this place well volunteering. And have become friends with a woman that works there who has a major crush on me. She has actually a boyfriend and dates men only so I guess she's bisexual. Anyhow well we've not had sex but we've made out and stuff. It got more intense between the last week and we've seen each other partially undressed sexted and last night she ended up fingering me. I have a desire to do it with someone mostly though I've been dating a guy I want badly to get in bed with but we've been seeing each other not even a week yet. So I don't want to look bad. I don't feel like it's a bad thing that I am doing. I get aroused when I make out with her but it's not as much and it's more like if anything she would do but I'd rather be with a guy. But does this make me bi?? Or not? I preferably would rather be with a guy I just don't want to get caught or seem like a slut.... I'm also a virgin. And I'm 17.

[Elysium]

Puberty for Girls :arrow: Teen Sexuality & Gender

[nicole18]

Puberty for Girls :arrow: Teen Sexuality & Gender

I was actually asking in this section because I thought my sexuality had to do with it maybe....

[Elysium]

I was actually asking in this section because I thought my sexuality had to do with it maybe....
I think a discussion about your sexuality fits in our Sexuality section more than a Puberty section. Not that the two aren't related, but for organizational purposes, we want to put it in the most fitting section possible.

Anyway, I don't want to get too off-topic, so if you have any more questions about this, please feel free to PM me. :)

[nicole18]

advice? anyone?

[UNKNOWN8198]

You need to decide whether you are sexually attracted to her, or just enjoy making out with her, because those are 2 different things. If you are bisexual, it is because you are sexually attracted to both binary genders (male/female), and could potentially see yourself having sex with either gender. If you only want to be in a relationship with a guy, but not girl, but would have sex with either, then you could be a 'hetero-romantic bisexual'. For example, I fully identify as a bi-romantic homosexual, because I would happily be in a relationship with anyone, but would only be intimate sexually with a guy.

If this is just you experimenting though, then you need to think whether it is the act that makes you aroused, or the person doing the act. If it is just the act in this case, then you are probably not bisexual, but just experimenting. Also think about doing it with other people as well, not just the woman where you volunteer, and see what difference that makes. The fact that you think/know she has a crush on you may alter your feelings towards her, so think about people who you don't really know.

[nicole18]

You need to decide whether you are sexually attracted to her, or just enjoy making out with her, because those are 2 different things. If you are bisexual, it is because you are sexually attracted to both binary genders (male/female), and could potentially see yourself having sex with either gender. If you only want to be in a relationship with a guy, but not girl, but would have sex with either, then you could be a 'hetero-romantic bisexual'. For example, I fully identify as a bi-romantic homosexual, because I would happily be in a relationship with anyone, but would only be intimate sexually with a guy.

If this is just you experimenting though, then you need to think whether it is the act that makes you aroused, or the person doing the act. If it is just the act in this case, then you are probably not bisexual, but just experimenting. Also think about doing it with other people as well, not just the woman where you volunteer, and see what difference that makes. The fact that you think/know she has a crush on you may alter your feelings towards her, so think about people who you don't really know.

Well yeah it was definitely what she was doing. Though I wouldn't mind fingering her. To me it would be a lot like masturbating. I like what she did but she's not the ideal person I'd want to do that. In general girls I don't really notice anymore than just a comparison but not sexually normally.

[mcdaniels]

I dunno I think it makes you bicurious.. I find myself in a similar position to you.. I'm 17, but have a girlfriend for 7 months now... I'm nearly sure I can see myself with her all my life but one thing I've always wanted to do is have sex with a guy friend or even masturbate or have oral sex together.. I've never seen any of my friends dicks but everyone in my school knows about mine and it's big size so I kinda feel jealous I haven't seen many other people's... But I think you're the same as me. You want to try it but wanna probably marry the opposite sex..

[EmmaButler]

I guess it takes a while to be sure. I've only realised I'm definitely bi in the last few months.

[Zachary G]

Id say you might be bi-curious and definitely sexually attracted to her because of what youve done, but maybe not romantically attracted to her. If you want to find out for sure, and you are comfortable with it, then you should keep the experimenting up and that will help you decide what your true feelings are.

[BabyGMarie]

I kindaa believe this makes you bicurious but it don't really make u bi cuss your just expieriencing but u need to find out if your sexually attracted to her or not.

[JessiF]

I think you are just enjoying the physical attraction. Especially if normally you dont even look at girls. So I would just enjoy it and make sure she understands its no strings attached.

[DoodleSnap]

Well, I'd wager that you're somewhere in between on the sexuality spectrum, which is fairly common these days: 1 in 2 Young People say they aren't Straight (https://yougov.co.uk/news/2015/08/16/half-young-not-heterosexual/)

Being bi, gay, or whatever is totally normal, and in fact, scientifically recognised as being common. Some people would even suggest that most of us are a little bit bi, whether we choose to recognise it or not. Don't let your family or your peers tell you any different.